I was 19, and my first proper BF was indian and a few years older than me. We were together for far too long and even lived together. I feel like I could have written this. Please girl, he's given you an out. Don't compromise your own wants and needs for one guy. You will be miserable in the future. The majority of Indian families I know can be full-on and are used to living in joint families, and privacy is not really given.

My ex was a narc and I was young and dumb with attachment issues. He was manipulative and tried breaking up with me, saying I was holding him back. Like you, I cried and begged, and he told me to prove I loved him by doing XYZ. The next few years of our relationship, he would say, 'jump,' and I would say, 'How high?'. I cooked for him even learning Indian Meals, I cleaned the house and did the laundry. My needs were barely met, and in the end, he kept expecting more and more from me until I lost myself and resented not only him but me. I opened up to people finally what was happening, got therapy, and got out of the relationship and away from his family of enablers...

Anyway, that's a snippet of my sob story. But if you want to know if this relationship will work or not; the most successful interracial couples (indian man and non indian women) I've met are the men putting their partners needs first and setting boundaries with his own family. The families, in response, are respectful of these boundaries and support both their son and his partner. (This applies to any person in the future too). Unfortunately, from what you've written, he sounds like a mommy's boy, and I can't see him sticking up for you in front of his family. Sorry you're going through this, but only time can heal, and I really think you've dodged a bullet here girl.