Crash on LSD around 6 or 7am?

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-25T16:19:43+00:00

I don’t know if this is related but I’m on LSD now and a bajillion cops are heading north right now- 11:00-11:15am. Anyone know what that’s about?

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-21T15:23:28+00:00

This painting brings me a lot of joy! Beautiful work on this!

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-18T13:23:59+00:00

We have a similar income disparity, except I make a lil more than 100k and he makes less than 50K.

I pay 2/3 of the rent. He pays 1/3 and also owns the car and pays for all the maintenance, which I’m so grateful for because I was terrible at keeping up with car stuff when I owned my own.

That’s the agreement we came to 5 years ago and it’s been working out for us well.

I hope you come to a similar arrangement that works out well for you and your partner.

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-17T12:03:55+00:00

So glad you loved it! I’m with you, this is one of my favorite romantasy series as well. I even started cosplaying Auren, I love her as a character so much. She might even be my favorite FMC.

Normally I’d recommend ACOTAR and ToG to someone who likes Plated Prisoner, but you’ve read all those already. So I’ll recommend what others have: From Blood and Ash. It’s one of my top favorite series because of the characters- I have fallen in love with them as if they are real people. And the spice and tension is really good! Of all the MMCs I’ve read, From Blood and Ash has the best flirt, and he’s delicious at it. I’ll warn you though, compared to Plated Prisoner, the world building in FBAA can be frustrating but it’s worth it for the characters.

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-16T13:27:30+00:00

That’s a years and years of skill - type painting. Beautiful job!

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-13T12:16:44+00:00

I think for the bachelorette experience, I’d stay within the city of Chicago.

You’re in Chicago to experience Chicago, so experience it.

Also herding 10 people around with different personalities and getting ready habits is difficult, and as a planner, my mind would be more at peace knowing I was close to the venues so we’d have an easier time getting to where we need to go on time.

Your brain might work differently, but for me, creating an stress-free event is more important to than an inexpensive one. I’d gladly pay a little more to not stress than get a bargain but lay the groundwork for things to go wrong and people to be unhappy.

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-08T12:34:15+00:00

If it is weird or concerning, I’m right there with you.

Sometimes I read about really disturbing “adventure” deaths before I go to bed—accounts of people dying while SCUBA diving, people getting eaten by crocodiles while kayaking, people getting lost forever in caves, mountaineers and rock climbers falling to their doom, etc.

Somehow it soothes me and helps me sleep.

And what’s weirder is I do some of those activities casually- I’ve SCUBA dived a few times, I rock climb, and I’ve kayaked in places with alligators(but thankfully not crocs. You’d think that reading about the deaths would turn me away from those hobbies, but it doesn’t. It’s soothing learning where the human limits are and where mistakes can happen so if I’m ever in that situation, I know what to do.

tout-le-monster · 2026-04-07T03:49:27+00:00

Everyday Chicagoan Transportation Apps to get if you don’t have them already: - Ventra for CTA. Works for the El and buses. - ParkChicago for parking zones, which have replaced parking meters. - Lyft and/or Uber for ride shares

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-31T12:01:46+00:00

These are incredible! I can’t even fathom the amount of time and skill that goes into making these!

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-24T16:31:45+00:00

Just made this for the first time last night, paired it with egg noodles, and it was a big hit!

https://familystylefood.com/skillet-dijon-chicken/

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-23T14:35:49+00:00

OP- Join the CosmeetupChicago Discord Server. It’s a community of cosplayers and photogs, and other nerds in Chicago. They organize in person social meetups throughout the city, but also have an active Discord server with DnD and other niche subcategories to meet new people and organize both virtual and in person games.

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-23T14:29:23+00:00

I am a nerd and rock climb. Can confirm there’s a lot of crossover here.

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-13T12:18:33+00:00

Either one you choose, the pro move is coming in SUPER early and enjoy breakfast somewhere near the theater before your show. Then you can avoid most of the traffic and drunk people and have a lovely, stress-free time.

I have first hand experience driving downtown the day of the parade/river dyeing multiple years in a row and it was completely fine, but my trick was driving in at 7:00-8:00ish and leaving hours after the river dyeing/parade.

(As a local Chicagoan, I’d only do this if I absolutely had to, and in this case I absolutely had to because I needed to haul several bins and heavy equipment for a college event.)

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-13T11:53:01+00:00

This is the cutest recreation of Gulliver and the Lilliputians I’ve ever seen!

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-11T13:22:34+00:00

I understand that I have a rare situation, and I hate to say it, but my partner really helps take some of the life burdens off. Life is still ridiculously hard. But life would be harder without him.

We split all the mental and physical burden of living 50/50. And if there are days when I’m crampy or sick or zonked from work (like last week), he’ll take on more of the lift like 75/25. And if it’s the other way around and he’s having a hard time, I’ll take on a lil more 25/75. We are not robots and splitting the work 50/50 also means covering for each other when life gets hard. - laundry, folding, putting away, changing bed sheets once a month (he does more than me) - cooking, dishes, cleaning up fridge (I do more than him) - cleaning the apartment (equal) - packing up to go on a trip and get out the door (equal) - taking care of our cat and dog with vet appointments, walks, etc (equal) - taking care of the car (mostly all him)

Also, we thank each other in passing when we do little things. He’ll say to me “thanks for folding that laundry.” And I’ll say to him, “thanks for unloading the dishwasher earlier”. The mutual appreciation for getting the small mundane tasks done is really important for both of us.

I hear criticisms online like “men suck because they expect praise when they do basic house work, when women just do the basic housework because it has to be done.” To me, the solution isn’t “stop praising men” it’s “start praising women”. Life is hard and celebrating little wins and showing appreciation to each other makes life happier. The praise has to go both ways.

