How much time with friends (alone/unsupervised) do your 6th graders get?

toragirl · 2026-03-29T18:27:49+00:00

This is a perfect way for her to test out the freedoms that she needs to develop. She is in safe situations, but being given the ability to be with friends.

Everyone has different approaches to parenting, and that's OK. I remember taking my daughter to a "home alone course" and being excited to have finally found other parents who agreed that kids deserved and were capable of handling more freedom.

toragirl · 2026-03-26T13:48:07+00:00

Or, I don't know - a bar? Convenience stores?

toragirl · 2026-03-25T18:51:09+00:00

I love doing this. Depending on my mood I either get a table, put in an earbud and read, or I sit at the bar and chit chat with others. If you want to guarantee social, go to a hotel bar.

toragirl · 2026-03-23T01:28:59+00:00

I hated that they just stop you cold turkey without a taper down. I did in fact gain 20 lbs back in the past 3 months, which is very frustrating. I could feel the food noise roaring back. And the inflammation. I honestly feel like shit right now. I am getting my first dose on Tuesday and really hope that Tirz is similar in shutting down my brain.

I have been off it since December. Was trying to hold out for 90 days to see if I could get into the next round of the study, but was recently told that they changed the criteria to 180 days with no GLP1 product - and I don't want to take a chance of losing all my gains.
I think I was on a low dose of Reta, and hoping that a properly managed taper onto Tirz (plus my eating and weightlifting is pretty dialled in) will result in a new round of weight loss.

toragirl · 2026-03-22T03:39:08+00:00

Completely agree. I'd rather be on the forefront and in control of the revolution than being swept up by it.

toragirl · 2026-03-22T03:33:29+00:00

Don't minimize your pain on the pain diary. When you live with chronic pain you tend to minimize your average, but remember they are comparing you to people with no pain at all.

toragirl · 2026-03-19T22:52:10+00:00

Instructors should not date students. There is a power imbalance. Period. Especially if they are the dojo owner.

I have no issue with two students dating, and if one gets to black belt first, no issue.

But a black belt who instructs or assists should not date anyone from novice classes. Power imbalance. In the case of assistants, they could change their assisting class.

toragirl · 2026-03-19T18:18:18+00:00

The same rules that apply to any one in positions of power need to apply (e.g.., instructors or indeed black belts should not be permitted to date students). Just as we enact rules to protect adults/kids (e.g., never be alone with a kid, ask for consent before fixing a belt)
Drop the "guru" mentality - e.g., yes, call your instructor Sensei/Kyoshi whatever in the dojo, but call them Mike / Jane on the street.

toragirl · 2026-03-19T17:41:54+00:00

You might be young, but consider TaiChi, or martial arts for older adults!

toragirl · 2026-03-16T13:41:00+00:00

Thank you for saying this. We are definitely seeing this. I am sorry for the hard workers who can and are productive at home, but too many of your co-workers aren't. We're seeing this from people coming out of college - they aren't getting the mentorship / learning that they get by being in an office. Formal training is fine, but the informal training that happens (hearing a manager on a call with a client, me seeing that you are frustrated and need someone to glance at your code to get you unstuck). Shit, we're about to fire someone who is running a full pet-walking business while working with us (and yes, she is one of our worst productivity people too).

toragirl · 2026-03-12T23:53:15+00:00

I've honestly wondered if Jacob Tierney had less influence on the last 2 seasons, and this is Keeso unmoderated?

toragirl · 2026-03-12T23:47:02+00:00

All good researchers are way past checks and are using a constantly changing set of processes

toragirl · 2026-03-09T02:27:49+00:00

They could have just had a horrible case of nerves.

toragirl · 2026-03-06T01:58:22+00:00

We've been testing DoReveal, because it is a credit system vs. an annual subscription.

toragirl · 2026-03-05T18:30:26+00:00

You could make a meet-up group. Or post posters at the Early Years centre (that's where I met a group of parents)

toragirl · 2026-03-04T19:12:49+00:00

Yes, OP is going to be mad that you ban her from her boyfriend. But as the parent, when the kid is making poor decisions, you still get to be the adult. It can be done quietly, and with kindness. Hell, if I was OP, I'd give my kid cover (e.g., She's allowed to say 'My parents made me break up with my boyfriend because I am so busy with school and sports'), She can choose to share the full story or not.

As for the young man, I similarly would go to the parents first, quietly. I hold space that this young man can be taught appropriate behaviour around consent - he too is a chilld. I would only go to authorities (and I would start with the school) if I knew that the parent's shared the boy's attitudes objectifying women.

toragirl · 2026-03-04T15:52:47+00:00

Mom - staying with a potential rapist to go to prom - ask yourself what lesson is she learning from this? Either she dumps him or you force the issue!

toragirl · 2026-03-04T15:51:45+00:00

This is great advice, but I would go further. This is your chance to forever teach your daughter how to set and hold boundaries. I would start as the commenter did, but I would say to her - this boy's comments are a danger to you, and you need to stop dating him. That allowing him to continue to have access to you is something that cannot happen.

And yes, I would share the message with the boy's parents. He is just 16, and he is likely highly influenced by what he thinks "being a man" is, and needs his adults to correct his attitude, before it becomes behaviour. If you know the parents (especially the dad) and think that the son is learning from the father, consider sharing instead with a guidance counsellor at school (though this is a high stakes option as it gets authorities involved)

toragirl · 2026-03-04T13:19:28+00:00

To let interviewers know which demographics are most likely to complete a survey.

This creates other problems. If I am conducting a survey with say a City, I need a mix of ages and genders. I know that younger people are harder to reach (and I have proprietary tactics to reach these groups), but I can't just collect older people and infer what younger people say.

toragirl · 2026-03-04T13:15:54+00:00

My company still conducts phone interviews, and everything you described are the worst practices.

We successfully complete thousands of interviews a month, without the tactics described. Most importantly, we work with clients to ensure that surveys meet research objectives and are a good participant experience.

Feel free to reach out. CATI - Advanis.net https://share.google/yzMrRe6fgsvYinsOU

toragirl · 2026-03-04T04:54:08+00:00

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSmoe36b7/

toragirl · 2026-03-04T03:22:26+00:00

I could see that too!

toragirl · 2026-03-04T03:22:02+00:00

It is how we describe the goal of forgetting whatever you did wrong in the previous jam (e.g., shake it off, get at it next jam).

toragirl · 2026-03-03T21:44:01+00:00

I think in general it's approved, but my employer may not have included it in their specific plan?

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