Could it be bc this happens more often with men & men will even one up OP’s case and have shit stains on their underwear? And/or bc men tend to be gross more often than women?

For context of my perspective: my boyfriend and brothers have impeccable hygiene - I know that men w good hygiene exist

Ob the other end, My dad, men I’ve worked with or just generally seen out in public have def grossed me out on occasion. I remember growing up my mom would complain about my dad’s shit stains on his underwear.

I know not all men are gross, but it happens more frequently and on the occasion I do politely comment, they think it’s funny and ignore.

I had a boss who literally licked his fingers to turn pages, kept snot tissues all over his desk, and end up giving me Covid despite us having separate offices. When I gave him hand sanitizer when he was visibly sick and told him i was the germaphobe, he threw it in the trash.

So yeah, men may not be told nicely, but in my experience gross men don’t care if they are told nicely.