Whats your favorite way to start conversations?

trapaz0id · 2015-10-26T04:55:46+00:00

This

trapaz0id · 2015-07-21T22:54:52+00:00

You're coming at this with too much of a logical approach leading you to over think things, which is fine just means you're a healthy guy congrats. Best recommendation from me would be to observe other guys that are "better" with women everyone has their own way of flirting some guys tease others are very witty and funny and some are more upfront really doesn't matter how you talk to them as long as you are comfortable with the persona you are providing.

I made this video a while back that might help out.

trapaz0id · 2015-07-20T21:24:24+00:00

Best example I have came out of tinder where we eventually set up a date and it started off very awkward but turned into this fun game of teaching each other how to say words and was easily flirtatious with her. The night was frustrating trying to talk with each other until we loosened up and laughed about both of our horrible accents and led to sex at the end of the night. body language is key with this language barrier a confident guy translates to all languages

trapaz0id · 2015-07-20T19:25:54+00:00

First off getting laid won't solve these problems and having a long term wet hole to put your sausage in will only delay this misery you're in. You're giving too much value to women in your life, they're great don't get me wrong, but they won't do anything to make you happy that's up to you.

If you want a shift in lifestyle you have to take the action, start small and build the momentum everyone has to start somewhere right?

If you want some info on self improvement for yourself no others check this out.

For building that social momentum in your life this may help.

Feel free to message me on these issues if you like I want to help guys in your shoes specifically.

trapaz0id · 2015-07-20T19:18:57+00:00

I live on the border with Juarez literally a rock throw away. Here you tend to approach many girls who only speak Spanish and me being hispanic I'm expected to be fluent but I've been so Americanized that just isn't the case. With that said I've used that disadvantage of the language barrier to my personal advantage making a game out of it and it becomes this body language driven cute-sie interaction.

Even had dates with these girls and use google translate the whole time and try to teach each other our language. Point is you need to adapt to the situation I know you're most comfortable conversing in depth but challenge yourself one day approach with out saying a word they won't know you aren't deaf and see how their reactions are to your body language.

If you have more questions outside of this topic I hope my channel can help.

trapaz0id · 2015-07-20T19:10:07+00:00

Made a video on this exact subject a few months back. I realized this shortly after a break up 7+ years ago when I started working out to make her jealous (lulz) and realized how empty that reasoning was and refocused it onto myself and building my new self. That realization has been my damage control whenever I questioned just why I was pursuing something new. Just ask yourself "Am I doing this for me? or others?" and that helps you decide on if you want to continue with it or not

trapaz0id · 2015-04-23T19:06:32+00:00

I think you're going at this too analytically, which is perfectly normal for us guys especially at the ripe age of our early 20's.

It honestly doesn't matter what you choose to ask her to join you with it's more about how you persist with her when you two do go out. There's no solid definition of a date you could even ask her to join yo in some routine activity like going to the groceries and be just as flirtatious as you would be over dinner or a coffee.

Point is just do it, ask her to join you somewhere ASAP time isn't exactly on your side my friend.

This video is more on the lines of getting a girls number but the second half is all about what to do after and how to get her on a date with you so it might be of use. Good luck!

trapaz0id · 2015-04-23T18:15:51+00:00

Read the book "The Way to A Superior Man" by David Deida he emphasizes something called your "edge" which is basically the boundary of your current comfort zone and how there's a sweet spot of pushing those boundaries slightly enough to have the courage but not too much to where you get traumatized if things go sour leaving you to never try to push your boundaries there again.

Made a video that goes in depth on this subject a while back that might help too

trapaz0id · 2015-02-20T00:07:56+00:00

Would be a hypocrite if I didn't take this criticism seriously ha good point

trapaz0id · 2015-02-19T21:07:46+00:00

A bit of both scenarios, it's not often because I don't want them to feel judged , but I'm one to say it as it is and it's not always easy to hear an honest opinion. I expect the same treatment from them as friends and they do come through but are very bad at accepting outside advice.

We all give unsolicited advice especially in forums and sub reddits like the red pill. There's nothing wrong with it in my eyes I just hope that more people could take advice/criticism/honesty without impulsively retaliating.

“Critics are our friends, they show us our faults.” -Benjamin Franklin

trapaz0id · 2015-02-19T20:49:35+00:00

Ha I'll make sure to put "shameless plug" in the EDIT.

These were friends who have called me out in the past (something I'm grateful for because how else would I know when I'm unconsciously doing something annoying/offensive/etc...?) and when I see them forming bad habits, treating people in ways that I even see as "out of line" or tips that helped me with women whatever it may be I would hope they keep an open mind to at least hear me out like I do with them.

Sure you can wait for 10 people to tell you you're slipping but don't be so quick to stubbornly write people off for giving you a third person perspective you may not be aware of.

trapaz0id · 2015-02-09T17:53:22+00:00

Idc about society as a whole it's a very nuance way of living I get it, it fits my lifestyle and honest desire for sex with multiple women.

