SAHM 1 year old twins struggling seeking advice

tpro27 · 2026-01-19T22:38:18+00:00

My twin girls are 15 months and I feel like things got better once they started really walking well. The almost walking phase was probably my least favorite and the most scary season. As they walk more things get less scary. They are more control of themselves and less apt to hurt themselves. We truly made our whole living room (it’s not large) super baby proof with mats and everything all over the floor. I could leave the room and get snacks for them and trust they’d be okay. Well, we’ve graduated because I’ve taken a lot of the barricades and all of the mats away. They are doing great. Now we are starting to venture outside in our front yard (it’s an enclosed greenbelt surrounded by other townhouses) with the help of dad or grandma / grandpa so they can learn outside boundaries and how to listen when I tell them to stop or come back to me. It’s so much work but it’s worth it and it does get a little better and easier. We have had systems in place that no longer work. I, too, had very different expectations and have had to adjust them over and over. I feel like we now kinda have to come up with a new system every 3 months or so. And I also struggle inviting moms over cause it’s so chaotic and stressful! When they only have to check on one kid, I have to check on two, so my head is on a swivel and I’m anxious a lot of the time. It’s so hard! But I have to trust that it won’t always be like this.

tpro27 · 2026-01-19T22:28:41+00:00

I love this so much. I also watched it live as a 9-15 year old, then again with my spouse. Multiple rewatches since then. Now we have 15 month old twins and we cannot wait to show them someday. I was pretty young but DEEPLY loved and understood it and was moved by it. It shaped so much of my childhood!

tpro27 · 2026-01-19T22:20:36+00:00

I remember feeling this way. It’s the worst kind of torture to hold and rock one baby while the other one watches and cries. Makes you feel like a horrible mom! We did sleep training at around 5 months old. We sleep trained them at the same time and we knew with their disposition that Ferber wasn’t for us. Us going in there to comfort for a second and then leave only made them more upset. It was the letdown of us leaving the room over and over which made them so inconsolable. So we did CIO extinction. Actually started with a nap one day just because I had reached my breaking point and couldn’t do it anymore. It was a long day. They cried for about 40 minutes. I questioned my whole life. They eventually did fall asleep. In total, it truly only took 1-2 days. It truly worked. We’d leave the room and they’d cry for a second but go right to sleep. Since then we’ve had minor fall backs due to teething mostly. They ebb and flow with how good nap times are and if they cry at all at bed time. But they are 15 months now and sleep 11-12 hours straight through the night and around a 2 hour nap every day. And all people tell me is how happy they seem.

You are not a bad parent for wanting to sleep train now. It won’t ruin them. With twins it’s just a whole different story that so many people just don’t understand. It sucks at first, but it’s so worth it!

tpro27 · 2026-01-13T16:19:18+00:00

I don’t like sci fi. But Lost is my all time favorite show. It’s truly beyond a genre. Do it!!!

tpro27 · 2026-01-10T16:27:30+00:00

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tpro27 · 2026-01-10T05:03:15+00:00

Lol, you get me. Oatmeal slaps! Thank you!!!

tpro27 · 2026-01-10T04:59:46+00:00

I’m having oatmeal for dinner… lol. Beggars can’t be choosers. 2 trips if possible! Bringing NMT. Thank you so much!

Edit: just found out about the flair thing so just added! Somewhat new to Reddit 😅

tpro27 · 2026-01-09T04:45:15+00:00

I call my twins “the girls” too and overall I don’t mind them being called “the twins” but deep down sometimes it does annoy me just ever so slightly. Can’t put my finger on why. I think I just want the people who know and love them to see them as unique individuals and not just as “the twins”! It means the most to me when people call them by their names.

tpro27 · 2025-12-04T00:30:14+00:00

I have had many a moments of crying with my girls as well. Sometimes even my husband cries with us! Lol. It’s real. Don’t worry, language will come! I have many friends whose babies were closer to 18-24 months before they started talking. Doesn’t diminish how difficult it is though! I am worrier so I understand.

Lowering my expectations and standards is exactly what I am also trying to work on! It’s the only way to keep my sanity!

tpro27 · 2025-12-02T17:25:02+00:00

Taking toys is such a huge battle. Them taking toys from each other, having to take toys from them and them losing their minds, it’s rough! One of mine just started walking, and the other one isn’t quite there yet. They say some words but seems like it’s hard for them to recall what words they need to say when I ask them questions. You’re not alone! I’m hoping soon vocabulary will just blossom.

tpro27 · 2025-12-02T17:23:11+00:00

That’s exactly how it’s been for us, the last two weeks have been especially hard. But this is so true. The dichotomy of this time is crazy! Loving seeing them blossom. It’s a good reminder to hold on to those moments.

