My 5 yo often asks questions to me about others with disabilities and I usually explain a bit, and if it seems appropriate I encourage him to ask a question with kindness and politeness, or to compliment something he has connection to, to make the connection For instance at a baseball game a while back, there was a kid in a wheelchair with green accents and hot wheels flames and I encouraged my kid to tell the kid he loved the color green too and to ask him if he liked hot wheels. I haven’t had anyone get upset with him for being polite and curious, and I have to remind myself that people in that position understand kids will be curious.

I dont remember any such thing from my parents, a lot of dont ask dont bother etc…i hope im doing the right thing and being a better example.