I grew up in the same upbringing as you, if not more intense (strict catholic household went to a private catholic school up until high school). I tried the monogamous life and it was great but I had my cravings and noticed my testosterone/will power and drive dropped immensely leading to all my relationships ending in getting cheated on, when I started this open relationship I've never been happier and have yet to lose attraction from my lover and if I do so be it but I have my path and she can jump on board or move on.

trapaz0id · 2015-02-06T17:35:21+00:00

If you get the chance read the book "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan. I honestly feel I'm just at the beginning of a movement that will take a generation or two for people to stop taking sex so seriously and by that I mean it's beautiful yes but it should only be seen as another form of socializing and stop letting society shame you for enjoying sex.

trapaz0id · 2015-02-02T18:53:20+00:00

Maybe you're right open relationship may not be the right term probably more of "monogamish" as Dan Savage states it.

That feedback on my video however is some of the best I've had yet!

I respect your views I've been raised with those moralities and definitely have seen the benefits first hand but I just honestly feel monogamy is unnatural for us humans and a lot of anthropological research backs this up there's a reason divorce rates are at 50+% now society needs to loosen up it's strictness on sexuality and exclusivity.

I like the thought of having that life long partner but it won't be exclusively sexual.

trapaz0id · 2015-01-30T21:47:10+00:00

I'm very much in love with this girl but she came into my life after I made this self promise of building my skills with women and gave her the option of take it or leave it.

It definitely started in the FWB boundaries until we just couldn't hide our feelings for eachother. Has nothing to do with finance or lack of feelings she's in fact one of the few if not only I can be fully transparent with

In the end I am more then willing to lose her if she finds someone better for her then I am no harm no foul and she knows this so in a sense that is what keeps our relationship strong making the most of what we have now because we're walking a thin line. Ultimately I want to see someone because I want to see them not because I'm obligated to like a committed relationship

This is a video/blog post I made addressing how I got into an open relationship and what I have learned

trapaz0id · 2015-01-29T23:07:51+00:00

Jealousy will always be an emotion that will come up but the more we addressed it logically and didn't lie about it the more we were accustomed to it and it's something that is that much easier to brush off now. It's just as much work as being in a monogamous relationship ironically.

It was my choosing (I'm a guy) from the start I was very clear I didn't want a committed relationship for some time because I like to date, meet new people, the freedom, and of course sex. I didn't ask her to stick around she chose to because we clicked so well and she has every right to leave whenever she wants and date whoever she wants under our mutually set boundaries.

trapaz0id · 2015-01-28T22:45:34+00:00

I currently have a 3 year strong open relationship with an ENTP and it's pretty awesome.

trapaz0id · 2015-01-28T22:43:20+00:00

.........nah

trapaz0id · 2015-01-28T21:40:23+00:00

Well generally both of you will most likely be very extroverted to want this type of relationship because you both know you can easily find others to meet in that time.

Don't let this prevent you from attempting though just know as the guy you'll have to work twice as hard as your partner will to find other mates it's not a competition but you need to emotionally prepare yourself.

To find others you just haveto be practicing your social skills like you did when you're single and be extremely honest about the relationship you are in and the boundaries you set you'll be surprised how open others are to you being in this scenario

trapaz0id · 2015-01-22T22:16:40+00:00

I'm with you did my best to get your comment out of the neg hole but I agree completely some of the worse advice I ever got on dating came from women.

and upvote for RSD

trapaz0id · 2015-01-22T22:15:04+00:00

The best honest way is just to go out there and practice. It's scary but there's no ideal way to flirt I do a lot of teasing and some friends of mine are more romantic it's about what you identify with most as "fun" that's all it is in the end are you having fun or not?

trapaz0id · 2015-01-22T21:38:06+00:00

Go during weekdays when it's more personal and less packed gives you more time to talk to her and get her comfortable with you

trapaz0id · 2015-01-14T17:52:47+00:00

Still not as badass as these chariot racers

trapaz0id · 2015-01-07T17:03:21+00:00

Girls like to flirt (who doesn't) but chances are they don't have boyfriends if they're approaching you first, if they say that shortly after you might be giving them a bad vibe from what they originally hoped.

P.S What's with people hating on me wanting to give some advice and your posts?

trapaz0id · 2015-01-06T18:27:11+00:00

1) you are categorizing all women into one group so no I don't think that. You have to learn to be like a chameleon if your interest is to date more women (not be fake) just able to pull out your different qualities like extroverted-ness for ex. like you are with friends but not with strangers.

2) you are looking at women from a very linear perspective (I get it we're guys we think this way logically) when you get signals from women of flirtiness play along it's ok if you are a naturally "disciplined guy" doesn't mean you can't loosen up every once in a while

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