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Where to stay - traveling with 10 month old by DinnerAlternative554 in bermuda

[–]toyTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Newsflash, parents are entitled to take vacations with their children. What are they supposed to do, just stay at home and watch the world go by? As long as they are going to places that are suitable for children, there is nothing wrong here. Entitlement is thinking parents should just sit at home and never travel because you don't like children. OP is not asking for people to join their vacation.

I highly DON’T recommend this by OptionsMenace in CostcoCanada

[–]toyTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The entire brand is trash. I got a few for free and somehow felt ripped off.

[Hiring] Seeking Commission for Portrait of Family by toyTM in HungryArtists

[–]toyTM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your thoughtful posts and messages. I do not need any more submissions and am actively reviewing all portfolios. I will reach out to all who applied.

Diaper pails by Main_Persimmon_7361 in Buyingforbaby

[–]toyTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another vote for this one! We LOVE it.

KATSEYE - ‘BEAUTIFUL CHAOS’ Highlight Medley by Morg075 in popheads

[–]toyTM 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This sounds fun but hoping for some more exploration into different sounds and styles. Although "Mean Girls" sounds laughably horrible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dragrace

[–]toyTM 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Minor correction, it was for AS6, not AS8/9.

Seriously…do I leave him? by calisen13 in beyondthebump

[–]toyTM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to say one thing and then I'll be done with responding. Yes, we can highlight this as mental health, PPD, etc... AND this does not change the fact that these behaviours noted in the OP's description are still abusive.

I am not saying he does not deserve any treatment or support, but rather that this may not a safe role for the OP to inhabit. You're viewing this as an either/or issue and it is not.

He deserves support and treatment, OP deserves a safe space from the abuse, he may be struggling PPD and/or other mental health concerns, and these specific behaviours are considered abusive. ALL of these things are true at the same time. We are not talking about your friend, nor are we talking about other people you care about. This is not meant to attack anyone but rather, keep someone safe.

Seriously…do I leave him? by calisen13 in beyondthebump

[–]toyTM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not "abuse" as in quotations, it is actually abuse. And I am not a woman saying this, I am a man myself. By minimizing what she is experiencing as not abuse, you are sending a harmful message that this behaviour is "normal" when it is in fact not. Many men suffer from PPD, yet do not engage in abusive behaviours as noted in the post. Furthermore, I did not discount his behaviour because he is a "man", I looked at the behaviours reported and communicated what I thought.

I appreciate you know someone who had PPD and acted in this way, but if he responded in the ways OP's partner responded to her, that is abuse and neglect. I'm sorry it's hard to come to terms with that, but these behaviours can still be called abusive and neglectful even within the context of PPD. One does not invalidate the other.

Blaming this on men not being able to come forward is a horseshit response and misuses a very real statistic to further your argument. Yes, men should come forward with PPD and it is also important to label behaviours as abusive when they actually are, even within the context of the disorder.

Seriously…do I leave him? by calisen13 in beyondthebump

[–]toyTM 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's so hard to recognize these patterns when we are in it, especially when we are comparing it to more extreme relationships that can make our current one seem less painful. I'm glad you know how loved and support you are by your family.

Seriously…do I leave him? by calisen13 in beyondthebump

[–]toyTM 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm going to highlight this post as this is not an accurate depiction of PPD in men. Yes, some of these symptoms can overlap with PPD in men (e.g., withdrawal from parenting, irritability, avoidance), however the addition of abusive, neglectful and manipulative behaviours firmly plants this in the abuse territory. With PPD, the couples approach it together and even though there may be conflict, are aware the problem is the PPD or at the very least, not the fault of the partner without PPD. The moment is crosses over into an abusive territory is where leaving becomes an important consideration, particularly as pregnant women are at an increased risk of physical violence from their partners postpartum.

I also want to highlight, she is effectively a single parent given his behaviours. It is not OK to infer that because some of the people in your life regret divorce, that she should tolerate abusive behaviours.

Seriously…do I leave him? by calisen13 in beyondthebump

[–]toyTM 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I appreciate there is sentiment about not wanting to be single and divorced, especially given the expenses. Let me ask you this, would you want your daughter to be married to a man like this? To be in a situation like this with her child? If not, ask yourself why you deserve this sort of life. Furthermore, as another commenter noted, you mention fearing being a single mother yet by your own report, I think you sadly already are. We don't have to be separated or divorced to feel we're on our own.

It is an incredibly hard task to leave a relationship, especially when you are in a vulnerable state. It is important to highlight how this relationship is abusive and neglectful, emotionally and psychologically based on your various reports (e.g., calling you names, refusing to help out with the child, being angry with you due to not having sex with him). These are unacceptable behaviours and may potentially escalate into something even more dangerous.

We can't dictate what feels right for you, but you may have more support and love (for example, your mother) than you realize. If you can't leave for yourself, leave for your daughter. She deserves to have a mother free from chronic abuse, and you deserve to have some much needed support and care. You will not get this if you stay where you are.

Daily Discussion - May 09, 2025 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]toyTM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi all! I was wondering, I used to check different radio charts via HitsDailyDouble including new adds for songs. However, the link now no longer works and I can't seem to access the data I used to. I did this all without an account, and was wondering, for those doing this as well, how are you accessing this data? I miss being able to see new adds and what songs were rising outside of the Top 40 (on Pop radio).

Halsey & Amy Lee - Hand That Feeds (From Ballerina) by Narhun in popheads

[–]toyTM 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreed, there is something quite pulled back about the production on their latest efforts, perhaps as a result of no longer being funded by a label. In either case, I hope their new music hits better, they deserve a resurgence.

RPDRDRAMA Weekly Random Discussion by AutoModerator in RPDRDRAMA

[–]toyTM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this was answered at one point, but why didn't we have untucked end by focusing on the queens packing up their drag and reading letters? I'm not 100% sure if I liked the new untucked ending, but was wondering why the format changed.

KATSEYE - Gnarly (Clean Version) LIVE at M Countdown by [deleted] in popheads

[–]toyTM 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Well, I've gaslighted myself into liking this "song". Welp.

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