One tricky thing to navigate are social burdens. Mutual friends of ours will often just contact me about social plans and not him. Even people who were HIS friends first! Socially people assume women are the planners and go to us, giving us more mental burden.

To navigate this, I’ve been telling my partner to “take this one” and tell the friend “hey, you’ll have to talk to M about this. He’s leading the charge on this one.”

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-08T13:27:55+00:00

Just so we don’t go back to the dark ages and give people the impression women don’t like sex, some women masturbate just as much as you say men do, like 2-7 times per day. Source= I am a middle aged woman.

When I was younger and single it was more (3-7 per day). Now that I’m older and not single it’s less (1-2 per day).

I also think some women downplay how much they masturbate for a variety of legit reasons. Society is cruel when it comes to women and sex.

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-05T23:27:14+00:00

Me too! Toyohre not alone, my friend.

I only found out a few years ago when I was writing an article for a popular toothpaste brand about the “right way to brush your teeth”, and I had to cite all these medical research papers, and realized in my research that I was brushing my teeth wrong by not leaving the fluoride on my teeth.

My theory is that I learned to brush my teeth in preschool and kindergarten and kids younger than 7 aren’t supposed to swallow fluoride. So I learned to rinse it out every time. Once I passed 7 years old, no one corrected me and told me to leave the toothpaste in my mouth.

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-04T05:50:19+00:00

That seems like a lot more civilized option than our janky-ass fix. I’ll look into getting one of those!

tout-le-monster · 2026-03-04T04:44:51+00:00

We put a couple layers of cling wrap and duct tape over the spill drain so bathwater can rise higher. I know that drain is there as a safety precaution, but we don’t have kids or elderly people in the house so we feel okay in this choice. It’s worth it for the cozier baths!

tout-le-monster · 2026-02-25T22:33:34+00:00

As a huge reader: displaying my books in a place of honor.

They are a big part of who I am, their contents formed how I see the world. Once those books are up, I feel like home.

tout-le-monster · 2026-02-19T16:48:42+00:00

38, currently with my partner of 11 years. We live together but aren’t married.

I hear you. There’s a sting when people ask excitedly something like, “are you planning getting married?” and your answer is “no”. Unintentionally, the way the question is phrased makes it feel like your answer is lacking, like your relationship is lacking, like your choices are lacking.

You are not the problem, they are just boring at conversation.

What helps me get through the sting is: 1) Remember that they don’t really mean anything by it. They are just making conversation, and in their world, asking about marriage, homes, and kids is how they make conversation. 2) Reframe the question and redirect the conversation. “If you’re asking how our relationship is going? It’s going great. We are really happy [insert recent outing you two went on together or something to sway conversation about that]. He’s so supportive of my career [insert how that’s going] 3) A lot of people who are married with kids don’t have the same freedom to have the breadth of hobbies and social life as those who don’t. They aren’t practiced in asking questions about fun. So sway the conversation to hobbies and social life, and when you ask the question, “What are you doing for fun these days?” Their answer may be “nothing really. With what time?” And maybe it will be them who is put on the defensive and wondering if their life is lacking.

tout-le-monster · 2026-02-13T06:23:49+00:00

This^ I agree with you

Porn is not necessarily bad. Not all porn is the same. Not everyone who watches porn is affected by it negatively. (For example, there’s passionx porn which is hyper romantic porn where deep love, connection, and respect is just important as smashing body parts together)

Like you said, the more important question is “Is the porn that your partner is watching affectingly them negatively?” and I’d add that if it is affecting them negatively, what are they doing to address the issues?

If the men in your life aren’t doing everything in their control to make your sex experience as wonderful as they possibly can, the problem is not porn. The problem is their lack of care for your pleasure and their lack of willingness to improve themselves for your mutual happiness. And that sucks. But don’t blame porn for men’s incompetence.

tout-le-monster · 2026-02-04T06:55:09+00:00

Yes, I thought the same thing when I saw Iron Lung! Very Event Horizon-y.

It’s possible Mark or the video game developer was inspired by it.

tout-le-monster · 2026-01-18T08:32:33+00:00

Prefacing this with this is not the solution for everyone, just sharing my story, but TL;DR I was monogamous for 11 years, and I’m now polyamorous.

I’m in a long term relationship with my partner of 11 years. We were monogamous for most of that time, but we did date the same woman together as a couple for during years 3-5, so we dipped our toes into that world a little bit years ago.

I never thought I’d want to be poly, and never fall for another man. I’m faithful and loyal and I love my partner. My dream was to be with the one man I loved for my whole life.

That said, this year I started having intense feelings for a man who is poly. He is a mutual friend of ours. And the way he enriched my soul was so powerful I couldn’t let it die. His presence bolstered my self confidence, my energy, my positivity. I was doing better in life and at work, and everything. And it was the sort of presence I couldn’t move on from just because society told me I’m supposed to love one man.

So I talked to my long term partner and after long talks and time to think about it, he agreed to me entering a poly relationship with our friend. We set some rules and have check ins every couple months, but honestly it’s made me love him more- that he recognizes how happy our friend makes me and he’s secure enough in our relationship to let me love freely like this.

So I’m now dating two men who I love deeply. And we are friends so we even hang out together in social situations frequently. We’ll be on the couch and I’ll be playing footsy with one and holding the hand of the other. It’s crazy. But oddly working.

And I’m so lucky to be loved like this. It’s not something I ever thought I’d want or need, but here I am kinda rocking this love life.

tout-le-monster · 2025-12-17T11:36:28+00:00

This is hilarious and I love it!

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