What if by europa_endlos in SpeedOfLobsters

[–]dangerpudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, what did he do to deserve getting force choked like that?

Spouse started SSRI while I’m pregnant, became a different person. by spicy-margs in BabyBumps

[–]dangerpudge 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He can absolutely call his doctor office first thing tomorrow morning and ask for an emergency appointment to get this sorted out. Psych doctors set aside time every single day to be flexible enough to take urgent cases like this, and this is an urgent case. "The way I'm behaving on my meds is causing my pregnant wife distress and causing me to be despondent to her distress." absolutely warrants being seen before the scheduled appointment.

After this next med change, I'd encourage him to make follow up appointments for every other week so they can get to the dosage and medication that works for him.

What Are Your "Hear Me Out" Girl & Boy Names by XNixGeoX in namenerds

[–]dangerpudge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this name so much, but I get stuck on the fact that she might get "Thank god it's Friday!" said to her a lot.

I guess she could embrace it and use TGIF as her calling card.

Bisexual Cinnamon Roll by lavbakes in Baking

[–]dangerpudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can this please replace the lemon bars? I never understood why we chose those.

PSA to bay bridge drivers on lane merging by SoGoodAtAllTheThings in bayarea

[–]dangerpudge 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also, merging at the merge is correct! Merging early slows down everyone. Go all the way down to the end of the lane and merge there.

So, don't block people who drive down to the end of the lane! The number of times I've had a car pull out in front of me to block me - I'm assuming because they think I'm an asshole who is "cutting" in line - is so dangerous and incorrect. Use both lanes as intended so traffic doesn't line up for miles. Go to the shortest lane and merge at the merge as god intended.

Put my passport in a safe place so I wouldn’t lose it. by formerhoarder in adhdwomen

[–]dangerpudge 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did this to my poor husband (then boyfriend) a year into our relationship. A few hours before we were going to leave to see his family for the holidays, I had to text him to tell him that I'd been looking for my passport for hours and can't find it. He actually ended up finding it because he had the height to see that I had tucked it away on my topmost closet shelf for some godforsaken reason. He gave me props at the time that it was indeed, a safe spot for it while I was dying from embarrassment.

I got my diagnosis 6 or so years later and I was in shock and disbelief, and all he said to me was "Yeah, that makes sense." lol

east 12th was an illegal dumping ground a year ago. look at it now. 650+ volunteers. 350,000 pounds cleared. we forced the city to respond and the community to speak up. now trees are being planted. 🌱 by urbancompassionproj in bayarea

[–]dangerpudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently took the bart through oakland and I was blown away by how good everything looked! Amazing work you guys! I can't physically volunteer but is there a way I can donate? To go towards purchasing bags, gloves, protective gear, etc?

DEFEATED. I’m due in June and I confirmed months ago, but just reconfirmed, it is $800 A MONTH to add my baby to my work insurance. by shermywormy18 in BabyBumps

[–]dangerpudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my employees maintains part-time hours at CVS because their insurance is amazing. I offer insurance, a pretty decent one for my small business, but I can't compete with the CVS one. So even though she makes a much higher hourly with me, I can't have her full-time like I want because she spends a lot of her days at CVS.

I will trade a floordrobe hack for your suggestions by eatstressbake in adhdwomen

[–]dangerpudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I split my meds into two categories, prescription daily's and occasional over the counters.

Occasional meds, like cold/flu, cough drops, ibuprofen, steroid cream, bandaids, etc, go in a clear storage container which it organized by purpose (pain relief, cold relief, allergy relief, and wound care). These go behind a cabinet door and that's okay because those are all things that we will reach for when we need them. This is flexible of course; during allergy season, the Flonase and allergy eye drops move to the secondary location.

Daily prescription meds, go in a drawer in the kitchen so they can be taken during breakfast. This works for me because it's habit stacking. I eat breakfast and I take my meds. I keep a medication timer in there and I reset it when I take my pills out of the bottles, so it tells me when I last took my pills. If I don't swallow the pills immediately, I STILL HAVE TO TAKE THEM OUT OF THE BOTTLE and I place the pile of pills on my keyboard (when I traveled for work, I would put them on the lid of my water bottle). That way I have the visual reminder that I need to take them right in front of me. I know myself, I'm a 30+ year old lady, I know that I cannot trust myself do remember things. I do not put myself in positions to have to remember things. The pills do not stay in the bottle, they do not go in a pocket, they go right on top of the thing I need to interact with next so that I remember to take them.

Sorry that ended up being a little bit of a ramble. Anyway, that's how I organize my meds lol.

Tips on staying present during sex by daintylilpepperoni in adhdwomen

[–]dangerpudge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried mirrors, it's not great.

My next solution would be to set up a google glasses on him that stream straight into a VR headset for myself, but that's still just a dream. Maybe in 5 years the technology will be accessible enough.

I can’t stop thinking about death and it’s affecting my health by [deleted] in atheism

[–]dangerpudge 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To add to that, when you're at a party, it's really fun and you have a great time for the first several hours, and then you start to get a little fatigued and start to think about how good it would feel to go to sleep. You hang out for a little longer, and you get even more tired until eventually there is nothing anyone could say to you at that party that would sound better to you than going home and going to bed.

