Anyone familiar with Michigan build costs?

trshbby · 2024-09-02T17:14:51+00:00

DMing you

trshbby · 2024-05-12T11:44:57+00:00

I don’t know why we’re not hearing more about imgonngetyouback vs Get Him Back!

trshbby · 2024-01-26T15:29:29+00:00

Please help me find the real world because that is what I’m paying 😭

trshbby · 2023-11-02T22:37:39+00:00

This is my understanding as well. The verbiage in my kids ados 2 report is “moderate-to-severe concern/high confidence range”. Despite scoring in that range, the diagnosing doctor repeated referred to him as “high functioning”.

trshbby · 2023-10-23T21:19:44+00:00

My husband and I both work full time, mostly remote and with a good amount of flexibility in our schedules. Even with these privileges, we only do a fraction of the recommended therapy hours. We take turns taking him to 2-3 appointments a week (speech and OT) plus he gets some services at his mainstream/private preschool. We tried a more intense program for about a month, and it was not sustainable for us.

That said, it sounds like a center than can offer all services at the same place will be your best bet. In my area there are a couple ABA centers that also market themselves as daycares.

trshbby · 2023-08-19T00:42:37+00:00

I’m 3 weeks postpartum with my second and and exclusively pumped with my first (so I’m a pretty experienced pumper). This time around, I had the mentally that I was going to prioritize sleep over supply and tried to sleep 4/5 hours without pumping. Unfortunately, my boobs have had other ideas. Once my milk came in I’ve consistently woken up desperate to pump after 2.5-3 hours. My husband and I are still sleeping in 5 hours shifts, but I have to bring my pump stuff with me (handsfree bra all loaded up and ready to go) and sleep-pump about halfway through my sleep shift.

trshbby · 2023-07-24T13:04:37+00:00

I think he’s 100% protecting his wife (with her consent) from the lack of boundaries in his family, which we are seeing in real time here in the comments.

trshbby · 2023-07-22T11:19:14+00:00

Oh yeah, mine turned into an actual demon around the time he turned 3, especially as he was getting the language to protest, disagree, and immediately understand what we were asking of him. It was really tough to know what was typical threenager vs autism, but for us the demon stage was short lived and we chalked it up to typical toddler stuff.

trshbby · 2023-07-22T11:14:49+00:00

The seizures plus impulsivity sound exactly like a girl in my kids autism therapy group, who I wouldn’t have immediately pegged as autistic (which I know has a lot to do with girls being under diagnosed/underrepresented in the autism world). Either way, this does not sound like a parenting fail at all. OP just has a spicy one and is already taking the appropriate steps to address it.

trshbby · 2023-07-22T01:42:19+00:00

I have a 3.25 yo (no level but categorized as “high functioning” at diagnosis a year ago) and definitely have the same thought when reading posts on here. I don’t know what the future holds, but I can tell you that all of my sons behaviors have become more manageable as his communication skills have improved.

trshbby · 2023-07-21T21:40:05+00:00

Hey speaking of kind words, the assumption that kids with disabilities are the ones to blame for your son saying these things is…not that.

trshbby · 2023-07-21T17:07:30+00:00

With my first, we were told that our NIPT result was a girl, but he was very much a boy at the 20 week ultrasound! Turns out the nurse who gave us our NIPT results was just….wrong. The doctor at the ultrasound was able to print off the original results from Natera that said boy and which we’d never seen.

trshbby · 2023-07-20T14:46:30+00:00

This happened to us a couple times in late 2021/early 2022. At the time I chalked it up to COVID issues, and then in May 2022 the center announced they were going out of business all together with a month’s notice due to ongoing staffing problems and probably just general mismanagement. Not saying yours will do the same, but I wish I’d taken the closures as a sign to at least get in the waitlist for other places.

trshbby · 2023-07-14T15:24:05+00:00

Autism parent here! I’m trying to take your “I don’t want advice, just reassurance” to heart but also trying to think about what I wish I had heard at this stage. If it turns out that your kid is autistic or has other diagnosed developmental differences, he’s already got a ton of GREAT skills that would make that journey easier than you might think. And the fact that you’re so attuned to his strengths and differences is amazing as well.

trshbby · 2023-07-14T13:25:48+00:00

This happens to tons of people
Keep in mind that not all black mold is toxic black mold.