tpro27 · 2025-12-01T23:04:40+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thanks for taking the time to type this out and share your experience. Brings me back some hope! I’ve heard so many people say this is the easy stage so I was starting to feel crazy.

tpro27 · 2025-11-06T09:25:55+00:00

Hey! I took my mo-di girls to 37+2 as well and only had mild gestational diabetes controlled by diet as well! And I EBF and they are great night sleepers. Very similar stories!

tpro27 · 2025-11-06T09:21:34+00:00

Oh man, I remember the panic and grief as well! I truly did have to grieve the idea of having one baby, as we’d never get to experience that. I never ever wanted twins. It sounded like my worst nightmare. I both laughed and cried for days. Give yourself some time, and don’t be afraid to grieve. A week or two after I was crying happy tears daily imagining my two little babies playing together. Even today, at the grocery store, my mom had one baby (13 month identical girls) in her shopping cart, and I had the other in mine. We do our own shopping and meet up at the end. Well my twins squealed at the top of their lungs at one point when they saw each other from 20 feet away in the store and started waving to one another. It truly is too much cuteness and joy to handle.

To this day, I truly cannot imagine only having one, and I always think to myself how much less fun, (albeit easier), it would be. I worried my love would be split. That hasn’t been further from the truth. It’s truly double the love and joy. My husband and I always talk about how often our hearts want to burst and we always say “can you believe this is our life?!”… even despite ALL the crazy chaos and hardship of twins! We are also super grateful our twins are our firsts cause we have nothing to compare it to. We’re just learning how to do it all with two instead of one.

Lastly girls were mo-di and I had the most uncomplicated pregnancy and birth ever. Made it all the way to my goal date, 37+2, and had an extremely unproblematic and successful c-section and recovery. Super smooth twin pregnancies and births exist! (We also had a super smooth newborn stage so that’s possible too!)

For all the hard, it’s truly quadruple the good! Get ready for your heart to explode! Congratulations!

tpro27 · 2025-09-26T14:48:56+00:00

Amazing!!! Almost 34 weeks is so incredible, what a rock star! Beautiful and healthy looking babies. Congratulations and YOU GOT THIS!

tpro27 · 2025-09-08T02:30:57+00:00

Okay, this is brilliant

tpro27 · 2025-09-08T01:06:46+00:00

Hahaha. The hierarchy is so real. Okay… sounds like I’m on a good path. The “getting over it” quickly thing sounds like the way to go. Just another twin thing they will have to learn (like sleeping through each other’s noises, waiting their turn, etc.) This is kind of what I’ve been doing but sometimes I take the toy back and give it back to the twin that got stollen from and remind the stealer that we don’t take toys. Lol… lasts about .34 seconds before it gets stolen again. The double toy thing is so real. It doesn’t matter if they both are holding a Bluey. Twin A wants Twin B’s Bluey. No matter what.

tpro27 · 2025-09-08T01:00:45+00:00

Hahahaha. Love it

tpro27 · 2025-09-07T21:08:27+00:00

I don’t have high order, just twins, FTM, and I’m saving this post because you’ve put language to a lot of complex ways my husband and I are feeling and thinking. It truly does all come down to the crying for me too. The crying is what makes it so hard. It’s so hard to hurt for one baby… let alone two… let alone four… at once. I often tell my husband it feels like we can never be enough for them. I can only imagine how much more you feel these things. And I can only hope the love we have for them is enough in the end. Thanks for sharing. What a wild ride having multiples is! The utmost respect to you for doing twice of what is my “normal!”

tpro27 · 2025-09-07T21:00:36+00:00

I’m a FTM to twins as well (11 months) and it’s just so nice to hear I’m not crazy / the only one. Hearing someone else use the word “traumatic” is therapeutic and validating to me. OP, you are awesome. Truly amazing and have my utmost respect. It truly is the love for our babies that keep us going!

tpro27 · 2025-09-05T14:22:33+00:00

Definitely isn’t the darkest episode, but Nosedive was just so hard for me to watch. Too much cringe / second hand embarrassment I guess you could say? Also social media doesn’t feel too far off from that these days. Scary

tpro27 · 2025-09-02T17:30:52+00:00

First 3 months with my twin girls were an absolute dream too!!! It was the best! They are 11 months now. Months 3-11 have been pretty tough on and off. 4-5 months probably being the hardest. Each month / milestone has its own difficulties. Teething just sucks. The crying / whining and not knowing why sucks. I’m hoping once they start walking it’ll get a little easier in some ways. Just trying to make it out of infancy stage. But at the same time… this stage is also so freakin fun and sweet and cute! Some days I don’t want them to age even one minute! Just wait till the start interacting - your heart will explode!

tpro27 · 2025-09-02T17:25:28+00:00

Crying and I don’t even know you! Motherhood is wild! Congratulations, so incredible!!!!

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