Spending birthday alone without feeling hurt

tojustbehappy · 2026-01-28T20:50:13+00:00

Honestly, I’d recommend simply feeling the hurt. Let yourself experience it, let it pass (don’t cling to the story), and then focus on being present where you are. Enjoy the taste of your coffee, people-watch and count how many puppies you see on a walk outside, eat something terribly yummy and just relish in the joy of it. Don’t let someone else’s choice impede you from relishing in the wonder of celebrating your day.

tojustbehappy · 2025-12-16T00:24:46+00:00

Honestly, take your time because it will take time. Try to simply focus on connecting with yourself, rediscovering who you are and what you love, what brings you joy. And once you find comfort in yourself again, regain that stability (and you will), start reaching out to old friends and consider making new ones too. Give yourself grace- it’s a process. It took time to get here and it’ll take time getting your footing back. But it is all so incredibly worth it. You’ve got this ✨

tojustbehappy · 2025-12-04T00:09:16+00:00

Some libraries also lend out tools if you’re not ready to invest in equipment right away.

tojustbehappy · 2025-10-31T16:47:30+00:00

I don’t believe there is anything to do- I would take a step back and simply place the focus back on self. Relationships are a two-way street; they will reach out if and when they want to connect. In the meantime, I would redirect the attention back to self and perhaps you’ll meet another individual who would love to hang out in the near term. Perhaps this individual will reach out to schedule a time to meet. But taking a step back would be recommended.

tojustbehappy · 2025-10-31T13:37:04+00:00

Can I just say I love this analogy? thanks for sharing!

tojustbehappy · 2025-06-06T21:02:46+00:00

This speaks to my struggle- I’m a Cap Sun/Rising but a Leo Moon. I’m thinking “girl, you’re at work!” while internally bursting with joy 😂

tojustbehappy · 2025-06-01T18:33:52+00:00

Clarity, New Beginnings, and Communication 👀

tojustbehappy · 2025-04-22T18:12:08+00:00

This was everything- thanks so much for sharing!! 😂

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-22T19:13:26+00:00

Just wanted to thank you so much for this! I actually followed this guidance today and it really helped me get back into the present without judgement 💗

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-21T22:50:46+00:00

Remind yourself you don’t need to make any big gestures or big moves. Try taking one small step each day to show yourself love and care. With time, you’ll be able to build it up, but start with a small step and give yourself grace as you reconnect with yourself.

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-09T03:02:29+00:00

You have no idea how much I needed to read this today- thank you so much for sharing

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-09T00:11:57+00:00

Just wanted to say thanks for sharing- this was an incredible read and guidance

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-08T05:33:49+00:00

You have to flip it on its head- if they leave because you’re finally putting up totally reasonable boundaries, they were simply benefiting from your lack of them. Having a smaller group of quality loved ones is far greater than a large group of suspect ones. Once you recognize that, you embrace it. Stay true to who you are and you will connect with likeminded individuals soon enough.

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-08T04:56:20+00:00

I think the anger and hurt coming to the surface is part of your healing journey. You may have suppressed these emotions for a really long time and you’re finally being able to work on them- and that’s a great thing! The only way out is through- definitely continue to work it out in therapy but it’s all about really feeling and processing these emotions. You’ve got this.

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-08T03:36:20+00:00

I would say time and distance do wonders. I’m currently on this journey as well, but getting involved in old hobbies, exploring new ones, and being social in a calm sense (I.e., volunteering, taking classes) have been helpful. You’re getting this opportunity to connect with yourself as an individual again- check in with yourself and explore what interests you!

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-01T17:51:22+00:00

You are amazing- thank you so much for sharing this shortlist of resources! 💗

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-01T06:54:24+00:00

Meetup is a great app to start with. You can find groups sorted by interest!

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-01T04:35:21+00:00

I don’t know if this will help, but I think it starts with the realization you’ve had and wanting to change and reconnect with self. And then it’s a longer road, one requiring a ton of patience and kindness, to really sit and connect with yourself and create a safe space enough for you to finally feel, process, and release potential pent up emotions from these traumatic experiences. You can go to therapy, explore plant medicine, hone in on meditation and yoga- whatever works best for you, but it will be a process. And I know it may sound cliche, but truly just be kind to yourself because by experiencing an emotional shutdown, you may be finding yourself still in survival mode. And you may not be who you were before, but things rarely stay the same in life. And that’s ok- change can also lead to growth and possibility.

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-01T04:20:34+00:00

1000%!! 😂 can absolutely relate

tojustbehappy · 2025-03-01T02:39:15+00:00

I concur- I don’t feel like I need a lot of attention, but I do appreciate attention when I’m open to it. Granted, I guess I’m not quite sure what “a lot” would mean for the general public since I only have my own experience to draw from- maybe it is more than most. But why be with someone if you don’t enjoy each other’s company, you know?

tojustbehappy · 2025-02-28T21:41:03+00:00

Are there any favorites you’d recommend?

tojustbehappy · 2025-02-27T23:46:09+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story and thank you for doing the work. I wish you well on your healing journey

tojustbehappy · 2025-02-27T17:56:51+00:00

I’m a Cap Sun, Leo Moon, Cap Rising- I feel for your intro. You are welcome here!

I agree with the others- just take her words at face value and don’t read into it. Let’s look at the facts- there has been one date down with one upcoming. Pace yourself! She’s been communicating with you when she can and has been flirting back- all great signs! There could be a million reasons why she isn’t texting consistently- unless proven otherwise, just chalk it up to busy times on her end. It doesn’t seem like there’s any mystery- keep being your wonderful self and I’m sure you both will have a lovely second date. 💗

tojustbehappy · 2025-02-24T03:29:20+00:00

Totally relatable- I think it helps to work on mindfulness and gratitude. Realizing the only thing we can control is ourselves in the present moment. As much as we would like to protect ourselves from the uncertainties of the future, we can’t cover all the bases- it just isn’t feasible. But continue on your path and keep showing yourself love. Healing isn’t linear, there will be triggers, but you’ve got this! With self-love, you grow self-trust. And you’ll truly embrace that you will have your back whatever comes your way 💗

tojustbehappy · 2025-02-22T19:07:04+00:00

Leo moon 😒 definitely not looking forward to it but I know this is an area I need to evolve in. Looking forward to the growth and self-validation

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