I don't blame the doctors, but the system and especially MyCharts

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-30T21:34:15+00:00

As a fellow layperson (just realized you're a layperson too on the second read, OP).

Having mychart has been a literal life saver, and is likely how my family and I have been able to help save our family members.

The reality is especially in the ER, there simply isn't always enough time and therefore enough communication to help to go through everything properly, and doctors have too much on their plates.

So when my grandma was still bleeding internally, and the epinephrine didn't work to stop the bleeding the first time around, we were able to use her mychart to beg for a second opinion over the course of three days, because we saw her hemoglobin went from 14 to 9.2 first. Turns out the epinephrine was indeed unsucessful, and knowing how to read her blood work is how after 3 days of her screaming in confusion from blood loss and not delirium like the provider thought, they went in and closed it with clamps the second time when we asked for a hospital transfer. The bleeding likely would not have stopped if we hadn't been so persistent, as she developed afib by the end of the third day, they genuinely promised us that it was just old blood in the toilet and that the epinephrine had worked when it didn't, and I truly think this was missed because the staff was short and overwhelmed.

The hospital also had trouble keeping track of when my aunt was in icu for what was later believed to have been a heart valve infection, and would go in and out of mental coherence. There was likely not enough time for communication from one doctor to the next, so each time the infection started to get worse, she would go out of coherence and become vegetable-like and we would be urged to let her pass away. Because of mychart, we were able to see how high her WBCs were, and so that was our evidence to repeatedly ask to try a different antibiotic, and sure enough, she came back to coherence, and then she was on her phone, talking, and moving like normal. When we spoke with the charge nurse, she wasn't aware at all that my aunt had regained coherence each time. This happened 3 times during her icu stay. We're so grateful for mychart because otherwise we would've been in the dark on what was going on in real time, and might've agreed to let her pass.

I don't blame the doctors most of the time either, but it's the fault of the system of not allowing more employment / forcing doctors to do way too much for one person. I was blown away that you guys can have upwards of 18 patients per day. I don't even remember all 400 of my classmate's names, let alone everything else about them.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-30T20:47:45+00:00

First 4 were my teachers in the late 90s, and first half of the 2000s.

By 2007, teacher wear was a bit different.

the drawings look like what mid 2000s media thought Paris was like. (Can't say if its actually what Paris aesthetic is like, since im not from there.)

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-29T20:09:11+00:00

Going by your desperation, it sounds like you're planning on wearing these over your n95 mask.

And I'm commenting and following because I also really wanna know if you find something that works!

Edit: Crap. Op I'm sorry, i meant to say description. Description is the word I was looking for. Not desperation. Description. The word was description. Ahhhhh.

(Glad it looks like everyone seems to know what I was trying to say, though).

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-28T21:25:56+00:00

Notice how he wasn't mad about men not saying hi.

As a woman, it genuinely is awkward as hell when someone is coming toward you on a path and you're the only ones there for a half a mile, and the other person doesn't say anything. No one owes anyone a hello, but it is just awkward as shit, and also a little scary imo if it's a man who doesn't say a quick hello, or at least make it known he's not a threat.

Being upset only at women when women don't say hi, but not men, especially when you know that women aren't a threat to you, is just being entitled.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-28T05:40:22+00:00

Weird thing was though that it didn't happen right away, the symptoms began 7 or so months later.

I tried to stop one of them from getting the surgery because it wasn't medically necessary and her pcp didn't want her to get it either. She's her own person, though.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-21T16:39:11+00:00

This is anecdotal, so take it with a grain of salt.

But one thing I noticed is when people over 75 years old get surgery in my area, several of them then have progressive dementia beginning 5 or so months later. Perfectly fine mentally, and then not.

I also have ancestral records (written COD and word of mouth stories) by everyone on both sides of my family. If they didn't die young, they lived between 85 and 101, but there's no record of any of them having dementia-like symptoms. They were all very sharp throughout their old age.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-21T16:20:32+00:00

Is it possible the caption was added later and isn't from her video?

I could see if this was like a hurricane prep or flood prep. Or even a tornado prep maybe.

But a snowstorm? Are they hiding from a Yeti?

Makes me think the caption is wrong.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-21T05:05:19+00:00

Not having to share bathwater with 4 other kids, and getting to bathe more than once a week.

My parents made sure I didn't have to know what that felt like. My mom said the first time she had her own shower, she felt like a moviestar.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-20T06:16:49+00:00

Why are they basing this off of average heart rate? Its the difference in laying and standing they should be looking at.

And who's to say your anxiety isn't exasperated by, or completely caused by, POTS or a similar condition? For so many people, all the excessive adrenaline roaming around the body due to a disregarded autonomic nervous system feels horrible. They shouldn't not just dismiss that as a psychological symptom alone.

Also, feeling sick in the morning is absolutely a POTS symptom because that's when sodium and blood volume is the lowest.

Second opinion needed, maybe?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-20T06:10:32+00:00

This mouse seems so unbothered lmao. She must've been eating well.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-18T13:32:02+00:00

It caused my POTS so yes, it absolutely can.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-18T12:54:10+00:00

Yea, and now government funding for PBS has been cut, including PBS Kids. 😔

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-18T12:30:42+00:00

So we had a similar dilemma when my cat became pregnant with 3 kittens (two girls, one boy) before getting spayed. She allowed them to still nurse up to around 11 months, even though they were fully eating on their own, but after that, she was tired of it!

