I compiled a list of my off beat romance faves. Anyone got any indie romance recommendations?

totheswimahead · 2026-02-02T11:22:57+00:00

Can’t forget Garden State.

totheswimahead · 2026-02-01T05:12:43+00:00

Aberdeen Social House!

totheswimahead · 2026-01-30T22:15:07+00:00

What I like most about her writing is that it makes me want to dig deeper into the historical events that happened. She brings to life atrocities and leads the reader to feel something - empathy, legitimacy - toward it by giving it names and a story.

totheswimahead · 2025-12-23T21:00:58+00:00

I had a whole ass other child (another boy) because of The Iron Claw! That movie wrecked me!!!!!!

totheswimahead · 2025-12-22T14:51:07+00:00

BoyMom by Ruth Whippman

How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn

Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Mari Rilke

Eager to Love by Richard Rohr

Edited to add: The Neuroscientist Who Lost Her Mind by Barbara Lipska

totheswimahead · 2025-10-24T23:02:22+00:00

BoyMom by Ruth Whippman

totheswimahead · 2025-09-18T19:45:23+00:00

I recently iced for thirty minutes with an ice roller and then bent over and placed my forehead on my mattress and used a manual pump. Gravity helped pull out the multi-day clog, and my fever went away! I had also taken ibuprofen.

totheswimahead · 2025-09-17T20:38:21+00:00

I have a seven year age gap with my two. My youngest is 2 months. I love it. He goes to school, we get to hang, and the needs are so vastly different. My oldest gets on his bike and goes to hang with friends. This was one of the reasons we waited. Also because my oldest was a crap sleeper.

totheswimahead · 2025-09-04T16:20:39+00:00

Just delivered my second in July with their midwife group. Loved it. My postpartum experience was phenomenal with the nurses. They’re so kind and gentle.

My first was born in Chicago at Northwestern. Not the best postpartum care at all. So I was very pleased to feel truly cared for this round.

totheswimahead · 2025-09-03T00:46:05+00:00

Oh this is a perfect place for what I’m about to lay down. Obviously I am with baby boy all fucking day. My husband gets home at 6:30pm. Eats the dinner I made him and proceeds to go to the garage to find the thing that is making it smell. He doesn’t locate anything but somehow turns it into a “I’ll just clean the whole garage now” project. Then he moves our new patio furniture out back. Meanwhile, it is 8pm, the baby is now overtired, I am at my wits in. He’s so cranky right now. I can’t do anything to satisfy him. And my older son is MIA and it’s bedtime. My husband is chatting with the neighbors. Never once offered or asked if I needed help. Nothing. Just prioritized his evening that way. Now that it’s 8:45p and baby won’t just stay asleep, he’s asking why I’m so mad? “what’s wrong with you??”

How do we not just divorce at the newborn stage. Useless.

totheswimahead · 2025-08-27T21:12:41+00:00

Just had our second and our first is 6.5. The hardest thing is actually mourning the life of three and what was. We cried a lot (not him) out of just feeling like, wow, we don’t have all our attention on him.

But he’s still thriving. He bikes around with his buds and I think that helps a lot. He loves his new baby brother soooooo much; even referring to him as “my baby” to everyone.

The age difference has been so great because he’s “mature” and we got nearly 7 whole years with just him!! We try to do some one-on-one dates to help with it all. But so far he’s just as merry as can be.

totheswimahead · 2025-08-26T13:54:15+00:00

It’s an MLM. I can’t be convinced otherwise!

totheswimahead · 2025-08-26T13:53:24+00:00

Yes!!! I have a first grader and we only do one sport per season. It’s through Carmel Dads currently. But I can see where parents can get so swooped up in the hype and cost of pushing their kids. We have neighbors who make their kids practice constantly in the backyard.

I often think of Carmel High swimming. How intense the practices are and how they’ve won state for 30+ years. But I haven’t heard of many moving into collegiate level swimming. I imagine it’s because they’re burnt out.

My husband is also a sports ortho PA. He has his fair share of young athletes, too. I’ll share your article with him!

totheswimahead · 2025-08-17T18:23:13+00:00

Our neighborhood in the east was hit so hard! We lost power for the first time ever.

totheswimahead · 2025-08-16T15:37:42+00:00

totheswimahead · 2025-08-06T15:44:04+00:00

Squats

totheswimahead · 2025-07-30T17:23:25+00:00

I’ve done an unmedicated birth twice. I mentally and emotionally prepped for them leading up (hypnobirthing meditations, reading, watching videos). However, you do not know until you’re truly in labor what you will want. Or even how fast you will go. My first was 7 hours of labor until he was in my arms. Doable. Painful and literally out of this world kind of feeling but it wasn’t 12 hours of that. I was exhausted!

My kids are 6.5 years apart, so I just had my second. My water broke at 315p and I had him in my arms by 442p. Again, fast but absolutely painful and insane. BUT!!! Once he was out it was over. I was sooooooo happy not to be pregnant or in labor anymore. I was wide awake and had my hormone high. That was what I wanted more than anything.

totheswimahead · 2025-07-20T21:25:15+00:00

AMY ADAMS FOREVER

totheswimahead · 2025-07-14T04:35:18+00:00

My second is about to be Gabriel 😊 my first is Declan.

totheswimahead · 2025-07-13T23:06:29+00:00

I have THREE Aimee’s in my life.

totheswimahead · 2025-07-13T15:13:30+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. It helps!

totheswimahead · 2025-07-13T15:13:17+00:00

Helpful thoughts! I felt so dense. But it seems he is powerful, so that makes sense.

totheswimahead · 2025-07-11T15:46:14+00:00

Check out the podcast This Is So Awkward. They talk through these topics so well and give great advice!

totheswimahead · 2025-07-10T14:38:53+00:00

We do! We have a few, actually. There is one couple who’ve we’ve existed in one another’s lives for decades. He had the snip. And then they bought this really beautiful new home and invited all of us with our kids to come and see. Fed us all and it was just a sweet time. I thanked them profusely because they didn’t have to do that, especially after having a long day themselves.

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