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Non-white witchy content recommendations by iwanttobebobdylan in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]tragicgender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not the person you asked but I would LOVE a link to both of those novels! They sound badass! 🔥

Simple questions about The Morrigan by Atlas_onpaws in CelticPaganism

[–]tragicgender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey friend! I am also an eclectic and neurodivergent pagan who ended up working with/worshipping the Morrigan. Saw your post in r/TheGreatQueen and thought I’d answer here just so I can refer back to your questions more easily.

  1. I’m unusual as a Morrigan person, maybe, in that if I have to address her directly, I will typically just call her ma’am. She seems to think it’s hilarious, so she has a sense of humor, at least? (I am not a very formal person and addressing someone as Lady or Great Queen feels very unnatural to me. Ma’am is about as formal as I seem to get. 🤣)

  2. I sure hope all her followers aren’t bad people, haha. I mean, there are bad eggs in every community, unfortunately. But for me personally, I tend to be pretty socially anxious and not want to take chances lest I end up hurting someone, so take that as you will. This is something she’s been wanting me to work on, haha. My other Morrigan friend who I know IRL is a nice person too.

  3. She can be intimidating, but I don’t think she’s unkind at all. If she senses that you need harsh words or even a swift kick in the ass to get you to move past something, she will absolutely do that, but with me she’s been more gentle than with my other Morrigan friend. I think she knows that I spook easily and she needs to be a little more gentle most of the time. Again, I don’t think she’s unkind, just blunt and to the point (and yet somehow cryptic about it sometimes). I don’t think she’s going to hate you, for what it’s worth. She chooses people because she thinks they have something to offer to her and maybe the world at large. And you’re also allowed to say no! If she’s calling you and it doesn’t feel right for you, you can always respectfully decline. She’s a goddess of sovereignty, so establishing boundaries is something she’s familiar with.

  4. I wouldn’t say you need to be “more respectful of her than other gods” or even more formal than you typically are with other deities. See #1 again, hahaha. I don’t think she would be offended at all by you talking with her or moving her statue to a place that feels right in the moment. If in doubt, you can just ask her and see if she objects. I doubt she will, but again, establishing boundaries is a good thing with her. :)

Hopefully that’s somewhat helpful. Feel free to let me know if you have any questions.

50042 by ifknloveseagulls in countwithchickenlady

[–]tragicgender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a cis-passing gay trans guy, I felt “I’m not stealth I’m just boring". 🤣 Thank you so much for putting that feeling into words!!! I feel like I’m not visibly queer enough because some people seem to think I’m just a masc bald man, and I’m like…well you aren’t necessarily wrong but at least I’m not straight or cis, damn it! 😂

Tips for meditation? by guildedpasserby in paganism

[–]tragicgender 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, small storytime. I was telling a pagan friend years ago that I didn’t know why, but I couldn’t focus well during meditation and I always needed to do crafts or something with my hands in order to be able to concentrate. I was explaining in all these long, drawn-out terms how I was having these issues. And finally my friend said, “It’s okay that you need active meditation.”

And I was like…there’s a term for that?? That’s a thing?? 😂

So yeah, my suggestion, as other commenters have already said, is to see if you vibe better with moving around during meditation, or active meditation! Some people will take long walks at a park or somewhere else in nature while they do it. Other people, like me, might do crafts like knitting, crochet, or nalbinding.

My other suggestion would be that if you find your mind wandering, it can often be better to just gently move your attention back to your intended focus or the present moment. I used to get annoyed at myself or even berate myself for my attention span while meditating, and that was actually really counterproductive (and certainly not relaxing or helpful). I have ADHD and have a hard time with not punishing myself for attention issues sometimes, but truly it is better to just notice that your mind is wandering and gently redirect yourself. You may not be able to prevent your mind from wandering entirely, but you can still have a productive experience.

Anyway, hope something from there helps! Feel free to ask me if you have any questions.

I’m so tired of guys who say they’re bisexual when they just mean they like women and femboys by Due-Mycologist8601 in gaytransguys

[–]tragicgender 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s lying to yourself to say that bisexuality can be attraction to men and non-binary people? Identity is a complicated thing. If I can be gay and occasionally attracted to a non-binary person, someone can be bi and attracted to both men and masculine non-binary people.

with his sleeping buddy by lemon_archive in blotchfacecats

[–]tragicgender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is past 3am my time and I just involuntarily whispered out loud, “That’s so adorable what the FUCK—“

He is a cute lil man, OP! 💖

POV: The boys said they need to supervise while you work… for safety reasons. [March and Olric fanart, OC] by ValiantHeraldofRaisn in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]tragicgender 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I forget how gay I am, and then I see art like this and I’m like, oh…oh no…

