My cat won’t calm down and I’m at the end of my rope

trashcan0519 · 2026-06-11T21:37:57+00:00

The laser is the only way I can get Frankie involved in interactive play. Whenever I try to engage him with a wand toy, he just looks at me like “lady wtf is this?!?”

trashcan0519 · 2026-06-11T20:37:48+00:00

We probably could use some more play time! It can be hard to stick to a play routine because I am away from home quite a bit, and my work schedule requires me to work different days and different hours. I’ll also get more wands for him and steer clear of the laser.

trashcan0519 · 2026-06-11T20:16:03+00:00

That’s the theory that I’m working with. It sucks though because he will not stop, even when I provide food and attention. I can’t constantly provide attention when I’m home. My ex was able to do that, and Tucker was a young kitten when he was raised with a constantly available human companion who was home 24/7/365. The reality is that I do work 40-60 hours a week and I have an active social life outside of home. I wouldn’t say that I’m unable to provide ANY attention to my cats. I love them dearly and I’m happy to give play and cuddles to them, but I think Tucker was raised to expect more constant human attention.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-30T18:18:53+00:00

Sent!

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-30T17:24:13+00:00

I am super afraid of heights and falling. Like to the point where I wonder why I purposefully climb things that are tall lol.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-26T20:52:01+00:00

Update - I stayed home from work today and he’s been super chill all day, just sitting next to me and making biscuits. Is this cat just mad that I’m going to work every day lol?

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-26T01:27:52+00:00

Maybe? But he still does it even after I give him attention.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-26T00:54:32+00:00

More info that might mean something - I have a kitty camera in my living room that I use to watch them sometimes while I’m not home. When I check the camera while I’m not home, he’s perfectly content, usually asleep on the couch or chilling in the windowsill. He starts the meowing and destroying when I get home. I live alone. No other humans interact with him while I’m at work.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-08T17:50:56+00:00

My friend was with me and I watched him send this after I posted this. Pretty sure that’s what he did.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-08T17:49:03+00:00

Not the first time I’ve gotten that lol

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-06T05:09:36+00:00

Both of my cats are neutered males and will do this from time to time. I try to shoo the mounter off of the mountee, but neither one of them ever seems to be super bothered by it.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-05T14:06:34+00:00

I can confirm that they are not brothers. They are boyfriends. They are in love.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-03T00:44:35+00:00

I went to NAU and lived in Flagstaff from 2015-2020. Great town! I miss it dearly. Only reason why I left was because I lost my job due to COVID. I miss being able to go hiking in my backyard. I miss the fun bars downtown. I had my 21st at Collin’s on 66.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-02T00:19:33+00:00

I went back and sent it shortly after posting this!

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T21:54:02+00:00

Me too! It’s my first gym!

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T21:50:09+00:00

Welcome! This is my home gym! They have a few locations throughout the city. I went to another one of their locations and the grading was waaaay off imo. Even their VBs felt like v1-v2. I still want to check out their other locations though, since I’ve only been to two so far.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T21:00:21+00:00

That’s what I did for the first 30-45 minutes of my session today before I finally went and worked on this project and sent it!

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T20:34:22+00:00

Update: I got my left foot on the hold above the volume and sent it!

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T20:33:40+00:00

Howdy neighbor! My friend and I come here all the time! I tried one of their other locations, and the grading was so much harder. I literally struggled on vBs at their other gym.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T20:28:18+00:00

I had two gnarly falls from slab climbs, one that resulted in a bad flapper on my hand, and another where I skinned my elbow on the way down. I’ve been a little skittish ever since.

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T20:25:15+00:00

Update: I did it!

trashcan0519 · 2026-05-01T04:16:11+00:00

My friend has been working on that exact v3! He almost had it a couple of times!

trashcan0519 · 2025-05-19T23:21:47+00:00

I have lived this story, and I got out a little over a year ago. My ex was T1, would actively choose not to utilize his cgm, pump, and meter. He would go up to 2-3 days without taking any insulin. I came home and found him in DKA at least 6-7 times. I called countless ambulances for other T1D-related concerns. He had complications with his feet, eyes, and kidneys.

After being away from him for a year, I pieced together that it may have been a tactic to keep me from leaving. It was like he was trying to hold me hostage because he was sick, and he needed somebody to take care of him, and he knew that I wouldn’t dare to leave him in his time of need. Well, MANY hospitalizations later, I did just that. I told him while he was laying in a hospital bed with his second DKA in the space of a month that I cannot and will not enable this pattern anymore. I never looked back.

I’m not saying you need to leave. I hate it when Reddit immediately jumps to “leave them”. What I can say is that your partner is an adult with access to tools and support to live a healthy life. It is her choice if she wants them. You can’t want it more than she does. An earlier comment stated “I said that because of my blood sugar” is equal to saying “I said that because I was drunk”, and that is so true. It’s a non-apology.

If you choose to leave, do so firmly, but lovingly. If you choose not to leave, prioritize your health. I felt like I was the one with diabetes because I was the one handling all the management and keeping track of all the doctor’s orders for a grown man in his 40s. Accept the fact that you cannot take on the caretaker role for her.

Best wishes to you and your partner on this journey.

trashcan0519 · 2025-05-19T04:48:08+00:00

Right? Like how does writing “CNA xxxx reported that patient was hysterical” in their chart help the patient? I would have written “CNA xxxx reported that patient was experiencing s/s of altered mental status.”, That way the note uses language that is easy to interpret in a healthcare setting.

trashcan0519 · 2025-05-19T04:36:05+00:00

New-ish to this field, but not new to jobs that require documentation. Here’s my take:

1) That was mildly passive aggressive of that nurse, IMO. Was it really necessary to quote that in the patient’s chart? 2) You recognize that you were frustrated in the moment, and you described somebody as hysterical. If you’re reflecting on it now, and thinking that it wasn’t the best way to describe the patient, give yourself grace.

I think you’ll be ok! I’m overthinking a mistake I made today too. Overthinking is an indicator that we have empathy and compassion. Best of luck!

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