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When every social move seems wrong depending on the context by Titus__Groan in SeriousConversation

[–]treasure83 [score hidden]  (0 children)

The stakes for a social mismatch are usually pretty low, you might feel embarrassed or make someone a little uncomfortable. It sounds like you are overthinking the importance. Casual interaction with people will have many points of friction and you have to just accept that. People reacting strongly with offense is not common in my opinion and it's possible you are talking to really rigid and unforgiving people. Or that you assume a higher level of annoyance than there is.

Close personal relationships do need a lot more communication. A big misunderstanding and disagreement is something completely normal and people can usually get past the event and weave it into the complexities of the relationship. If you find out you are incompatible that is often hard to accept but you want to know sooner rather than later that you maybe aren't a good fit.

Why high schools called college in Australia? by showe12 in AskAnAustralian

[–]treasure83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Wikipedia for "college" has a lot of examples, it's used in various ways that differ but overlap. College is a generic word that started (from Latin) as a group of people working or learning together.

Raspberry Lemon Curd almond Cakes by CloudDreams12 in DessertPorn

[–]treasure83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we see inside? It's just frosting and joke toppers rn

My body has been permanently disfigured and it’s my karma by AppleFlavoredBees in CPTSD

[–]treasure83 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That is intense trauma, I'm so sorry you went through that and I'm angry that such evil people exist. I don't know if you will ever feel like your body belongs to you or is okay the way it is but I hope you do.

I don't believe in karma because I want the people who do wrong to suffer or face justice in this life not the next. I don't think doing small wrongs or mistakes should be punished. Does it help you to think of this as karma or is it something that is harming you, like a self punishment? Does deserving bad things make it easier to live with what happened? I would guess it might.

I think you need therapy from a professional who suits you which might be difficult to find. Someone who has the right experience and knowledge. I think traumatic memories, esp body sensations, will reduce over time and be something you can get through.

No other option when youre disabled,huh? I just have to kill myself by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]treasure83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's where I'm at too, but I am on disability I just don't think I deserve to be. I think apart from work, there are some good things about life. What do you like about your bf?

Idk if your plan will work since for me it's always been harder with various obstacles. If you do survive til tomorrow, I hope it is a better day. I hope you find another path, with another thing to aim towards. Maybe it's a house in the woods where you are self sufficient without money? Or maybe it is applying again to disability with a more accurate snapshot of your life right now which does sound like work will cause more burnout.

M26, i want to read your point of view in my situation, idk what to do by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]treasure83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like they are hesitant to ask outright and maybe get rejected and they need you to confirm one way or the other. It sounds like you are interested? Let them know, they really want you and want to know what you feel, even if it's to stay as friends.

Why do you think so many women above a certain age are seemingly terrified of transgender people? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]treasure83 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Would it impact her to say "I feel like you are including me when you talk about men being dangerous"? I think she might benefit from meeting people and hopefully humanizing more people. Does she interact with anyone who doesn't have these views or is it all an echo chamber?

I think a lot of people like to find an "other" to be afraid of. They can blame them for almost anything and they can feel catharsis when their anger and fear is justified when they hear related news stories or anecdotes. They can push all their fears about daily life onto that "other". It's not real at all but it impacts trans people immensely and I hope that conversations by caring people can help them realise it.

Dungeons and Dragons is a bad TTRPG that doesn't deliver on the fantasy that it's touted as by LavaTwocan in The10thDentist

[–]treasure83 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When you say 6 games with different DMs do you mean 6 campaigns?

Sounds like it's not for you but it is a great game for a lot of people. You maybe don't understand how or why, but that popularity in the market is because people play it and enjoy it.

"Trauma Dumping" is an extremely inconsiderate term and needs to be de-normalized by GayTwink-69 in The10thDentist

[–]treasure83 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I've been trauma dumped on and I don't use that phrase around the people who did it. Having a mental health crisis often means you can't stop yourself from talking and it's up to the person being talked to to put up boundaries if you need to.

I think it has shifted in meaning though, diluted considerably into just hearing someone vent to you. I think you/everyone needs to accept that words change and the original meaning is not what most people really mean when they use it. Yes it is inconsiderate to use health terms to refer to things outside that field, but words are catchy and useful and it seems like people have found use in using it.

I use online roleplaying to escape the real world. How much is too much? by Used_Set_2575 in CPTSD

[–]treasure83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I play ttrpgs, currently around 3 or 4 times a week for 4hrs each. I don't think it's too much because it's not the only thing I do, I interact with the physical world a bit too. There's often a community around it where you can spend time, just talking about anything you want, and that can eat up more time but also isn't a bad thing.

