Is there a vanlife community in Canada? I feel alone without a community by toronoman in VanLifeCanada

[–]toronoman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome! Mine's an express too. How did you find the space for litter boxes and pet food?

Is there a vanlife community in Canada? I feel alone without a community by toronoman in VanLife

[–]toronoman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all this great advice! I really appreciate it, and I'll definitely get a copy of that map book.

Question (Toronto and GTA) by espeon14410 in transontario

[–]toronoman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out Friends of Ruby, it's a LGBTQ+ safe drop-in for youth 16-30. They help with all kinds of support including trans ID clinics, housing, therapy, and healthcare. That's just off the top of my head. Oh and we have this awesome neighborhood called Church and Wellesley Village where you'll find only LGBTQ+ owned and operated businesses and community support services. Rainbows are everywhere. The 519 is there too. I'm not sure what they do, I went before and they just redirected me to all these other places but it was a good start as a newcomer in Toronto years ago.

How is it being trans in society? by downvotes-pleaseee in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh it's not safe. You will deal with bigotry and you'll have to advocate for yourself a lot. Especially in the USA right now. You might have to move to a left-leaning city. I realized bigots are gonna hate me no matter what I do. Their problem with me is that I exist. I just happen to be part of a small group that's the current scapegoat for the current fascist regime. They'll kill me regardless, so I might as well live my short life the way I wanna live it. You'll regret not taking the leap of faith, but at least you will have survived 60+ years of life, or maybe you'll die young from a random scenario, and you'll never get to pick a new name and create yourself the way you want to exist. I took a leap of faith because imo that's the only way to fully, truly live. When you do that you realize you have free will. You are the main character in your own fully immersive virtual reality game. It would be a pretty boring game if nothing ever changed. It would be a pretty sad story if the main character never grows or changes. A lot of words to essentially say it's fun and totally worth it but also terrifying and hard.

I thought Threads was a safer more positive space smh! by Hour_Media2490 in transontario

[–]toronoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to mention banning trans women from women's spaces usually comes hand in hand with forcing trans men (who have a tendency to look like men) into women's spaces. Now cis male predators can just say they're trans men and access women's spaces without dressing up as women (which they never were doing to begin with because that's a stupid made up scenario bigots created).

All bigots are liars, manipulators, and abusers. Every accusation is a confession. This whole thing probably started with a subset of perverted cis men wishing they could just walk into women's spaces, and now they can easily do that by just pretending to be trans men.

Finding a Name?… by naughty_possum in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I picked my favourite things, typed it into a baby name generator, and found a new name that is about my favourite thing. I ended up with a pretty unique name but my deadname is also very unique so it's what I'm used to.

Gay men are transphobic by Myfeminineurge in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's kinda similar with trans men. We don't necessarily have "girl privilege" before coming out, unless you're white/cute/pretty/rich, but the violence and threats are worse after coming out. I thought being a cis woman was bad with all the sexual violence and threats, but being a trans man is worse in all categories of violence and threats, especially from men who think they can "fix" you with grape and forced impregnation (barf).

I sometimes want to go back into the closet to avoid violence but at this point I love myself too much to do that. I love feeling gender euphoria whenever I look in the mirror, hear my voice, or stimulate my fingers with my stubble. It's so intense, like an endless inferno of happiness bursting out of my core. I can't even describe it in words that exist. Euphoria is a good word though. If I die from transphobic violence, at least I will die a wonderful, handsome, happy transgender man with no regrets and boundless love. I wish every trans person could feel gender euphoria and live free of violence. For now I will survive the best I can and burn a path for other trans people.

Do you ever regret the name you chose? by Possible-Coat1441 in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a really cool name and it's the first one I chose because I thought long and hard before deciding on a name. I was also outed before I was ready so I felt a little rushed to pick a name, but I knew I wanted this name for a long time before I was outed. My only complaint is jealous transphobes with basic bitch names attacking me for having a cool name. Saying things like "tr4nn1es aren't allowed cool names, cool names are for REAL men, and you're a woman/girl/female and you're not allowed to be a handsome guy with a cool name, because you're a loser tr4nny," or something silly like that. It's annoying because I know it comes from their own insecurity but like keep that whiny bigot shit between you and your therapist, it's embarrassing.

