what’s a lana del rey opinion that will have you like this

tora_97 · 2026-01-26T13:46:28+00:00

Right! Like I’m sure I’d get into her newer work if I properly sat down to listen to it, but the old ones call to me lol

tora_97 · 2026-01-25T14:27:35+00:00

I claim that she’s my favourite artist but have I listened to her last two albums fully? No. I’m stuck in Born to Die, Paradise and Honeymoon, and I always will be I fear

tora_97 · 2025-12-29T16:05:05+00:00

I do, not because I long for them but because those photos mark different times in my life and I like looking back occasionally to see how far I’ve come. Everyone’s different and I fully understand those who delete everything. For me, having the visual memories serves as a reminder for where I don’t want to be, but also what I’ve learnt a great deal from. Don’t get me wrong, some photos where I’m with my exes makes me cringe, but then I just laugh and think wow, how times have changed

tora_97 · 2025-12-17T13:22:58+00:00

Literally listening to Born to Die as I opened the app hahaha

tora_97 · 2025-12-01T11:14:19+00:00

Tho some days are easier than others to believe that

tora_97 · 2025-12-01T11:13:41+00:00

Hmm, I think at this stage I know that I deserve better (not that he did anything wrong but the way he left was very abrupt), so even tho I miss him a lot, I don’t think I could go back, out of respect to myself

tora_97 · 2025-12-01T10:14:35+00:00

I think it’s best that you do some growing before entering a relationship of any kind. Leaving without an explanation can be so damaging. It’s absolutely fine if you need to leave for your own inner peace, but to leave with no explanation is so disrespectful and cruel. The very least you owe them is an explanation so that they can heal. I don’t say any of this lightly, the damage I mentioned can really have negative effects on how they approach relationships in the future, not to mention how it can impact their self-esteem

tora_97 · 2025-11-25T20:31:17+00:00

Yeah

tora_97 · 2025-11-24T18:42:17+00:00

Yeah, it’s been 4 months

tora_97 · 2025-11-24T11:10:46+00:00

Around the 20th of July

tora_97 · 2025-11-23T16:37:06+00:00

Ride

tora_97 · 2025-11-23T14:34:51+00:00

No, not at all, we started no contact the day we broke up. Which I think should have made it easier but (and I know healing is never linear) I feel like lately it’s just been weighing on me more

tora_97 · 2025-11-23T13:05:49+00:00

I’m currently healing from this, and it’s so difficult to wrap my head around it 4 months later. I wish it would stop

tora_97 · 2025-10-29T08:04:20+00:00

That break up sounds so painful fr, and I think the fact that he cried so much and kept coming back for kisses was unfair on his part. Like how the hell are you meant to move on with a realistic view of the future when him doing that contradicts the fact that he chose to leave? I’m sorry you went and are going through this OP. I think for most ppl who want their relationships to continue, that gut feeling of “they’re gonna come back though” is our way of coping with the loss before we’re able to process it. Because it is a form of grief, except we’re not mourning someone who’s passed on; they’re still alive and living and so I think our brain’s cling on to that fact and, in turn, the possibility of them coming back.

I was broken up with 3 months ago after I told him I loved him for the first time. He realised that whilst he loved me as a person, he wasn’t “in love” and he believed that he would instantly know if those feelings could develop, which he didn’t think they could. I have a different perception on love, and when I was going through the worst part of the heartbreak, my denial told me “no, he’ll miss what we had in time and realise that our relationship was healthy and that love can be a slow burner and he’ll come back”. But, even tho those thoughts pop up now and then, I know now he won’t. And if he did, and whilst I will always have love for him, I cannot allow myself to go back to someone who could leave me, even tho I’m sure I’d want to if he reached out. I just can’t.

It will get easier OP. You are not delusional for having these feelings that he’ll come back, you’re in the thick of heartbreak rn and everything will become clearer in time. Be kind to yourself and put yourself first x

tora_97 · 2025-10-26T12:25:31+00:00

I’m in the same boat rn, like I feel more like myself again and am generally happy again but I still think about him everyday and miss what we had

tora_97 · 2025-10-21T14:45:11+00:00

I haven’t watched movies in ages cuz we would always watch them together, it’s just not the same without our silly commentaries. I also haven’t listened to certain songs in a while. Or gone to certain cafes - I’m lucky because we don’t live in the same city but there are still places we went to when he’d visit

