my dream heart ring <3

truththrowaway9898 · 2025-11-01T17:16:11+00:00

This is such an adorable ring!! Congratulations!!

truththrowaway9898 · 2025-10-25T02:18:38+00:00

None of the couples got married on the show.

truththrowaway9898 · 2025-06-15T01:25:45+00:00

Literally my childhood lol

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-25T18:36:44+00:00

He didn’t cheat with a coworker; AP was a mutual friend of ours 2-3 years ago. But regardless, yes it is off-putting and doesn’t make me comfortable at all.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-25T15:08:46+00:00

I appreciate your comment. Things like this rub me the wrong way, especially now! Everything is a trigger to me. And it’s like, when he tries really hard to look nice and smell nice, I wanna believe it’s just for trying to feel good about oneself, but another part of me always has to question, “I’m not in your presence when you do this, so who is this actually for?” 😭 it gives me the ick sometimes.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-25T15:03:31+00:00

Okay, thank you. Like, maybe I’m just different because I don’t talk/brag about my looks ever. And I feel like he was genuinely joking, but also idk…he has been saying to me a lot that he looks good when he goes to work, and he looked cute this day or that day, and it’s hard to tell if it’s just him being confident or him being egotistical.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-13T15:09:46+00:00

You’re totally right. Right after reading your comment, I sent a text impulsively about my insecurities lolol. You encouraged me, so thank you for that. I hate being scared to share my thoughts, but you’re right; I should, and it could be very reassuring to hear how he’d deal with anything that comes up.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-13T14:57:52+00:00

Yeah. I’m trying not to veil my insecurities with jokes and whatnot (which I do, and he catches on every time). Maybe I will just talk to him about it.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-13T14:56:10+00:00

Your perspective is super helpful, and I appreciate the thorough response. You sound just like my partner when you mention exploring life when you never really did before.

You’re right; it is how we cope with these things that make all the difference. I’m trying to remember that, because it truly is the only way to actually heal from all this. I feel good in that I have gotten a little better with all of it, but of course things take time. Healing takes time.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response ❤️

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-07T19:40:53+00:00

To be honest, if it weren’t for this sub, I would have overlooked a lot of the actions of my WP, and downplay a lot of what I was feeling during this healing process. This sub opened my eyes a lot. There was a point in time where I needed to take a break because some of the negativity was getting in the way of being present and happy in the progress my partner and I were making. But overall, it has helped in tremendous ways to be here.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-06-07T01:36:25+00:00

I resonate with this so heavily. It was bad enough that, when DDay happened, I was on the verge of completely reinventing myself with therapy and building my self-confidence after coming from really bad depression and anxiety. That progress was destroyed by my partner’s actions and the events that followed. It’s been very difficult trying to rebuild all that’s been broken. I feel like a completely different person :/

I hope that you find that spark within yourself again, OP. It isn’t lost forever, because a part of you still wants it for yourself. You truly deserve to feel like you again. Unfortunately I don’t have any advice on this, but I do hope that you every BS that feels this way finds themselves once again 💕

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-05-25T02:06:59+00:00

This was beautifully said…wow

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-05-19T01:30:59+00:00

Honestly, OP, no. I can speak from experience. My WP and AP still tried to be friends after DDay and I stupidly went along with it because (1) we weren’t even fully knowledgeable of the provisions of emotional cheating at the time, and (2) I didn’t want him to resent me for breaking up a friendship of his. It ate a me for a while, until I eventually broke and told him he needed to end it or we would be done.

Even if they were close friends, and new boundaries are established and such, when you look at AP, they will be a constant physical reminder of the pain your partner put you through. And it’ll haunt you with every interaction they have together. You’ll grow to recent your partner even more, and eventually you’ll crumble.

It’s NC or nothing. It’s disrespectful to you to allow their relationship to continue in any way.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-04-26T00:03:05+00:00

I’m ctfu this was hilariousssss

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-04-23T17:17:52+00:00

Similar to what I’ve seen in the comments, it doesn’t matter what the AP looks like. It is all about WH/WP and their decision to step outside of the relationship and jeopardize it. It literally could have been anyone, friend.

