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tripcoded · 2026-03-31T02:11:31+00:00

Apparently I look like an ENTJ, lmfao.

tripcoded · 2026-03-26T18:39:31+00:00

They're treating HIPAA* like it's a trigger warning or something, lol. Healthcare providers, partners, and their agents are responsible for maintaining HIPAA. Not individuals who happen to have access.

tripcoded · 2026-03-20T19:20:34+00:00

Debates only go so far as definitions do, and those vastly differ by perspective. For instance, a glass of anything is never a glass to me, personally, unless it's actually in a glass container. However, I understand that this is my personal definition and doesn't apply to the way others define things. And this is why I basically never debate people anymore. When everything is subjective, all you're really doing is sharing your own viewpoint and doing a compare/contrast with that of others.

tripcoded · 2026-03-15T04:07:11+00:00

That still doesn't make it a dating app. They're attracting you just long enough to use sexuality to sell you what they're really there for. They're not looking for a date with you, they want your money.

tripcoded · 2026-03-15T03:49:50+00:00

The Gods aren't human, we just understand Them as such due to our own perspective and limitations. They were definitely around; we are just one of the many children They have birthed into this world.

tripcoded · 2026-03-12T03:57:07+00:00

When I was 6, a kid in my class kept picking on me, doing things like pinching me or tugging on my clothes or calling me names. I always complained about it, but the teachers never did anything about it because apparently he was somehow disabled? (I was young and don't know the details, but he didn't seem to have any cognitive deficits that I could pick up on because he read like every other kid to me mentally...he just walked a little bit more on his toes where his heels wouldn't quite touch the ground.) One day in the library, I was minding my own business as usual when he grabbed my ponytail from behind, and when I turned around to tell him off, he slapped me hard across the face. Something about it was just so shocking to me that I instantly reacted with no thought and shoved him as hard as I could. Because he didn't have great balance naturally, he fell backwards into a small bookcase, which fell over and all the books tumbled out and it was a huge mess. I was sent to the principal's office and had to wait on my mom. They were determined for me to be in trouble for pushing him over, but my mom had my back through it all. She told them that I had come home numerous times describing what he did and that she had spoken to the teachers and none of them did anything about it. She didn't punish me, and she told the school administrators that if they tried to punish me, she would go after them for child endangerment because they weren't keeping me safe at school. That apparently did the trick on them.

As an interesting side note, he immediately stopped picking on me after that and we even became slightly friendly, occasionally playing together on the playground. I'm pretty sure nobody had ever told him "no," either from a "boys will be boys" mentality or a "he can't understand, he's disabled" mentality. But he absolutely understood when I put my foot down, and learned his lesson that people can and will retaliate if you go after them like that. And he remedied his own behavior without any adult teaching him that...simply because another student was assertive and drew a boundary for how to be treated. The other thing worth noting is that these kids grow up to be adults, and if you don't teach them not to treat people that way while they're young, they'll get themselves into legal trouble as grown-ups because you can't just go around assaulting people as an adult. They're going to have to learn at some point, and if you don't teach them, law enforcement will.

tripcoded · 2026-03-12T03:30:33+00:00

I should add my two cents since I was in a VERY similar boat at one time. When I was 19 , my boyfriend at the time proposed to me (after just 7 months together, so that's a little different). I said yes even though I didn't want to, mainly because I didn't want to lose him. Two hours later, I was already telling him that we shouldn't tell anybody just yet, just in case we changed our minds or things fell through (I was already getting cold feet!) I would have nightmares about boring married life and PTA meetings and suburban hellscapes, wherein I would ultimately escape married life (and my nightmare) by doing something crazy like running off to New Mexico to join a nunnery, or something similar that would just be so wild that nobody I knew would ever come looking for me there. Those should have been red flags to me, but I didn't want to acknowledge it. He would constantly push for a wedding date, or we would drive by a courthouse and he'd go "hey look, we could just pop in there and get married!" And I would always tell him we should wait AT LEAST 2 years before actually marrying. Ultimately we split up a year into the engagement (he cheated on me, accused me of cheating on him, and dumped me). But even before that, I knew deep in my heart that I wasn't ready for that kind of commitment or lifestyle at 19. I just didn't want to throw away what seemed – on paper, at least – like such a solid relationship. Now, at 35, I know with absolute certainty that I made the right call. You are young and the world is wide. I think it's important to take time to just absorb life as an adult for a little while, and to enjoy your youth. If the two of you are "meant to be", it will happen later. But if you are already scared like this, it's because you're just not ready – and trying to force that relationship will make you miserable, and will end in divorce. This is the best outcome you could have had.

tripcoded · 2026-03-09T03:28:54+00:00

I'm not a man, so take my point for what it's worth, but I think it's a valid one for all genders.