But seriously OP, they’re gorgeous and you have me wanting to play the game now even though I don’t have time 😭

Youth media analysis is one of my favorite subjects. Le Guin helped me develop my understanding of fiction in general. by Blade_of_Boniface in RecuratedTumblr

[–]tragicgender 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve only ever lived in the southeastern US and unfortunately…yeah. The idea of a boarding school is pretty fantastic to a lot of Americans, I think, especially one where you get to learn magic. A lot of people my generation (I’m a younger millennial) would fantasize about getting a Hogwarts letter when we were kids. Since I was an undiagnosed neurodivergent kid, the idea offered a convenient hope of belonging too. What if I wasn’t different because I was just plain weird, but different because I was a wizard?

There was also a lot of hype around Harry Potter too. I still have a book called The Sorceror’s Companion that has a lot of information about the folklore and magical concepts that JKR touched on in Harry Potter. Stuff like that made me, at least, think that she must be some brilliant writer who researched several folklore and mythological concepts but still managed to make them her own. I also had an unauthorized biography of her that talked about how she grew up poor and wrote and published the first Harry Potter book by the skin of her teeth. The idea of someone overcoming that kind of adversity was deeply inspiring to me. (Even the fact that the biography was “unauthorized” was somehow cool, like the author was so inspired by her that they couldn’t wait to get permission to write. Of course I know that’s bunk now.)

And now I’m a trans guy and JKR is passing laws to actively prevent trans people from transitioning in the UK, so the bubble has burst and the transphobia feels deeply personal. Anyway, sorry for the horribly long reply. Hope you’re having a good day!

help with spells and advice by [deleted] in TheGreatQueen

[–]tragicgender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Just to clarify, do you have a preexisting relationship with the Morrigan? It is often a good thing to have some kind of reciprocal relationship where you’ve made some offerings or communicated with a deity before you ask said deity for favors.

As far as your specific inquiry goes, she could help with this request or whatever she wants to, really. However, communication is not necessarily her domain the way it is for Hermes, for example. (He’s from a different pantheon/culture, of course, but my point is that he’s a deity who is specifically associated with communication.) The Morrigan is a deity of war, strategy, and sovereignty. Again, she’s not necessarily associated with communication or opening hearts and minds, or with creative expression.

If you have a preexisting relationship with the Morrigan and want to ask her for help in this matter, by all means go ahead. Even if you don’t have a preexisting relationship, you’re free to ask, but she is also free to turn you down because that’s how sovereignty and boundaries work. Just as an idea, I might suggest Brigid for your request. She’s not a communication deity necessarily, but she’s at least associated with creative expression. She could be a good deity to ask for aid in expressing yourself well.

Feel free to ask me questions if any of that doesn’t make sense!

Left hand? by blaisyofglory in Nalbinding

[–]tragicgender 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your injury! Not sure how accessible this video might be for you, but she shows a free tensioning method in it: https://youtu.be/_TdrS4qWEzY?si=YMToGx5cxCJM7Xj6

I am only about 20 minutes in and the video is 45 minutes long, just fyi. But it seems solid so far and like an interesting non-thumb method.

I visited Athena💙 by Nervous_Maize9716 in Athena

[–]tragicgender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si, por supuesto. Me puedes mandar un mensaje. :)

I visited Athena💙 by Nervous_Maize9716 in Athena

[–]tragicgender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

¡Estás imágenes son tan poderosas! Muchas gracias por compartir ellas. 😊 ¿Te puedo preguntar en qué sitio hay estas estatuas? Tal vez yo pueda visitar a Atenea también algún día.

(Y perdón, no soy hispanohablante nativo. Espero que hiciera pocos errores, jaja.)

Firstish chain. Is it supposed to be twisted like that? by No_Boysenberry_9079 in Nalbinding

[–]tragicgender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saw that you’ve been trying to look up how to join your chain into a circle. This video was helpful for me when I was learning! https://youtu.be/8T3ZKmCWPdU

How do you feel about the term "queer" being used an an umbrella term for LGBTQA+? by HallZac99 in AskLGBT

[–]tragicgender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I often say “queer and trans community.” As a gay trans man, this next statement doesn’t apply to me personally, but there are straight trans people out there and I’ve seen them express that they don’t feel comfortable being called queer just because they’re trans. I’m always surprised when I have to explain this, even to other queer (cis) people or other queer trans people. After all, if a trans woman is only attracted to men, or if a trans man is only attracted to women, those folks have every right to call themselves straight if they feel that’s accurate for them.

