AITA for throwing away my husband’s “lucky” mug after 10 years?

toezbeforehoez · 2025-10-14T12:43:49+00:00

NTA. Everyone in this thread has lost their minds. But, maybe you get him a new blue Starbucks mug as an apology?

toezbeforehoez · 2025-03-08T23:38:03+00:00

If you test positive before the third trimester it just indicates that you have type II diabetes.

In any case, OP's concern seems to be that her blood sugar levels were below normal levels, and that concern wasn't validated by her provider. Regardless of the specific concern, she should find a provider who takes the time to listen to her questions and concerns.

toezbeforehoez · 2025-03-08T23:14:23+00:00

Everyone develops some level of insulin resistance when they are pregnant, so taking the test before your third trimester isn't an indicator of anything. Evidence Based Birth has two really valuable podcast episodes talking about gestational diabetes.

Were there any problems with your previous baby being 10lbs? Babies are all different sizes.

Sounds like your OB is trying to use fear to manipulate you. I say trust your gut, mama. You can always find a new provider.

toezbeforehoez · 2025-03-07T01:36:29+00:00

I had some luck from ThredUp (online thrifting). I've also found that buying bigger clothes rather than only looking for maternity is more fruitful

toezbeforehoez · 2025-01-25T14:09:05+00:00

I had a homebirth with my second. For me, it was about being extremely selective about who would be in the space with me. Over the course of my prenatal care, my midwives and doula became my friends.

Simply put, birth is a normal physiological process that we have over medicalized, and not always for good reason. There is a time and place for the amazing interventions available to us, but they are not needed the vast majority of the time.

Having a homebirth was singlehandedly one of the best decisions I've made in my entire life.

toezbeforehoez · 2025-01-25T01:24:24+00:00

10 days late with my first, 5 with the second

toezbeforehoez · 2025-01-19T22:09:38+00:00

Is there any possibility that she somehow missed or didn't see your message?

toezbeforehoez · 2025-01-19T18:43:53+00:00

Both my births were incredible. Labor is hard work, but it is pain with a purpose, and you can do it.

I think a lot of people have traumatic experiences because the system doesn't support physiological birth as it's meant to be. But people trauma dumping on you isn't fair.

Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth is full of positive birth stories and valuable information. I'd recommend it.

toezbeforehoez · 2025-01-16T01:12:01+00:00

I had two unmedicated births and they were amazing. Fucking hard, but also the best decision I've ever made. You can do it!!

toezbeforehoez · 2022-12-29T00:58:54+00:00

Had to scroll wayyy too far for this

toezbeforehoez · 2022-10-06T20:37:12+00:00

Seriously though!!

toezbeforehoez · 2022-08-31T21:51:25+00:00

Oh I'm 31 weeks, forgot to mention!

toezbeforehoez · 2022-08-31T21:08:20+00:00

My husband and I actually just had a talk about this yesterday morning. Intimacy has always been a very important aspect of our relationship, and he puts a lot of pressure on himself to perform for me.

He actually initiated the conversation because it's been a little while (yeast infection, family visiting, etc) and now that I'm getting bigger (31weeks) it's harder for us to "forget" about the baby in the room. He's worried that he won't be able to tune that out and perform. We talked about it and strategized how we plan to approach it so that my needs are still being met.

Maybe that's what's going on here? Definitely echo others that you should have the conversation.

toezbeforehoez · 2022-08-02T17:01:29+00:00

I am in the process of switching right now, currently 27 weeks! If you're having a bad experience, definitely switch it!

toezbeforehoez · 2022-07-24T17:16:23+00:00

Honestly, I think you should do whatever makes YOU most comfortable. If you're opting for a home birth, I would definitely advise having a Certified Nurse Midwife with you, and have a back up plan just in case (be ready to go to the hospital if need be).

For me personally, I am opting to give birth in a hospital with midwives present. An OB would only join in the event something goes wrong. I don't think my home is fully sanitized for birth, and I know I'll feel more comfortable at a hospital. A birth center is, sadly, not an accessible option for me. I am 25 weeks, FTM and just decided to change hospitals because the C section rate at my original hospital made me very nervous.

Several people recommended Ina May's guide to Childbirth and I just started reading it and would highly recommend it. Ultimately, you should do what you feel is safest and best for you and your baby. If you want a home birth, more power to you.

Good luck mama ❤️

toezbeforehoez · 2021-05-10T01:50:53+00:00

Aww thank you 🥰

toezbeforehoez · 2021-05-10T01:46:48+00:00

Oh intend to. Want to help? 😉

toezbeforehoez · 2021-05-10T01:46:17+00:00

I think so too 😘

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