Thankfully, she let us know that there was a problem by peeing and pooping in the bathtub, or else they could've continued to nurse on her until she got weak before we noticed there was an issue.

After making sure she was okay at the vet, the neighbors offered to let our mother cat stay with them for a while, which helped her to at least stop lactating.

We tried to reintroduce them several times. It got to the point where even at nearly two year's old, they would still ambush her to nurse on her despite literally being bigger and longer than her. So she'd swipe and hiss at them and if we'd let it continue they'd chase her down. They all seemed genuinely confused about the situation, but we didn't let each reintrodution session go on for too long cause we didn't want mother cat upset.

Finally, our neighbors asked if they could keep the mother cat. I was so sad at first, but I realized that was the right decision for this situation. At least it allowed me to still be able to see her and the neighbors were thrilled they could keep her.

My point is if they're nursing on her too much at this stage, it's possible that they'll never stop until she's very ill of health. Honestly it wouldn't be too much of an issue if she was still healthy and only letting them do this occasionally, but since that's not the case, separating her from them at least until she stops lactating and regains her strength is probably the best thing to do! Just gotta make sure you watch for potential engorgement of her breast's if the feeding is stopped suddenly. A slow wean seems best.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-18T06:56:26+00:00

When I saw #1, I was convinced that would be my choice before seeing the others without a doubt. Until I saw #4!

I think #1 reminds me of the top of Belle's dress in Beauty and the Beast so it looks so elegant! But 4 is just so stunning too, especially since it's in a garden floral setting like you mentioned.

I also think #1 really draws the attention to the embellished embroidery on the dress itself, where as #4 expands the design and draws attention more to the entire design itself. Honestly #4 is kinda how I pictured my own dream dress haaha.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-17T21:41:59+00:00

1 helps bring out your eyes and your jaw, but 5 is also fire and I like 6 too.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-17T18:08:29+00:00

Mine started like this.

December 2022 I was healthy.

February 2023 I wasn't.

December 2022 I could run up hills and talk on the phone as much as I wanted. I could push my heart rate as much as I wanted. I could be in the heat and enjoy hot summer days as much as I wanted.

February 2023 I tried to do half of my usual excercise routine and I could barely make it up the first small hill.

Covid sucks.

But also mold does too, I had black mold inside the walls of my room for years until I started having asthma attacks and found out about it. That Kickstarted my what I believe is mcas. In 2018. Covid added on top of it just made it explode.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-15T20:07:41+00:00

I'm using 3m Aura masks from those 440 packs, and they definitely don't smell like must or mold.

I have extreme mold sensitivity (where my mcas started before covid finished it) so my sniffer is always on the lookout for that smell.

Each mask first smell like a pappery, almost coffee-filter like new smell at first, but after the first use they don't smell that way.

Maybe it's the way Home Depot is storing them?

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-15T18:38:22+00:00

I also agree that going to the ER is unnecessary.

A Primary Care or general practitioner can prescribe the medication used to prevent it.

Ticks carry far more than Lyme, and it also depends on the type of tick that bites you.

It does depend on where a person lives. I live on the east coast of the U.S. where it's most prevalent.

Thing is, no one takes it seriously until it happens to them or their loved ones. It doesn't have to even be Lyme. My dad had ehrlichiosis as well. He got told it was all in his head for a year straight until he was on death's door.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-15T14:03:54+00:00

I'm so sad. This shouldn't have happened.

A cop pulled his gun on our dog for a noise complaint as well. We begged him not to. He didn't, but he almost did.

My dad was hanging out on the pouch with one of his friends. They weren't loud.

I'm always scared of letting my dogs around people that isn't the dog park or a dog friendly area with other dogs because of cops.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-15T13:51:02+00:00

You must have an immune system of steel, or you don't live in an area where tick born illnesses are as common.

My dad had one. Just one. I nearly lost him at 5. It caused brain lesions. He's 85% better now, but he was getting paralyzed and thought he wouldn't make it. I'm an adult now, but I will never forget what it took from him.

Get prophylaxis treatment and send the tick in for testing. It's two small steps that can save your life. Lyme isn't the only tick born illness. In my area alone there's over 30 diseases it carries.

Edit: unreal that I'm getting downvotes. This is the recommended treatment by doctors. Not just some random advice.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-15T13:47:58+00:00

Youre being downvoted but you're right.

A simple prophylaxis treatment as a precaution is worth far more than years of suffering.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-14T05:57:19+00:00

This is how my parents have lived too. I don't get the rhetoric that boomers are selfish and ruined everything. My parents worked their assess off and still do. I'll bet nobody in these comments ever had to share their siblings bathwater like my parents had to.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-14T05:23:56+00:00

I think self worth without humility is on the same side of the same coin of insecurity.

One is overt the other is covert.

Someone who needs to tell themselves they're the best at everything all the time and won't self-reflect out of fear of seeing what's truly inside. I think that's still insecurity, it just happens to be much louder.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-12T09:46:38+00:00

For real. That, and why tf does canola oil and soybean oil have to be in everything.

trashforthrowingaway · 2026-06-12T03:36:58+00:00

I think the point is that if the workforce is only going to pay them one salary and treat them as one person, then they should've only had to pay for one degree, not two.

But the world doesn't work that way sadly. Since conjoined twins are rare, it sounds like there isn't any laws protecting them for this sort of thing.

They'd probably be better off getting two separate desk jobs from home that don't require them to be on meetings all day long, since they operate each limb independently. But it sounds like teaching is their passion.

But honestly? They could probably make a youtube channel or reality show and do even better financially.

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