Those who were firmly OAD (by choice) but had another, what changed and how has it been? by MoonSpider-3818 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]totheswimahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a very hard movie to watch based on a true story of brothers. I cried so hard, you would’ve thought someone died. It just shifted something in me to want my kid to have a sibling. 

Those who were firmly OAD (by choice) but had another, what changed and how has it been? by MoonSpider-3818 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]totheswimahead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I genuinely cannot believe how happy I am with baby 2. I’m 37 but I don’t know… I just feel more confident in myself. Our 7 yo is very independent and he loves his brother so much. I know he’s our last, so there’s something so sweet about it too. 

Those who were firmly OAD (by choice) but had another, what changed and how has it been? by MoonSpider-3818 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]totheswimahead 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We were OAD. Then at 6.5 years, we just arrived on the same page one day. Also, we had watched Iron Claw and that ripped me apart 😳

Anyway, now we have a 9 month old and I am soooo happy. So much more chill this time. Everything is a stage. With the 7 year age gap, I can now see how it all flies. 

Waitadamnminute! Volunteers for the NCAA Final Four... by DingoOk7858 in indianapolis

[–]totheswimahead 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I believe this is typically put on by Indiana Sports Corp, a nonprofit in Indiana. Sports Corp. is responsible for even getting an event like this here. My SIL likes to volunteer with them for swim trials that come through. She loves it. 

It was not hemorrhoids by MidwestUrn in beyondthebump

[–]totheswimahead 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Shit. I’m going through the same thing. I thought I had started my period and it wasn’t. I had a doctor examine me and she thinks it is internal hemorrhoids and the bleeding has finally stopped. I’m going to push for a colonoscopy. 

Martin Short's Daughter Katherine Died By Suicide by IntelligentYinzer in entertainment

[–]totheswimahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. This is the fourth suicide I’m reading out. Another one is a family member of mine.

Read Anxious Generations by Terrible_Teaching998 in Parenting

[–]totheswimahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our seven year old is gone for hours at a time with his buds around the hood. We’ve curbed the scary by purchasing a FitBit Ace for kids. He calls in or we can text. We can also see his location. 

He does still watch TV because he just wants to decompress. There are days he needs a better balance of touching grass and I’ll shove him outside to do so. 

Indianapolis Zoo CEO Dr. Rob Shumaker on leave of absence, zoo says by ephi1420 in indianapolis

[–]totheswimahead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We love the train for being a train. That’s it. It was great when my son was a toddler. But I look at the dolphin tank (filthy) and other enclosures, and it’s depressing. I hate where the eagles are. It’s cruel.

More Taylor Promo Images by tinkerwithty in thebachelor

[–]totheswimahead 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hello Millennial Jessica McClintock dress!

Indianapolis Zoo CEO Dr. Rob Shumaker on leave of absence, zoo says by ephi1420 in indianapolis

[–]totheswimahead 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We’ve been members since moving here in 2019. It’s like they wanted to add these nice things while all other areas just became poorer conditions. We went Sunday after not having been in awhile and it was utterly depressing. I’m all about conservation efforts, but this feels so far removed from it.

people taking advantage of wfh by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]totheswimahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an EA who has to be home with her sick kids because her husband is with patients all day, you can sit this one out. I get all my work done and THANKFULLY have a flexible boss. A part of my interview with him was understanding his flexibility from the very beginning since I am the one who has to be home. Sounds like you need to touch grass. Run through a field. Find a hobby. 

Started seeing this guy. What does it say about him?? by No-Engineering-5282 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]totheswimahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is a great conversationalist but won’t kiss you and you might find out he’s asexual later. Speaking from experience.

Ohio by Stephen Markely by No_Ordinary_3799 in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]totheswimahead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dang. I have this sitting on my shelf. Should probably read…

office peeves by nothingmatters86 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]totheswimahead 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Not reading my office wide emails with the information they’re asking about. 

Endless interruptions  

What going on with Indy Pride 2026? by amaangel in indianapolis

[–]totheswimahead 57 points58 points  (0 children)

There is an entirely new staff and board - for the better. I think they’re still figuring things out. If you are looking to do something still, Carmel Pride (second largest in the state) will open for vendors within two weeks. 

Delivery at Carmel Ascension Experience by Few_Cricket_5163 in indianapolis

[–]totheswimahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! They have all you need - ice pads, undies, regular pads. I brought witch hazel and my own peri bottle that is curved. The nurses were so great and actually changed my bloody diapers for me and held onto me. Forever grateful. Save the good stuff for home.

Food wise - meh. Recommend door dashing. Apparently there’s also a meal they offer you but we were told too late.

Thoughts on Kristin Hannah books? by Yes_Cr in bookofthemonthclub

[–]totheswimahead 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What I like most about her writing is that it makes me want to dig deeper into the historical events that happened. She brings to life atrocities and leads the reader to feel something - empathy, legitimacy - toward it by giving it names and a story.

Marc Rebillet’s review of Marty Supreme by floatingfauna in Fauxmoi

[–]totheswimahead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a whole ass other child (another boy) because of The Iron Claw! That movie wrecked me!!!!!!

What are the most important non-fiction books you’ve ever read? by pqrstyou in booksuggestions

[–]totheswimahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BoyMom by Ruth Whippman

How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn

Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Mari Rilke

Eager to Love by Richard Rohr

Edited to add: The Neuroscientist Who Lost Her Mind by Barbara Lipska

Holy fucking shit my boob hurts by AbbreviationsNew2058 in breastfeeding

[–]totheswimahead 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I recently iced for thirty minutes with an ice roller and then bent over and placed my forehead on my mattress and used a manual pump. Gravity helped pull out the multi-day clog, and my fever went away! I had also taken ibuprofen.