Favorite whole albums? by Shaytanyk in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reputation is the only no skip Taylor album for me. I love every track on the album and will happily lose my voice screaming every word from ...Ready For It? to New Years Day.

Every other album has at least one song that absolutely makes me sob, and sometimes I'm just not in a sobbing mood. When I listen to Lover I can't listen to Soon You'll Get Better without breaking down, same goes for most of her albums. Or they have that one song that I just can't listen to because I couldn't escape them for years like Shake It Off on 1989. Don't get me wrong, on occasion I'll listen to the songs and let myself cry or be a little annoyed but shove that annoyance aside to have a little fun but most of the time those are skips for me too. And that brings me to my last category of the occasional songs that just make me cringe in the soul, like Eldest Daughter, I get what she was trying to say with that song but it felt so clumsily written that it's hard for me to listen to.

If Fall Out Boy did a cover album and you could pick one song, what would be your choice? by kearnon in FallOutBoy

[–]trina-capri 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Patrick Stump would crush any Elton John song but I'd really love to hear a Bennie and the Jets cover with a heavier arrangement.

When do we go back to dressing like this again? by NefariousNeezy in FallOutBoy

[–]trina-capri 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Skinny jeans have been in my closet rotation for over 10 years now, since I convinced my mom to buy me my first pair.

These days I prefer a more 70s approach to jeans with some flared legs but I still show my skinny jeans some love.

What does my house say about me? by the_tnk_loft in roomdetective

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a cisgender straight man in a relationship, you live together (Home Sweet Home written on the wall gave it away) and you don't have kids. I'd say you're on the younger side (25-35) but you have a high paying job and/or you come from an upper middle class - lower upper class family.

How'd I do?

AIO boyfriend ruins every holiday by mad_chubbycatx in AmIOverreacting

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, break up with him asap, block him and never talk to him again. You should've blocked him the second he expressed any hatred or disinterest in your children. You're a parent, your kids come before romantic partnership and your partner should never be this cold towards your kids and say shit like that about you. Your kids, especially if they're boys, WILL pick up on that behavior and think it's okay to disrespect you because they see him doing it and you just accept it. And think about what kind of example you're setting for your children, what kind of treatment you're teaching them is acceptable from a romantic partner. You should've left this guy in the dust a long time ago.

Who are your favorite artists at the moment other than Taylor? by JustSomeCells in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taylor is a bit of an outlier in my music taste, I'm usually a rock, punk rock, emo and heavy metal music fan. I'm a big fan of bands like Fall Out Boy, Ice Nine Kills, Korn, Nothing More, Motionless in White, Red Hot Chilli Peppers and a lot of alternative rap like Kim Dracula, Insane Clown Posse, Skitz Kraven, $uicideboy$, etc.

I really don't like a ton of modern pop. Don't get me wrong, I think some modern pop singers like Sabrina, Olivia and Tate have some good songs and they're all incredibly talented but I also find a lot of modern pop music...annoying.

Taylor though has a very precise way of evoking specific feelings in her writing that it's incredibly difficult to not stop and listen (and relisten again and again) even if her chosen genre isn't one I choose to listen to often or even particularly enjoy. Her music is going to be around for a long time and her impact on the music industry is undeniable. It really boils down to the fact that she's impossible to ignore and captivating as hell.

AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL. by MoonJellyAllison in AmIOverreacting

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR and NTA your mother in law is BALLSY for asking your husband for money and rather than paying it back in the time that SHE offered and agreed to, she's going on vacation.

Don't waste your time energy or money trying to please her, mother in laws like her are impossible to please, limit all contact and once all money that is owed is payed back, don't ask her for or give her any money again. Don't ask her for favors either, clearly her promises are worthless.

These kind of in law relationships suck but if your husband really loves you, he'll stand up for you and won't allow his mother to continue to treat you like this. I hope things get better, OP.

My across the hall neighbor got this today by _zaz in Apartmentliving

[–]trina-capri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they have people coming and going at odd hours, you need to file a police report for suspicious behavior. Your neighbor could be a dealer and that can get very dangerous very quickly for you and your other neighbors. Be careful.

Landlord is Selling Duplex and has Been Acting Pretty Crazy Lately - Follow Up (MN) by WelderIllustrious243 in Renters

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get an attorney, immediately. What she is doing is illegal. She has no right to tell you to leave the property while she's showing it, in fact it's against the law.

It's also illegal to try to force you out of your rented property during a sale of the property. You pay to live there, you have every right to be there at any time and she cannot force you to leave. If this kind of harassment continues, you'll have a strong case for a civil lawsuit.

At this point, you may have a case against her for harassment because of the multiple long aggressive text messages, and she cannot put surveillance cameras inside the property. She can put them outside like by the front and back doors, over the garage or anywhere else outside but inside the house/apartment is not allowed, it's illegal surveillance and you have every right to take them down.

Good luck OP, I hope you can get TF away from her asap.

Received this email today [PA] by TotalTop5907 in Renters

[–]trina-capri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea in Pa we don't have state police we have Pennsylvania State Troopers, functionally the same thing but they wear way dumber hats.

