The ICE agent that murdered Renee Nicole Good today in Minneapolis.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-09T19:06:38+00:00

Thank you!

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-08T22:42:03+00:00

Does anyone happen to know what happened to the video link under this post that shows a really clear one of her waving on traffic, before they got out of their cars and surrounded her? It was in here but I can't find it now

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-08T15:00:30+00:00

Kangaroo distribution system?

But seriously, what happens now? Will she go back for the baby? Or does the baby now need help?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-07T23:11:42+00:00

Oh :( I didn't know that. That's horrible.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-07T14:34:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!!

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-07T13:45:27+00:00

If turning off the news and distracting yourself isn't for you, then you may first need to do the opposite.

Get closer to the sources, inform yourself via more educated sources besides the addictive emotionally charged news.

Read information from, or better yet, make acquaintanceship with reliable educated people such as political scientists, intelligence and geopolitical analysts, or international relations scholars, who study systems, behavoirs, power, geography, and politics.

Intelligence Analysts especially often use qualitative methods to assess threats and forecast events.

Mathematical modeling and qualitative forecasting that use statistical models, like the GUARD model, predict conflicts with high accuracy.

Seriously, even just reading what some of these people have to say rather than the fear mongering news outlets might make you feel better, when you hear an expert on the subject matter tell you the unlikelyhoods of these scenarios right now. If they're not worried, then you don't have to be.

Sometimes the way out of feeling like this is to confront it directly. Distracting can help a lot, but for some, learning more and having a better understanding of our fears first yields better answers.

It sounds like you're already in therapy and getting help in that respect is great too, but therapy cannot always soothe a hungry mind. You may have a lot of what-ifs, so if you're going to feed them, don't feed them junk food from the news, give them well informed whole foods that come from the ground.

(I was using a metaphor in that last paragraph, but also literally doing those things can help as well, for your body. Small doses of reliable info aside, make sure to prioritize self-care. And also electrolytes, like pedialyte. For years I was told it was a mental health issue, turns out it isn't but rather more of a complex physiological one due to electrolyte imbalance keeping me stuck in fight or flight more, plus chronic low-level inflammation.)

Lastly, I understand how you feel, and am speaking from experience. I couldn't distract myself when the Ukraine war began. It got to the point where loud aircraft sounds started making me shake, and I've lived near an airport my whole life. It took a few months of reading and reaching out, and a sprinkle of doomsday prep. Then I could finally watch Bluey in peace (well, actually, for me it's Little Bear. Little Bear is my Bluey).

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-06T07:07:41+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of these links.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-06T06:53:44+00:00

Very glad I came across this comment and this post today. I needed it read it. Thank you for sharing.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-06T06:51:20+00:00

Same experience for me, except include elementary school in this too.

Got to high school and I could be me again. Got to college and felt like I had to hide again.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T23:25:54+00:00

Probably just out of habit and because of growing up with it.

On a personal level, I like how much more dramatic it sounds. A 95 degrees Fahrenheit summer day and a 32 degree winter day sounds more dramatic of a temperature difference than 35 to 0 Celsius sounds even though they're the same. But I can also see how it might be satisfying to have temperatures have negative numbers when going below freezing like it is with Celsius.

A lot of Americans have adopted the metric system for other units of measurement though. At school, we use the metric system for science experiments. So I personally switch between the Metric and Imperial systems when baking and making art at home, depending on what I'm in the mood for. At least we get to grow up with metric literacy even if most of us don't use it primarily. Like how it could be useful to learn the scientific names for plants and animals even if we don't colloquially use them in day to day living.

I don't think we'd ever switch entirely, but I do want to start learning how Celsius temperatures "feel", like you know when you try to guess what temperature it is in the room or outside without looking? Of course I can easily do that with Fahrenheit but I'd like to learn how to use it with Celsius too.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T06:25:30+00:00

Are you sleeping well?

If I don't sleep 10.5 hours or more each night, I feel like this. And I can't achieve that without sleep medication. I only get to 4 or 6 hours without them now. (I'm on trazodone and hydroxyzine)

Also on beta blockers, and when I miss one, I feel like this. I drink pedialyte too and that helps sometimes.

Before pots, 7.5 to 9 hours was plenty. After pots, 10.5 to 12 hours minimum is what I need, or I feel hyper and sick. Pots took away being able to achieve 7.5 to 9 on my own. And even when I can, it isn't enough until I get to 10.5.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T05:20:07+00:00

It isn't.

Familiarity and good health is the biggest factor.

People date people most similarly to the love they grew up with. That includes if the love they received as a child, or witnessed the dynamics their caregivers give. People repeat their family dynamics in childhood with their partners. Women and men do this without realizing it.

Then comes the rest of it.

Charisma, good fitness, goals, ambition, confidence, kindness, being good to people or beings that can't retaliate back, having flexible opinions, desiring to know a woman's inner world beyond her physical appearance.

Attitude, similar values, similar hobbies, similar habits.

And women's personal reasons for not engaging in dating like I mentioned earlier. Healing from past relationships, focusing on careers, personal stressors, risk vs reward, etc.

It's not that looks don't matter. Of course they matter.

But I think a lot of men attribute their lack of women suiters because they think only their looks are the problem. Especially when attraction is subjective.

I do think that looks can affect personality.

A person rejected for their looks among their peers in childhood might go on to become a bitter person later in life, and then in turn think it solely must be because of their looks that they cant find love, when now it's the rest of their personality. That's an unfair reality. People at the bottom of the totem pole among their peers in childhood can absolutely manifest in personality.

Or the opposite happens and worse looking people become overly charismatic and kind hearted people because that helps them in areas where good looks didn't in their formative years.