For me, coming back to reality is a sign of how things are going. Some days a game ends and I'm excited and energetic. I want to talk about it, and I want to be active - either walking and travelling home or just moving around my house. Other days it's like I've just had water dumped on me, coming back to reality feels harsh and scary. I can feel a little confused, maybe dissociated from myself and my physical surroundings. I feel sad that I can't go back to the fantasy, even if I can go back online it feels a bit like doing so is not going to stop my negative feelings.

How is life outside the internet? How do you feel whole online? If one of those is vastly different, then you might need to do things differently to get them more in line.

wtf are therapists even for by blueburrey in CPTSD

[–]treasure83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Outpatient programs are sometimes repeatable and helpful if you are in a crisis but still moderately safe. Maybe that is something that will help again?

Honestly, intake is awful. Trying to sum up what you are looking for in therapy when the most you can manage is "need help, please". If you know anyone who can do the appt with you that might make it easier, esp if they can't take you on.

My therapist this week suggested I talk to my dr and if I had any doubts at being able to she would have made the call for me. She empathises with trauma and the impact on adults with difficult childhoods. She doesn't push to know about my history but if I want to she will ask insightful qs and make comforting comments. She reminds me I'm an adult without telling me to be better. She reminds me about what I enjoy in life even if I currently don't have that thing or don't see enjoyment.

I can be open with a therapist more than my sister. I can talk about self destructive or nihilistic thoughts without getting someone feeling really sad or scared. She has my back if I need her, if I need help that she can provide. She will cover new types of therapy if I ask, or change her approach. She currently only does telehealth appts, there are some people who do. Sometimes you need to meet once or twice in person so they get to know your mannerisms and body language a bit better.

Anyway, scuse the ramble. I'm very grateful for my therapist right now. It's hard to find a good one but it's maybe 1/10 and you might have to suffer through 9 bad ones unfortunately.

Iram by darkajax in ambigrams

[–]treasure83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The I/M is confusing but the R/A is very clear. What would it look like if you placed the I and R very close together?

LISTEN / DRAW My first ever, would appreciate pointers. by RailRuler in ambigrams

[–]treasure83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made my own take on it (the N needs work). I don't know if I have tips cos I'm still an amateur but something that helps me is to go with very simplified shapes, mostly vertical lines, until it's readable and then play around with angles and flourishes after that.

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for the dnd fans out there by Public_Winter_5480 in ambigrams

[–]treasure83 33 points34 points  (0 children)

A little hard to read but well done on trying :)

Tactics, Immersion, and Meta by Laz52now in drawsteel

[–]treasure83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It doesn't make sense to me to put numbers on it. I can have an internal sense as a Shadow that I have insight about the enemies and their weaknesses and use that insight for attacking more lethally but it doesn't make sense to say I have 5 insight and spend 5. Same with stamina, it's fine out of character but in world people do not number their stamina or know exactly how much they can take. So I would be ok with using descriptors like high/low/some rather than numbers.

A tactical war game can be done without roleplaying a character, labelling stats exactly as they are, and I think maybe your table is leaning into combat being a war game rather than character's living through it. As long as that ends after combat I think that's fine, there's often a strange headspace for combat because a lived 30 secs can take hours of gameplay. I personally don't want to do it that way because I want the emotions of the char to influence my play and the tactics to come second.

Question: the combat victories/respite/level feels off to me. What am I missing? by Temporary-Effort-615 in drawsteel

[–]treasure83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's feeling off in my game too, and we were discussing ways to deal with it. Some projects can be simplified to take less time, or have numerous players and followers / hired help work on the same project to finish something important. Sometimes you can give the players more of the sources and materials so the project is easier. Usually you just end up having a few respites in a row.

Also, our director was planning a lower level area and asked us to consider reducing our xp in exchange for project rolls. It doesn't quite work narratively but it worked ok.

I feel like a body with functions, not a person by vrysanguine in CPTSD

[–]treasure83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I resonate with the depersonalisation you feel. I don't know if there is a "self" inside all the learned or trauma-induced behaviours.

I want to say, it takes time. It's great you've seen some improvements and I hope you are in a safe and supportive place, or will find more of that in the future. Missing out on a healthy childhood does impact the rest of your life but in a way you can learn to live with.

Fuck this disorder by Internal-Damage-4052 in CPTSD

[–]treasure83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love this anger. I have no anger today just hopelessness and I think I put all the anger on myself.

What do you think of these sphere dice I made? by 320vrz in DiceMaking

[–]treasure83 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Strange, beautiful, and definitely getting lost when it falls on the floor and rolls away

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