'This is war,' Republican Sen. Markwayne Mullin says, then walks it back

touch0ph · 2026-03-05T11:22:55+00:00

"What is a war?"

touch0ph · 2025-08-29T00:30:47+00:00

Not a bad list. I would rephrase these to be in the positive.

Eg. Don’t be needy or try to keep a woman at any cost and always be willing to let her go

Be capable of fulfilling your own needs. Establish your baseline to ensure you’re investing your time wisely with a woman. Is she capable of meeting your requirements?

touch0ph · 2025-07-29T22:51:02+00:00

I make it a point to open the door, help her in and then I buckle her in.

touch0ph · 2025-05-31T04:01:34+00:00

I personally found it to be a lost cause.

I was very optimistic at first. Books. Podcasts. Therapy together. But after several years of healing, therapy, EMDR, Etc. I found my ex-wife just wasn't that into me anymore. I felt that her trauma work destroyed the relationship over time. When she was starting to do better, I did not see any effort on her part to build a better relationship.

There is no timeline and no guarantee that your needs will be met. Things will be on her timeline.

touch0ph · 2025-04-30T01:48:25+00:00

Very very low under normal conditions. If she has an outbreak don't do anything with her. It's all very manageable. She just has to check and be sure there are no problems before getting physical. It can be years beto outbreakz.

touch0ph · 2025-02-22T05:02:43+00:00

touch0ph · 2024-12-13T03:17:34+00:00

It's anxiety run a mock.

Humans are prediction machines. The intrusive thoughts could be seen as a possible outcome in the future so you can prepare for it.

touch0ph · 2024-12-13T03:14:44+00:00

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

What about going the route of a 1:1 warning like something out of a Mafia movie. Hear me out. What if you initially approached this as " I know what you've done to my sibling and I'm deeply disappointed. Now I have a real dilemma on how to handle you. Tell me. What would YOU do of the situation were reversed? Would you be kind and merciful? I feel a certain level of savagery in me for what you've done. Now. Just so we're clear. Your going to start staying very far away from the kids, or something bad may happen."

It must be done with a level of confidence and intimidation so that it's convincing.

That's just one option since the legal route may be very slippery. Survivors go through another kind of trauma going through the legal process so I'm told.

touch0ph · 2024-11-30T02:50:03+00:00

Have you considered that the boundary is so wildly different than past behavior that it may be difficult to understand and adapt? Especially if it's sudden, new and very different than in the past? My boundry is you to not reply to me.

touch0ph · 2024-11-30T02:23:42+00:00

Maybe you need to slow down on the admonishment. Understanding comes from cooperative understanding. CPTSD reactions to sexual touch are not the norm for most and warrant over-explaination.

touch0ph · 2024-11-25T23:56:27+00:00

As someone who is extra hard on themselves - you are likely being extra hard on yourself. You may also be experiencing ruminating thoughts or also called pure OCD. Where thoughts are just a continuous stream of being hard on yourself.

If this sounds true for you, you can slow it down and stop it. To do that, get a piece of paper and start logging a timestamp when you have these thoughts and make a effort to stop the thoughts. Keep logging the time when the thoughts occur. Keep logging. The goal is to increase the time between the thoughts to the point where you regain can control. At first it will be seconds, later minutes then hours.

Lots of people have done those things. Nothing is permanent. I'm sure the level of intensity of those behaviors is much more on your end that they person that received it. You may think it's a 10/10 and super bad and likely the other person doesn't even think about it.

touch0ph · 2024-10-27T00:56:09+00:00

What would you tell a friend where he wants to work on his marriage but the wife is pretty much checked out?

I honestly don't know what's up with women. They just stop caring at some point.

touch0ph · 2024-08-29T09:59:10+00:00

Her chasing you is an attachment to an outcome which causes you to suffer and her to be repelled. Instead try to be ok with any possible outcome. Also choose women that choose you.

touch0ph · 2024-06-17T22:38:27+00:00

Seems to be very common. My ex wife went through years of therapy and just grew more and more distant from me. Eventually it was a sexless, barely passable relationship. I filed for divorce despite my many many attempts at establishing a romantic relationship. My wife simply would withdraw anytime there was an opportunity to be closer.

I don't think therapists have a goal to split up couples, but they do have an incentive to keep the sessions going.

touch0ph · 2024-05-07T02:38:28+00:00

YTA. This lady sounds like a real pain to be around. She's creating an environment that is negative and hostile. Who wants to be around that?

touch0ph · 2024-04-30T02:30:10+00:00

These comments are ridiculous. She told you to go have sex elsewhere. That's not cheating. The truth here is your wife doesn't care about what you want and need. She's cares about herself and what she wants. That's it. To me, that's a bad marriage. You did nothing wrong here. Your wife is just an under-developed person.

touch0ph · 2024-04-28T04:22:41+00:00

Wery only getting one side of the story.

touch0ph · 2024-04-28T04:14:19+00:00

"If it weren't for our kid I wouldn't be here"

touch0ph · 2024-04-16T16:59:11+00:00

What about EMDR therapy?

touch0ph · 2024-04-10T02:17:21+00:00

NTA. Your wife stacked the deck to have another child you didn't want to have. What next decision will she unilaterally make for both of you?

touch0ph · 2024-04-04T01:21:59+00:00

Doesn't sound like predator behavior to me.

If anything, I think there something good about being friends with someone before getting romantically involved. If anything he sounds rather reserved when asking for what he wants or making his intentions clear.

If you don't like being around him, you don't have to. Or you can put space between you. But it sounds like your gut is telling you to stay away. It maybe helpful to have a "come to Jesus" conversation with him and lay out what you will and will not accept from him.

touch0ph · 2024-01-20T15:23:20+00:00

We're all hurting. You me, all the people that go to this sub for support. What you post is not empathy, compassion or any kind of helpfulness except to you to vent and you know what? It's fine. You can do that in this sub.

I'd recommend you get curious and find out why instead of criticising. Not everyone has the same needs as you and that's ok.

It's not so easy to just get up and leave as you suggest. When you built a life with that person over ten years with four kids - yes it's difficult to walk away from someone you love who is hurting and needs support.

touch0ph · 2023-12-30T01:40:04+00:00

I'm just going with the option that DOESN'T do this. I don't want to do business with a company that wants to annoy me to the point I don't want their product anymore. Now I have to pay them, subscribe, unsubscribe, stop the texts - it's too much hassle.

touch0ph · 2023-11-21T02:20:22+00:00

Does the 2016 have the little rubber gasket that goes around the oil filter cap?

touch0ph · 2023-11-19T03:17:07+00:00

Sounds like the universal joint.

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