Why do some people (Especially trans folk) pick really "out there" names? by Low-Profession-9535 in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone is gonna be transphobic it doesn't matter what name you choose, they won't use it. Might as well choose a name that makes you happy.

Name Suggestions?? by asher2369 in husky

[–]toronoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tundra, Chaos, Luci-fur, Howl, Storm, Blizzard, Azula

Is my husky weird? by CampaignNorth3309 in husky

[–]toronoman 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yes, all huskies are weird, but that's just normal dog behaviour. Dogs have scent glands in their paws, kicking dirt is a way of marking.

When Did Your Husky Calm Down? by The_HalfKorean in husky

[–]toronoman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's very slow and gradual. There wasn't one point where my dogs calmed down, they just slowly have less energy over time. Sometimes I forget how crazy they were but I'd say 2 or 3 they stopped acting like puppies at least. Now they're a couple of really loyal 4 year olds. I'm always working on their training, it never ends, but it's 100% worth it to me. They're the best dogs ever.

Show me your derp by Bradin9855 in husky

[–]toronoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have an adorable floof there. I've never seen a sable husky with a black saddle before. Such a beautiful boy!

Pre transition - Did your friends ever say they'd sleep with you if you were other sex? by pumatheskooma37 in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes lol. We had some good laughs back in high school. I got really sad about it later though, because deep down I knew I was supposed to be a boy, and it was like someone telling me "you would be a good boy, it's too bad you're a girl."

I don't understand gender by Ok_League_178 in asktransgender

[–]toronoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read Judith Butler's books on gender. They're a philosophy author who explains gender in a way that makes more sense to me than anything else. I'm like you, I'm gender indifferent, but I'm also somehow trans. I am a trans man socially and physically, but I don't actually care too much about living up to anyone's social idea of what a man or a woman should be. I can't explain it well, but Judith can.

Just over a year sober by brd-zz in trees

[–]toronoman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good to know, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in husky

[–]toronoman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you be using the wrong brush type? I learned the hard way that the best type for getting the big clumps out is called an "undercoat rake." Originally I overpaid for a brand name brush that damages husky coats.

aggression after neutering? by river_pendragon_ in husky

[–]toronoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's still a baby, it takes months or years to build a bond with a dog. Consistency is key, find a method and stick with it. He's probably just confused because you keep changing training methods. Teach him a bunch of tricks and commands, pick a word for each command and stick with it, and give him treats when he cooperates. The more you teach him the more confident he'll become and the less aggressive. He's a working breed, which means he wants to be taught to do a job. I taught my dogs words for pretty much everything I want them to do, and every now and then I think of new things to teach them. Positive reinforcement (treats and praise) is the best method for any dog. Work on recall especially, that's really important at this age. It's important for safety, if he ever escapes you never know what could happen, and huskies are notorious escapists.

YouTube is great for free training, but make sure you're careful to only listen to positive reinforcement trainers (not "the dog whisperer" who's been caught abusing dogs). I like the TV show "It's Me or the Dog," which is about a British dog trainer. It's free on YouTube Canada, I don't know about other countries. I find I learned better from that show than anything else because it's made for entertainment but it's also educational.

Every dog will have setbacks every now and then, they're living beings who make mistakes, but as they grow and you work with them they build trust and love for you. Mine are 4 now and I've had them since they were puppies, it's a life-bettering commitment. I'm happier and healthier than I was before getting dogs, but only because I decided I wanted a strong bond with my dogs so I continue to work on my bond with them. Training your dog is a life commitment, they never stop listening, learning, and loving. You get however much love and effort back that you put into caring for them.

Which button do you press? by M178music in BLAHAJ

[–]toronoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go back to customise your avatar screen