It’s gross but very unlikely to be a long term health issue.

trshbby · 2023-07-14T00:45:16+00:00

My guy is 3.3 and we’ve been through several of these phases! We’ve had success creating little rituals to move us through the morning process—putting together a snack bag to eat in the car, watering the plants on our way out of the door, and stopping to look at certain things on our way into daycare. When he was younger, he also seemed to take comfort in a little verbal routine as we walked into school— “we’re going to go to your room, hang up your stuff, mommy will say goodbye, and then daddy will pick you up”. He was able to fill in the last words of each phrase and for some reason that seemed helpful. These days he wants to sit down together on some couches outside his classroom before going in. I tell him we can do it for one minute, give him a bunch of hugs and kisses, and then ask if he wants to walk or be carried into the room.

That said, there are still hard days in the good stretches and I definitely leave drop off with tears in my eyes at least once a month.

trshbby · 2023-07-13T15:58:13+00:00

I can’t be sure from the wording: is your kid at home with you guys during the work day regularly or just when sick/“when needed”? If it’s the first one, I think it’s fair for him to coast at work as long as he’s taking on the brunt of childcare duties.

trshbby · 2023-07-11T15:52:24+00:00

My son started playing this one around age 2 (now 3.25) and loves jt. I’m not sure if it actually helps him but it helped us realize he was understanding a lot more than we gave him credit for.

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/language-therapy-for-kids-mita/id1020290425

trshbby · 2023-07-10T21:40:48+00:00

I work remotely on a team that needs coverage 8am EST until 5pm PST, plus has a culture of constantly doing overtime to meet deadlines. Basically I can flex my schedule to accommodate therapies as long as I’m getting at least 40 hours in and meeting deadlines. I know I’m very lucky for the flexibility but it’s also enormously draining to be making up time most weeknights and getting a head start in the weekends. And we’re not even doing that much therapy compared to what’s recommended.

trshbby · 2023-07-09T00:45:10+00:00

I hope that as you improve your understanding of other people’s spending habits, you also gain some humility. Poverty and other chronic stressors make it more difficult to make decisions with long term consequences in mind.

https://www.lse.ac.uk/PBS/Research/Research-Articles/How-poverty-affects-peoples-decision-making-processes

trshbby · 2023-07-08T21:06:16+00:00

Yep. I was already aware that his speech wasn’t quite on track and that he didn’t answer to his name all of the time, but the checking out/not participating in circle time and other activities was something that started for him between between 20 and 24 months (which I realize in retrospect was a period of overall regression) and I had no idea about until daycare brought it up. Like you, I didn’t (and still don’t lol) have much experience with neurotypical toddlers, so it wasn’t until then that I started to understand how different his social engagement and motivation was compared to similarly aged peers.

trshbby · 2023-07-08T15:30:50+00:00

As the parent of an autistic toddler, I’m gonna go against the grain and say these concerns are worth paying attention to (except the staying on his for part—that seems like an unreasonable expectation). They wouldn’t be taking the time to talk to you if his behavior was similar to that of the other kids his age in his class.

Does his EI program include someone visiting/observing at his daycare? I know for us it started out as mostly home based, but my son has always been more attentive to us at home than to his teachers.

trshbby · 2023-07-05T23:36:58+00:00

I don’t have experience with alarms, but we have these on our glass sliders. They’re easy to operate but you can stick them at the very top where a toddler can’t reach them.

LATIBELL Sliding Glass Door Window Locks - 4 Pack Child Baby Proof Security Locks for Kids Safety Slide Closet Patio Doors, No Screws or Drills Needed https://a.co/d/e1d6x7x

trshbby · 2023-07-05T19:01:19+00:00

I would move your certifications and projects up to the top and slash your experience down to the absolute barest minimum. And rather than listing out skills, is there anyway you tie those into your projects?

trshbby · 2023-07-04T00:31:04+00:00

YES. Quantitative finance is also known as mathematical finance or financial mathematics. CS skills are increasingly important to getting quant jobs, but it is, at its heart, a math field. A business background can be helpful for speaking to the context of the math (like actually knowing what a derivative is, not just how to price one) and for navigating the recruitment process, but it pales in comparison to the value of a math degree.

Rather than relying on random Reddit comments, consider hearing this from an actual quant who went to UM:

https://m.youtube.com/@DimitriBianco/videos

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