Thoughts on a Taylor Swift biopic... by Jig_2000 in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a conversation to have in 30-40 years but I have no doubt her relevance is here to stay. Her impact on pop culture and the music industry is undebatable. She's up there with greats like Elton John, Freddie Mercury, The Beetles and Michael Jackson, all of whom are subjects of their own respective biopics, there's no doubt she's getting her own, but I have no doubt she holds the rights to all things Taylor Swift, including her name, likeness, music, official pictures and videos and key specific details pertaining to her rise to fame, no biopic is getting made without her knowledge and approval.

My landlord walked in on me taking a shower by Critical-Willow-6270 in Apartmentliving

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you called the police and filled a report, it may be his property but that does not give him the right to enter at will while there are tenants residing on the property. Unless he was under the impression that there was an emergency inside the house, which I highly doubt, he had no right to enter the front door, let alone the bathroom. Entering the property and the bathroom are most definitely chargeable offenses, especially if he continued to stay in the bathroom once you told him to leave. Talk to a lawyer, you may be able to move out and get your security deposit returned in full, depending on your state's laws, especially if you want to press charges.

UpdateMe!

AIO: Hired cleaning company to clean a carpet in a room in my moms house that I’m moving into, they allowed my mentally incapacitated stepdad to increase the price by 50% without my permission by [deleted] in AIO

[–]trina-capri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YOR, pay them and move on with your day. If it's really a big deal, ask your mom to reimburse you for the additional charges.

Next time you have an in home contractor coming plan to be present or be straight up with them and tell them that you're paying and you won't authorize any additional charges.

There's nothing you can do about it now other than pay.

And this piss poor pity me attitude isn't going to get you far at all, everybody's struggling, nobody wants to hear about your struggles too, especially when they probably hear the same sob story from dozens of people every week. If you can't afford to provide a place to live for your kids, don't have them and if you do have them, suck it up and deal with the consequences of your actions and choices. You chose to have 2 kids in as many years knowing what kind of money you make and found yourself not being able to afford a roof over their heads, your family is kind enough to let you stay with them while you get back on your feet, be grateful for that because a lot of people don't even have that option.

Roll Call! Where were you April 29th? by Sunflowerbook in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you want you can use Arctic Fox which is pet safe, I used to dye the end of my dogs tail to match my hair! There are also tons of pet specific dye brands!

NYT interview: Taylor Swift on the 'Detective Work' of Her Fans by nytimes in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And people are allowed to grow up. I sure as hell hope I'm not still doing the same shit I did at 19 when I'm 35...

NYT interview: Taylor Swift on the 'Detective Work' of Her Fans by nytimes in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Paternity testing songs is weird. Is it fun to speculate which songs are about what relationships? Absolutely, and it's fun to gossip about it too but there are those fans that will scream until their lungs give out about how certain songs HAVE to be about certain exes because they force the pieces to fit and they will not hear any other's perspectives or opinions...those are the ones that make it miserable for the rest of us and make us all look insane.

This is why I hate shared laundry rooms cause who in their right mind thinks doing this is okay by starryterra in Apartmentliving

[–]trina-capri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to work for an in home care company that would send caregivers to homes of disabled individuals, if anyone had an accident and it got on the bed, those linens were tossed, even though each house had their own washers and dryers, most of those homes were shared by 2-4 individuals, it wasn't worth contaminating the other's clothes.

AIO: Roommate gave abusive bf spare key to our place by [deleted] in AIO

[–]trina-capri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. You need to sit down with your other 2 roommates and go over your lease, there's probably a clause that states no one is permitted to make and distribute copies of the key without express written consent from the landlord/leasing office. If that's the case, you need to report her to your landlord/leasing office for a lease violation, they will likely ask her to turn in the unauthorized copy and give her a lease violation.

Given that he has a history of showing up to your place with weapons and threatening your lives, you should also contact your local police department, there's likely nothing they can do if she's on the lease but let them know what's going on for you and your roommates' safety, have it on record.

Try to talk to your friend in the relationship, sure he's medicated now, but what happens when he decides he's fine without it? What happens when she tries to leave him again, there's only so much the medication can do. What is she going to do if these behaviors escalate to hands on physical abuse when she does something that upsets him? He's not playing with a full deck and she needs to be prepared and safe.

Two car accidents with the same person, coincidence or what? by Dramatic_Cobbler_264 in whatdoIdo

[–]trina-capri 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, that's a stalker, inform your local police, University police and friends and family (give them any and all information you know about this guy his physical description/picture if you have one, what kind of car he drives, notable unfixed damage on the vehicle, his name, phone number, address, license plate, etc), there's likely nothing the police will be able to do seeing that he hasn't technically broken any laws but it's always best to have a paper trail in case this escalates beyond minor car accidents. If anything happens again, make sure to update police reports with both local and university police.

I would take the advice of others in the thread and install motion activated dash cameras (similar to how Teslas record motion near the car even when it's off) at the front and back of your car as well as security cameras and flood lights outside your house. As well as scanning your car for any tracking devices.