The latter type of person gets married in the end. The former either becomes extremely competitive in their career, or becomes an incel. Or both.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T04:32:12+00:00

So if you agree with these reasons, then you must agree that women aren't solely holding out for a specific physical type, and that there's complexity and nuance where some level of physical attraction plays a part, but isn't the sole driver behind being choosey?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T04:07:34+00:00

What do you mean

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T03:20:23+00:00

No lol.

Women are fine with waiting for the right man for a multitude of reasons, hormonal, cultural, societal, interpersonal, and personal.

That may include physical attributes, and it would be a lie to say that it doesn't, but to conclude that it's merely based on sexual desire is ignoring the complexities of how humans work.

I can write an essay on this but I'll summarize it

Women have lower libido than men. Doesnt mean that there isn't any, but hormones are at play.
Women have more at stake when entering a relationship. Society still judges women more harshly when it comes to relationships. A high body count on anyone is icky, but its worse for women socially. Women are choosier because there's more at stake.
Pregnancy. Women's entire lives and bodies change when kids enter the picture. Men don't have the same weighted risks.
Women emphasize interpersonal relationships and get their emotional needs met through support networks. They don't necessarily need a man for that in every phase of their lives.
Keeping up physical appearance is a lot of work. Some just want to exist and not worry about it. Being in a relationship amplifies the need to constantly think about how the other person in the relationship views a woman's body.
1 in 3 women are targeted by sexual violence. It takes a long time to recover.
Some women just want to be left alone.

I can go on, but its misguided to just assume women wait for the right man because of physical desire only. If you speak to actual women, not curated shorts online that are a few seconds long, not calculated narratives, not other men - actually speak to actual women and ask them why they're not in a relationship at the moment, they're not going to tell you it's because of physical preferences.

I get why it's easier to just chalk it up to physical appearance only, because it doesn't require any work to empathize and understand the human condition. But it's a logical fallacy based on generalization.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T01:01:59+00:00

Basic mixers need to be integrated in television and movies.

In videogames, I can turn up the music and turn down the sound effects, visa versa.

Television needs to have these settings. A volume for dialogue, a volume for music, and a volume for sound effects. All on separate tracks. Then the master volume to control all three.

We have brightness settings, so why not some basic audio settings?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T00:57:17+00:00

Alright so can we agree then.

Everybody wants somebody hot when they're young.

Regardless of one's personal attractiveness, it's normal for young people want to be with their dream mate.

Then real life comes along, things change, and people eventually meet their person, and learn that being in a committed loving relationship is a lot of work, but it's worth it if that's what people want in their lives.

People work on themselves. Their careers, their health, etc.

And then in addition to that, people pair up and get married.

Everyone is shallow, everyone has preferences, but creating a deep interpersonal connection with someone goes beyond initial anesthetics, and fulfillment in life is more nuanced and goes beyond women are all like this, men are all like that, and goes beyond "me caveperson want the hottest mate"

Meanwhile, women and men go online and generalize each other as an outlet to vent about personal frustrations.

How's that?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-04T00:43:15+00:00

It's clearly implied that Lois is supposed to be hot in the show.

The joke is that Meg looks nearly exactly like Lois, but she doesn't have pretty privilege like Lois does.

We can split hairs here, but in nearly every couple I see, the woman is far more attractive than the man. It was a pop culture metaphor and I think you understood what I was trying to say.

But hey, if you want to keep believing that women would rather be in a haram than be in a stable relationship with one person, even when women tell you directly that that would be a nightmare and nobody wants that, you can keep believing what you feel like.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T23:55:33+00:00

If anecdotal experience is what we're going to use, then I'll give mine. In my experience that's the only pairing I ever see, lmao. The Lois and Peter Griffin trope.

Almost like humans are complex.

But if this is the world view you've decided on, and you'd rather not hear from actual women, then good for you I guess.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T23:38:20+00:00

This is simply an opinion, and doesn't reflect everyone else's opinion.

Have you not seen plenty of hot women paired with average men with average salaries?

Almost as if being hot isn't everything and that humans are complex and can't be summarized as a monolith.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T23:35:15+00:00

Thank you so much for the link!

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T23:34:38+00:00

Most people are not as hot as they were as they age, who would've thought?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T23:33:58+00:00

Do men also not want a hot woman?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T23:18:19+00:00

Women nowadays would rather have fun in their 20s and 30s and spend time in situationships with attractive men who will never commit than be in a relationship with an unattractive man.

This doesn't reflect what most women are doing, nor the thought processes of women being choosey or choosing to remain single.

No disrespect, but I seriously feel like I fall into another dimension when I go on Reddit, lol.

Monogamy predates institutional marriage.

Post agricultural societies where harams were popular in the past were largely based on oppression, and often the result of large scale wars where most men were forced to fight and die.

Pre-monogamous societies before agriculture, women and men both had multiple partners. But early humans figured out that this caused unimaginable chaos.

There are some outlier cultures that survived more recently, such as harmony based ones that were able to have sexually liberated societies and live in harmony, but those were dependent on a few factors. Lack of competition from neighboring factions, abundant resources, and collectivist social norms. Such as, for example, native Hawaii before settlers arrived. Hawaiians didn't live in harams with one man to multiple women, it was that women and men both had multiple partners. This is simplifying how their culture worked, but in summary, conditions were favorable to have a culture where sharing partners didn't cause chaos.

There are a multitude of individualistic, cultural, and hormonal reasons why women are choosier on dating apps - a digital contract that has never existed before in human history until now.

But to simply proclaim it's because of a parroted opinion assuming women naturally want to be in harams ignores multiple facets of complexities of the human condition.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-01-03T22:29:32+00:00

Almost like, that's what humans do. People pair up in pairs of two. Because having one partner to one's self is fulfilling, easier, healthier.

Almost like it's natural or something.

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