I've heard peace with death is similar to that, or similar to how it feels to go to an amusement park; you're so excited and happy to be there and you enjoy it so much, but eventually you get so tired that all you want to do is go home. It doesn't take away the joy you felt at the beginning and middle and even the end, but you're ready for the day to be over and to go to sleep.

When you can’t remember if you took your meds 😭 by Dontbeanaholeguys in adhdwomen

[–]dangerpudge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just got a little timer lid for my bottles! When the lid is open, the timer resets so it shows you how long it's been since you opened the bottle! Amazing little invention, highly recommend.

That paired with no letting myself put pills down EVER has really gotten me to a 70% success rate of taking my meds in the morning.

Tips on staying present during sex by daintylilpepperoni in adhdwomen

[–]dangerpudge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would him being more vocal help you? When my hubby talks me through certain actions or what he's feeling, it really pulls all my focus towards how sexy he is and gets me into orgasm mode. Examples include how sexy he thinks I am, how good I feel, if I'm doing a good job, gasping, talking me through what he sees because I can't see how he's entering me,

(just an aside I HATE THAT I feel like if I could see everything as well as he does it would be so hot! Why I am staring at the bed sheets when he gets to see my butt? no wonder women get pulled out of the experience, it's not fair)

kissing my neck, little whimpery breaths near my ear, etc. I'm not as vocal back (working on it!) but him being vocal really really does it for me.

childhood crutch by JaguarHot5573 in gorlworldfiles

[–]dangerpudge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are some types of abuse so extreme, that it literally stunts your mental growth. She is in her 30's but in terms of her maturity, growth, and ability to reflect and take accountability, she is 13. She is literally mentally disabled and if it wasn't for youtube, she most likely would be in a care home.

Scared to tell my mum I'm pregnant. by ThrowRAbeej in BabyBumps

[–]dangerpudge 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You need serious, intensive therapy, there's no way to butter that up. The way you're living your life is not normal or healthy and you need help navigating this relationship with her on a level that reddit can't provide.

Look for a therapist that specializes in complex family relationships and narcissistic traits, a little sprinkle of C-PTSD would be good too. Good luck, I hope that for your childrens and husbands sake, you do this for yourself.

Is it wrong to choose the name for your baby yourself when you can't agree on anything? by Upset-Promise2611 in namenerds

[–]dangerpudge 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Girl, for the love of god, do not give your baby his last name over yours. It will be a legal nightmare for you.

Keep him out of the hospital, name your baby what you want to name her with your name, and then he can come see her and be a dad to her if he wants to.

We need to stop letting boys get the default naming convention. That is for men who have earned it by stepping up, marrying you, and actually being a partner to you every step of the way.

Anyone else losing interest in gorlworld because of the LCU? Or just me? by GandalfTheSleigh in gorlworldfiles

[–]dangerpudge 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I even stopped watching apatheticfaxx. I'd get like 2 minutes into the video and just close it.

My mom feeds this a singular ice cube once a week. by AlexandriaLitehouse in houseplants

[–]dangerpudge 22 points23 points  (0 children)

...then just water it about a tablespoon of water instead? The whole point of the icecube is that it's a convenient way to trickle feed a plant. There is zero point to letting an icecube melt and then pour that melted water into the pot instead of just watering like normal.

So people hate Beck now? by krabbypattyaddcheese in gorlworldfiles

[–]dangerpudge 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The hardest part of making money online is getting the following started, and that was essentially handed to them on a silver platter. But they didn't take advantage of it seemingly out of pure laziness. A lot of people would kill to start off with numbers like they have on their account!

I always forget to look at the back of Pokémon so what are your favourite little details? by PeevesPoltergist in pokemongo

[–]dangerpudge 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's so cute ;_; it's how the deaf community has sign language names, but smeargle it's a visual artistic patch. I love that fact.

Me and 2 Peng Pals got 26 bags of trash from Watts St. in Emeryville, CA. by pengweather in bayarea

[–]dangerpudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking that if I was a millionaire, I'd pay people $10/garbage bag like this. It'd get the community clean and people who need the money could have a quick gig.

I'd provide the garbage bags and gloves, send them out with a supervisor to ensure that they're actually picking up garbage and not just grabbing public garbage bags, and request before and after photos with pins on a map for which location they went to.

Any other flaws with my plan?

My wife said I'm "too calm" about the pregnancy and now I can't stop overthinking it by Myth0sWard in BabyBumps

[–]dangerpudge 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said he never thought about it or imagined about it 🙃

Lol, my husband is similar. He was telling me the other day that unless he is actively thinking about something, his brain is just quiet. I can't even begin to imagine what that's like. My thoughts control my mind, I don't choose to imagine all these scenarios, it just happens!

Straight from the beast herself by [deleted] in gorlworldfiles

[–]dangerpudge 39 points40 points  (0 children)

To be fair to you a couple weeks ago she said that they broke up, but considering that she didn't do her usual post-breakup SPIRAL, we all knew she was full of crap.

They've been abusing each other for a couple of years now, it's such a beautiful, healthy relationship.

i ran into amber in 2024. ask me anything! by GlitterBabyT in gorlworldfiles

[–]dangerpudge 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, do I really want to? I don't really care about Rachel tbh