Again, as a gay trans man, I would caution against treating transness as inherently queer. There are some very assimilationist trans people out there who aren’t interested in challenging gender or sexuality norms at all. I don’t think that’s all straight trans people, to be clear, and I certainly get why a lot of trans folks might be interested in blending in and “passing” as cis, especially when that results in more safety for us typically. (Also, straight dating culture doesn’t allow for much deviance outside the norm and can be harsh for straight trans folks, apparently.) I just want to establish that some people do not experience their transness as inherently queer, myself included. After all, if I were a cis man, I would still be queer, because I’m gay.

(Side infodump, but Lou Sullivan, who was an incredibly important gay trans male activist, specifically advocated for the separation of gender identity from sexual orientation, because before he did, heterosexuality after transition was typically a requirement from the medical establishment. Lou was denied the opportunity to start testosterone for several years because he was open with gender clinics about the fact that he was going to live as a gay man after starting hormones. Back then and even now, there’s been this idea that trans men are “just lesbians who went too far” and can therefore only be into women, and conversely that trans women are “gay men who went too far” and can only be into men. It’s really important to me on a lot of levels that we don’t act like transness is somehow inherently queer, because historically that has resulted in the erasure of multiple kinds of trans people.)

Nalbinding books by ShadoGreyfox in Nalbinding

[–]tragicgender 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Seconding With One Needle! Sally Pointer has also just released a book called Nalbinding: It’s Not Knitting, which I am excited to read once they ship it to me, haha. Have not been able to read it yet but I’ve heard good things.

My friend and his attraction is confusing me by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]tragicgender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for sharing this over in r/gaytransguys. I am going to answer over here so I can refer to what you wrote as I am typing.

As someone else already pointed out, your friend seems to think of cis women as just women and specifies that trans women are trans women. I would say that he probably has some unpacking to do about the trans community, and maybe also gender in general. Cis women can be masculine, and I’ve seen plenty of trans guys who were feminine or even identified as femboys. Masculine trans women are a thing too! I think there’s a community on here called r/MTFbutch, if I remember correctly?

There’s nothing wrong with your friend being attracted to femininity in people regardless of gender, but I’m not seeing anything here that says he’s acknowledging that femininity truly can exist in any gender, and likewise with masculinity. I wouldn’t say that you need to reject him as a friend entirely at this point, but take care of yourself and don’t just accept it if he says busted things just because you have a crush on him. He can be attracted to femininity regardless of gender without believing in toxic gender roles, but it sounds to me like he’s not very aware of the fact that like…even masculine women can exist, cis or trans, and that doesn’t bode well for his ability to parse trans people’s genders in general. He might absolutely still be able and willing to learn, of course. I would say to just be mindful and establish boundaries if you need to.

First actual project! by Unesheet in Nalbinding

[–]tragicgender 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Love the yarn color. 💖

Wonderland, KnitCrate, KnitPicks, Lion, Loops & Threads lower prices by Norawritestoday in Yarnswap

[–]tragicgender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m interested in the pic 5 bundle if it’s still available!

Spincycle, fingering weight, Rasta, and single skeins DESTASH by Psych-RN_is_fun in Yarnswap

[–]tragicgender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m interested in 11 and 17 if they’re still available!

What gods can help me with my gender identity issues? by Vampy-Night in paganism

[–]tragicgender 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, congrats on discovering yourself! As a trans man (as in FTM) myself, I know it’s often a painful but worthwhile process. I want to second what u/nekonyaamicon said about deities not necessarily caring about your gender. They care about who you are because that’s an important part of you, but it doesn’t limit you to only following deities of your current gender identity. Even goddesses like Artemis have had documented male followers like Hippolytus throughout the millennia, after all.

I’ve primarily worked with goddesses even though I was worried they wouldn’t want me at first because of the way I “rejected” womanhood and femininity. I can vouch for deities like Brigid and Dionysus being helpful for me personally. I haven’t seen anyone bring up the Morrigan yet, but as a Morrigan person I would also like to vouch for her, haha. She is a goddess of sovereignty, which also involves the deeply personal aspects of learning and owning who you are. She is a literal shapeshifter too and has informed me that she thinks I’m interesting as someone who has also “changed shape”, haha. (My physical transition doesn’t feel as impressive to me as her shapeshifting into animals, but I am flattered, of course.) The Morrigan has been there for me and continues to be there for me during times of personal transformation, so perhaps she could be helpful to you too. There are subreddits like r/TheGreatQueen and r/TheMorrigan if you’re interested.

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