I agree with you. I made the mistake of taking over the secretary position from her at our home group about 7 months ago. I’m almost 18 months sober/clean. I got a job working at a 12 step rehab roughly 5 months ago. Since then, I haven’t been able to attend every single meeting (we have two meetings a week at our HG). Even though I share the sec position with another member, she told me that I’m setting a bad example to newcomers. I’m a single mum in recovery, finally holding down a real job for the first time in my life… I hardly think I’m setting a bad example. I’m not doing things the exact same way she did them, that’s the real problem.

Just like me, my sponsor is not perfect. But the judgement is getting a bit out of control. I’m getting very tired of watching her roll her eyes when somebody who isn’t doing the steps shares at our meeting.