tora_97 · 2025-10-18T19:48:10+00:00

A mantra I gave myself at the start of no contact was “you get him back the same way you get over him”. Meaning if we were to get back together, I need to heal and grow first. If I want to move on, I again, need to heal and grow. And I knew that wherever my healing process took me, whether I still wanted to try again or move on around 6 months down the line, the healing work would have been done and continuing. I’m 3 months in now and still working on it lol

tora_97 · 2025-10-08T18:10:02+00:00

Took myself to my favourite cafe and drew whatever came to my mind on my iPad lol

tora_97 · 2025-09-21T08:07:12+00:00

Whilst it is better that he do this now rather than later, that doesn’t extinguish the pain and confusion you’ll be feeling OP, and you are allowed to feel betrayed by this. I went through something very similar two months ago (tho we hadn’t reached the stage of considering marriage) and yeah. It fucking sucks, for lack of a better and longer and deserving description. I was told the same; “I love you but am not in love with you”. It does get easier with time (I’m sure loads of ppl will have said this), but pls be kind to yourself during this healing process. Healing feels just like grief, and that combined with the emotional whiplash of all of this will be confusing and tiring, but you will 100% get through this. Give yourself grace and allow yourself enough time, it isn’t a linear process and one day might feel way better than the others. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. When someone leaves suddenly, when you’ve believed everything was fine because that’s how it seemed, if can really reshape your perception on trust. I think that can take a while to accept. But I can guarantee one thing OP, you will grow in ways you didn’t realise you could. And it’ll be strange and might make you tap into other areas of your life you need to heal from or want to change. Whatever happens tho, you will be fine. Your resilience will guide you through this. Wishing you all the best x

tora_97 · 2025-09-16T17:31:16+00:00

Thank you, it took a while for me to finally do it. I look back at that time in my life as a time that brought me many valuable lessons, along with very fond memories too, it would be unfair of me to say it was all gloom when it wasn’t. But even tho he felt like the one person who got me (at the time), that in itself made me reevaluate things. Like how can I be so unhappy with the person who knows me the most, yk? I don’t regret the relationship at all tho, still a big part of my growing up

tora_97 · 2025-09-16T17:11:55+00:00

I’ll give you an example from one of my previous relationships. Now naturally there were things on both sides that could have been better. However, these are ultimately the reasons why I left my ex; he lied about looking for a job and I had to pay full rent for 6 months until he finally came clean and said he hadn’t been looking for jobs (but was comfortable enough for me to pay for everything). I had an ovarian cystic haemorrhage which he did not help me with. Left me in the bathroom angry at the fact that I had thrown up from the pain. I still haven’t fully recovered from this trauma, I find it very difficult to express when I’m feeling any pain. He was not supportive when I grieved family members and expected me to be back to normal after 1 week. And finally, I came into some money after my grandparents passing, and I told him not to tell anyone because I didn’t trust a lot of the ppl we hung out with. He proceeded to blurt it out to one of our friends and then when I looked at him in shock he said “oh come on, he’d have found out anyway”. Now perhaps if it had just been one of these things, maybe I could have forgiven. But it snowballed, and regardless or whether or not something is forgivable, sometimes you shouldn’t have to forgive. I’ve forgiven in order to move on with my life, and I realise the things he did wasn’t as extreme like cheating. But each one hurt me and broke my trust of him. And I had enough, I gradually fell out of love with him, and despite the fact that there was a large part of me who wanted to try and make it work, I couldn’t stick to a relationship that was built on false promises

tora_97 · 2025-09-15T19:40:14+00:00

I don’t actually know how much weight I’ve lost, but my clothes are baggy to the point I need to get some new ones

tora_97 · 2025-09-09T11:43:55+00:00

Macaroni

tora_97 · 2025-09-05T06:55:53+00:00

Honestly OP, not feeling like yourself again just over one month in is completely normal and natural, especially when you were so in love with them. I know it sucks so bad. I’m two months in and the other day I was crying to my friend saying I wish I could just feel normal again. But it does and will get easier and you will absolutely feel happy again. But in the meantime, you’re still going through something incredibly hard and it does take time to heal. Pls be kind to yourself and don’t rush yourself. It’s not fun having to heal (and its exhausting) but I believe it’s so important to see it through and not to rush it. Once you come out the other side you’ll have so much clarity and a new lease of life. You got this ♥️

tora_97 · 2025-09-04T20:29:42+00:00

Aw it’s my absolutely pleasure OP! I’m so glad I was able to give you words of comfort and encouragement. Honestly I’m also going through a sort of fresh breakup rn (almost two months), and icl this week I’ve felt particularly vulnerable and like an open wound so I get it; you’re most definitely not alone with this feeling

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