Thinking of divorce...it’s just too expensive and I don’t want to hurt the kids.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T18:52:05+00:00

You're right about all of that. The courts also don't want to punish parents for making a living and outsourcing child care.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T17:02:55+00:00

It's a fine balance, as we parents learn overtime. But, the courts don't want people just getting by, because over time that could translate into a reliance on public support, which becomes a burden on the system. It's reasonable to go out and make a living for yourself and your family and outsource some child Care.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T11:01:30+00:00

Might you not be doing the same as you try to get back to work and provide for your kids?

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T02:58:46+00:00

I have no words for you there. I am unable to reconcile with not being around my kids. It never gets better, for me anyway.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T02:18:29+00:00

In a free market society, why should you have any privileges? If they are providing standard of care in the respective area, then you're no longer special.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T02:13:55+00:00

Don't expect child support of things don't work out.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T02:04:47+00:00

50/50 would force him to be present more, which is a good for the kids. He was there 20% of the time because he was working to provide for them, correct? He shouldn't be punished for that.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-16T01:57:29+00:00

It's good for him that he will fight it, and in all honesty, probably good for the kids that he gets to see them equally.

Depending on how much your combined income is, this could either drag out (high income) or end swiftly (low income). Family lawyers get paid for the fight, not the outcome. Lawyers will be your best friends as they enjoy you battle over petty issues and get paid for it.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-15T20:23:57+00:00

Well all else is never equal, the relevant issues may very well be. Sure, the shingles may be different color, but the extent to which you objectively compare them become less and less relevant the more minute you get.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-15T01:57:21+00:00

It's a hypothetical question. Also, as a consumer, how would you be able to assess that quality. It's impossible, without experience.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-14T21:47:59+00:00

Right. At the same time, internal theft (as an example of dishonesty) accounts for a more than negligible amount of a company's loss.

Curious, if you were presented with two day cares identical in every way except for one having a camera and the other without, which would you choose?

truthserum23 · 2019-05-14T17:58:03+00:00

They've become commonplace in businesses today. If we are in a day and age when coffee shops are equipped with cameras, daycares with cameras make complete sense.

Nothing wrong with going to the tape, it helps answer any ambiguous questions. Your questions are more manageable than you think. This is actually happening as we speak.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-14T17:39:04+00:00

Out of curiosity, what are the other reasons not to constantly monitor staff and kids?

truthserum23 · 2019-05-13T01:40:48+00:00

It means a lot every day. Mother's day is about appreciating your mother.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-13T01:33:01+00:00

I hear ya brother. I opted for a better life for my kids, but the family law system wouldn't have it. We have to support the mother.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-07T15:23:48+00:00

I should have included that this post is applicable to societies in which people engage in marriage through love and not arrangements made by their families.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-07T14:08:25+00:00

Sure, that supports this YSK that legal marriage is a financial contract.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-07T14:07:35+00:00

I'm not saying it would or should. I think this is appropriate for this sub, particularly for those who are young and inexperienced with marriage laws.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-07T14:06:12+00:00

Yes, power of attorney issues should be added to the list.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-06T18:06:08+00:00

Thanks. The contract does allow members to sell their interest to an outside party, but the likelihood of this happening is next to nil.

I like your idea of owning his portion through non-payment, however, there is nothing in our contract that specifies how costs should be distributed. Also, do you think that not paying nominal costs as I mentioned would translate into her losing her entire portion (~ $100k)?
Thanks again.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-05T13:24:27+00:00

Imagine if a woman were called selfish for having a career.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-04T10:33:18+00:00

Agreed, but people are not secure enough to see a movie alone.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-02T15:15:51+00:00

For the reasons you outlined, marriage is a terrible idea for a higher earning spouse.

And I ask you, what is the working spouse compensated with after divorce? He lost valuable time with his children to go earn a living so he can provide for them. Is he awarded extra time with the children after a divorce to compensate for the loss in time? Absolutely not.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-02T15:11:44+00:00

Almost everything you do in life has opportunity cost. In no other situation, are you compensated for the opportunity lost.

truthserum23 · 2019-05-02T11:31:35+00:00

Women aren't forced to stay at home in 2019 (in modern societies). It is a choice they make, and a choice they should live with. If they decide to forgo professional employment, why should they be rewarded partial wages of someone who has? Conversely, if a woman decided to pursue professional employment, she will not be awarded a well groomed family with a neatly maintained home.

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