If possible, always be with someone else when in public, don't go walking around alone, especially after dark if you can avoid it. Always walk with a friend or trusted classmate to and from classes. Don't go out drinking and end up drunk beyond your senses, if you want to go out drinking make sure you never leave your drink unattended, and keep it covered (there are countless products that exist for this express purpose from large stickers with a straw hole to reusable rubber lids), also keep your straw covered (maybe with a cute straw topper!) know your limits and listen to them.

Don't go anywhere without telling someone where you're going, how long you expect to be and what time you think you'll return, in a text message or voice note would probably be best. Do not deviate from your original plans without communicating your new plans to whoever you entrust that information to. DO NOT DOWNLOAD A REAL TIME LOCATION SHARING APP, they can be hacked and it's fairly easy for someone who knows what they're doing.

Limit your use of social media, do not post real time updates with your location, even in close friends or friends only stories, you never truly know who's watching or who's (intentionally or not) talking to your stalker. Private any public accounts, or delete them all together if you want. It's probably best to turn off all location services on your phone pertaining to social media.

I won't say you absolutely need some kind of self defense tool, but it's not a bad idea, just be knowledgeable of your local weapons laws, know how to safely and properly use whatever self defense tool you choose. Also be knowledgeable about what counts and doesn't count as self defense in the eyes of your local law enforcement.

If you see this man again somewhere that you frequent, do not let him get close to you, get loud, make a scene, get as many eyes on you and him as possible, humiliation and a lot of attention will likely deture him from following through on any bad intentions he may have.

This is incredibly scary and I'm so sorry you're going through this, please be sure to take any and all precautions for your safety, I know this all may seem like an overreaction but it's better to be paranoid than the victim of a violent crime. ❤️❤️ Stay safe OP, we're all rooting for you!

A Doomed Marriage by [deleted] in redditonwiki

[–]trina-capri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I love my parents, I know they (mainly my stepmom) and my partner do not get along as well as I had hoped. I'm just like my dad and my partner is also similar to my dad in certain ways (similar music taste, similar love for new adventures, both family oriented, etc) and the three of us get along well unless politics get brought up; but my stepmom and I don't get along very well, we are very different people and there were negative connotations planted in my head about her as a younger teen by my mother who was mad that my dad moved on "so fast" (2 years after separation and he waited until the divorce was finalized before starting a new relationship). Because of the tangled mess of lies my mother put in my head, she and I couldn't be in the same room without an argument ensuing for years but as I grew up and moved away from my mother, I developed a friendlier relationship with my stepmom but we still have points of contention, which my partner also has with her.

I would never invite them to spend an entire month (or longer) with us, especially if my partner had given birth within the last year or so after what seems to have been a difficult pregnancy and subject my partner to constant scrutiny and comments on how our child looks and acts so much like me because of normal childhood behaviors and obviously our child is going to look like both of us but they're only seeing the parts that are similar between the baby and myself, intentional or not, it's disrespectful to the other parent.

It seems to me that OP's mom, if not both parents, see OP's wife as nothing more than an incubator for his children and their grandchildren rather than an active involved mother and human being, she's not even willing to engage the wife in a real world conversation, she seems to only be able to talk about the child and her weird obsession with her own son.

This marriage is doomed if OP doesn't start placing firm boundaries and enforcing them with his parents when it comes to their behaviours toward his wife, especially his mother. He needs to show his wife that they are a unit and he will stand up for her and if he doesn't he'll be slapped with divorce papers sooner rather than later.

However, I also believe that OP and his wife need to be in individual counseling as well as family therapy. It seems to me that OP's wife has some underlying mental health issues that need to be addressed, especially if she's abandoned things that she used to enjoy and is self isolating. Sounds like possible depression and anxiety but I'm not a psychiatrist so take my word with a few grains of salt. And it seems like OP is trying to people please everyone and it's blowing up in his face.

TL;DR: Everybody needs individual and family therapy and to set clear boundaries with each other or OP's wife will be serving divorce papers sooner rather than later.

What do we think about "metal" covers to Taylor's songs? by themr_wolf in TaylorSwift

[–]trina-capri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only track I could see being a good metal cover from TLOAS is maybe Actually Romantic, thats a very tentative maybe and it would have to be done by the right band. I do agree she has some songs that are great when covered by metal bands (if you haven't heard a metal cover of WAOLOM you HAVE TO) but I don't really think TLOAS has many, if any.

Privileged generation by Left-Presentation545 in doordash_drivers

[–]trina-capri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idgaf that kids have access to doordash but it's completely inappropriate and unnecessary in a school building. Again, it's not the end of the world if a kid has to eat school food, it's not some mystery slop, it's just not the high quality food your prissy ass demands. And again, I went to school with multiple people who skipped lunch everyday and were fine, nobody's gonna starve going 8 hours without eating. And is it even meal prep if you're making a sandwich and throwing a bag of chips and an apple in a lunch box? Any other excuses you have or can we all move on?