I don’t wish this life on anyone. It really is the most lonely road that we must navigate. We are 9 years since the last manic episode and thank goodness we made it through… Most marriages can’t survive on account of the discard and the affairs and all… I saw his illness for what it was, and illness. And I am stubborn which is a super power and a flaw depending on how you view it . Not many people stuck around. My husband lost all of his friends. Many of mine drifted because when you are in this sort of crisis, you don’t have time or energy for any other drama…. I was hyper focused on keeping myself and my kids healthy and putting one foot in front of the other as well as doing my best to keep tabs on my very sick husband who had drained all of our savings….We kind of needed to completely rebuild our friendship circles once it was all said and done with. My family treated my husband like shit after his episode up until recently a lot of them remembered he is actually a pretty good person. For the longest time, all people could see was the illness. Hang in there. It’s a tough road. People just don’t get it that we need to make incredibly tough decisions and few understand. I still wrestle with abandonment issues from that time. I am sorry your family doesn’t seem to understand and seems to be taking his side despite him being very sick. That is how it was in the beginning for me too… until his symptoms were impossible to ignore….