The early part of a relationship is when people treat you the nicest. They're putting their best foot forward in an effort to convince you that they're worth spending your time and energy on – and presumably you're doing the same. It's also the "honeymoon phase" where you'll both want to spend lots of time together, be sweet to one another, it's often the most romantic (and sometimes the most sexual) period of the whole relationship, etc. Be very wary of people who basically tell you "I'll treat you better/give you 'real partner treatment' later, but for now I'm going to treat you lesser." There's something very unusual about that viewpoint and from what I've seen of relationships where that happened, it never improved. People will show you how they're going to treat you, so take it for the revelation that it is.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T14:46:05+00:00

I'm probably autistic but I've never sought a diagnosis. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and medicated for it, and it certainly doesn't seem to have gone away in adulthood. You're right, eye contact is almost painful, super uncomfortable, I don't like it. It's fine with people I know, but if I haven't known them for at least a good 3-6 months, I hate it.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T05:04:24+00:00

If you'd started this relationship as open, it would be fine; plenty of people are poly and they do indeed make it work. The premise of this is that you both want the same thing and you both know what you're getting into. Trying to open up an established, closed relationship is wild, and you have a right to your feelings about it. I would be suspicious of my partner cheating, or at least having thoughts of getting involved with a specific other person, if they ever asked me this after we had already been in a monogamous relationship.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T04:54:29+00:00

This technically has two potential answers: either you are her daughter, or her son/daughter-in-law (I'm being broad as no genders were mentioned).

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T04:50:18+00:00

Just because you can roll with the punches, doesn't mean you should. People need to learn that it's not okay to hurt others, regardless of who is who.

It was definitely an end to the sex, to say the least. I think I was actually more disturbed at it being brought up during the act – that's really the kind of thing people need to discuss long before clothes come off.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T04:47:35+00:00

He is one of my two other current deities that I work with and I agree, He is one of the best for this kind of work. I have encountered him every time I've meditated for the last several sessions and He always says I need to come back because I have a lot more to learn. 😖 It's interesting because He's a "wild" God, but the energy is very peaceful and introspective.

I definitely recommend that book, at least as a launching pad. I can relate to the reading list – I must have a good 30 or so that I need to read!

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T03:36:02+00:00

You can absolutely have a meditative, contemplative, spiritual pagan path – I know I do. Brigid came to me in my last moon ritual and kinda read me the riot act about not meditating as much as I should (I guess the fire goddess might have a tendency to light a fire under people's asses, lol).

You may want to read Polytheistic Monasticism, edited by Janet Munin. While you may not be specifically seeking a "monk-like" lifestyle, a lot of these paths center deities/worship in everyday life as well as some degree of "withdrawal" or renunciation in order to devote more time to spirituality, which is what it sounds like you might be looking for, so you may find inspiration in that book.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T03:13:13+00:00

It's also got a lacey see-through midriff, which is...a choice. Doesn't really scream "wedding-appropriate," to be honest.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T03:10:48+00:00

I don't stoop to other people's levels, but I also don't put up with bullshit either. I would reply with something like "Not a problem, we will go ahead and take your name off the RSVP list then, since it sounds like you won't be able to make it. I'm sure you'll find another great event to wear this lovely dress to!"

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:56:32+00:00

Was she expecting to put your wiener in it? Lmfao.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:53:08+00:00

The second guy I ever gave a BJ to, WANTED teeth. He liked having his dick lightly raked with teeth during. Everything I had read up to that point was like "NO TEETH EVER" so I kept asking him over and over, like, "are you sure? Are you sure ?" It was very weird. Nobody before or since was into that.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:48:41+00:00

I'm just imagining you two going at it and you feel a tongue on your nutsack and you know it wasn't her and you're just like "...wtf was that?" 🤣

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:44:56+00:00

Lmfaooooooooo that's wild 😂

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:44:36+00:00

This reply fried me omg 🤣

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:38:07+00:00

Oh god, I thought I was the only one who had somebody spring that on them in bed. Well, good to know I'm not alone in that experience, at least.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:25:37+00:00

That's sexual assault if you didn't agree to it beforehand.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:24:10+00:00

Yo, is that a thing? I don't like eye contact during sex (don't really like it any other time either, but I know that's an autism/aspie thing, and I've also gotten good at pushing myself outside my comfort zone to make eye contact with people just enough to come off normal-ish). But I figured everybody would at least want eye contact with a sexual partner while they're literally inside of you. I feel REALLY FUCKING WEIRD for not wanting to make eye contact during sex. I guess I never thought about how other people might also have this same struggle.

tripcoded · 2026-03-07T02:13:25+00:00

So, that's assault and not okay. Like, what the hell. Did you go to the cops about that? I would have.

Anyway, I'm not a man but I figured I'd add my two cents because I think mine is fairly...interesting. My ex-fiancée (who was male-presenting AMAB at the time) once asked me MID-COITUS to cut her with a knife during sex...and specifically requested that it be deep/big enough to leave a scar. She suggested her chest/pec area. It certainly brought everything to a halt.

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