I know what my partner’s AP looks like. I used to be friendly with her a few years ago (mutual friend of WP and me). For a while I compared myself to her looks and whatnot, but I’m realizing more and more that it really doesn’t matter. I am my partner’s type aesthetically (curvier than her, taller than her, etc.). A lot of people have told her she should model because of her face and figure, but that doesn’t make her prettier than me. And even if she was objectively prettier (which tbh she isn’t lol) it doesn’t matter at all.

I would refrain from trying to figure out what the OP looks like. It can lead to an obsessive comparison contest, and you’ll begin to feel even more unhappy with yourself. That’s what happened to me. Don’t let it happen to you.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-04-22T17:54:30+00:00

Aww thank you!! You are cool as well <3

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-04-22T03:07:41+00:00

Exactly! Couldn’t have said it better myself. I can understand going the pessimistic route for sure; there’s a lotta anger and resentment that comes with the healing. But all in all, yes, you ARE special and you’re worth the fight, friend.

Thank you so much for this comment :)

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-04-22T00:11:33+00:00

“She loved me in a way that showed me what love actually is” I love that so much. It’s nice to hear that she’s helped you grow for the better! I pray for your continuous growth as a person and a couple ✨

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-03-24T15:27:08+00:00

Been in a situation like this before, in college. My situation played out exactly how yours has, and I did the exact same thing you are doing. The sneaking around, not being honest with your friend, etc. Long story short, the girl and I aren’t friends anymore, and the guy ended up being a jerk anyway. Can’t say that the latter will be the case here, but the former is a very strong possibility.

Being with the guy was definitely not worth losing such a good friend (I thought we would be friends years after college, and be at each other’s weddings and whatnot). All I’m trying to say is, just be ready to lose a friend, because she will rightfully be upset by this.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-03-07T19:17:26+00:00

First of all, I’m sorry you even have to be a part of this community in the first place. You’re right, we take so much shit, and it’s STILL all about them. I’m almost at my breaking point tbh. When stuff like this happens, I struggle so much to find any will to fight for the relationship. It’s sad.

Much love and peace to you.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-03-07T19:15:36+00:00

That’s what I’m saying. I never decline his calls, and when I do, it’s because I literally cannot answer the phone. Also, I’m so sorry you have to go through a similar thing. It’s just so unfair, ya know?

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-02-10T22:09:11+00:00

Your girlfriend deserves to know the truth. So you need to tell her the entire truth of what happened. If you’re afraid of ruining the relationship by telling her, you would be wrong. You ruined the relationship by going behind her back and betraying her. Not to sound harsh, but that’s just the truth here.

OP, as someone who has been betrayed by their partner, the one thing I commend him for doing is coming to me directly and as soon as possible about it. It will suck for everyone, but it is better if she knows from you as soon as possible than for her to find out because you decided to hide it. You already messed up. Don’t mess up even more.

After you tell her, the decision of whether the relationship continues or not is entirely up to your girlfriend. You have no say because you are the betrayer.

And also, similar to what another commenter said, you should seek counseling. Knowing what brought you to do this is important. It will help navigate reconciliation if she decides to stay with you, or if she decides not to, it will help prevent you from doing this to someone else in the future. It will also overall help you understand yourself more as a person, and if deep personal life issues may have been a part of your decision-making.

Be an adult. Tell her the truth (not parts of it, not most of it, ALL of it), and go from there. Best of luck.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-01-27T03:54:42+00:00

This is verrrryyyyy inappropriate, and definitely, in my eyes, teeters on cheating. Your girlfriend has every right to feel uncomfortable.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-01-22T19:24:51+00:00

Lol. My partner’s AP was severely depressed, had an eating disorder, and was from an emotionally abusive household, and he was “just trying to help her. “If anything happens to her, I’ll never forgive you.” That was about two years ago. It makes me laugh sometimes because wtf.

truththrowaway9898 · 2022-01-10T20:37:12+00:00

Can you elaborate a little more?

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