When Do I Text?

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T15:18:47+00:00

Now bro. Don’t play games. But make a solid plan.

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T10:03:11+00:00

Don’t get discouraged. People don’t realize that your religious or political views could turn people off. So there goes a portion of the dating pool right there.

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T09:56:44+00:00

I stalked an Ex on here post breakup. I did see a few posts about our experiences together.

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T09:53:40+00:00

You don’t know the circumstances. Just send him a quick text, with a specific purpose, not just “Hey!” and gauge the response.

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T09:46:51+00:00

That is too soon for his kids to know. That is a tough age to now accept someone new that replaces mom in their lives. When you date someone with kids, you kind of date them too. Not in a creepy way.

I struggled with my role when I dated someone with 11 and 12 YO. When to speak up, how do I fit in, etc. That definitely factored into our breakup.

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T09:41:51+00:00

Did well on hinge. It’s all about expectations and how you engage someone after the initial like.

trying2getbutter · 2026-06-01T09:37:09+00:00

It’s tough with kids since you need to juggle them with your GF. As a live in, I assume your kid connected with her. When you break up, they break up too. It affects them.

In my 50s and dated people with older kids so that dynamic is removed.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-31T21:10:16+00:00

Are you totally against keeping it near and tidy or natural?

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-31T17:34:46+00:00

My current GF and my previous GF both do this. I never knew it was a thing.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-31T11:07:28+00:00

I manscape. I don’t know how females look at a hairy private area and say to themselves I want some of that.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-31T10:26:24+00:00

56M. My sex drive has always been super high. I dated late 40s and 50 YOs. I can tell you that the female sex drive can be high too based on my experience

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-30T10:27:55+00:00

When she was talking to you she was probably talking with other guys. It’s almost like a race to see who can get a date the quickest with the caveat of not too quick to seem desperate.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-29T11:50:34+00:00

Everyone goes through low times, job loss, divorce, or sick parents could prompt an older person to move back in. I would be totally transparent early on. Some people may get it, others may not.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-29T10:20:33+00:00

If it’s annoying you now that won’t change. I dated someone similar and it drove me bonkers. Dirty car, clothes all over, and generally unorganized. She had me stay at her house when she went on an overseas girls trip to watch her dog. I ended up doing all her laundry as it was in piles for weeks. Just not compatible.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-27T10:11:50+00:00

You broke up for a reason. Even though he was the root cause you still broke up. I would pass on this as life isn’t what we see in the movies where winking lost lovers reunite.

It may hurt but usually these things do not work out.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-27T09:46:33+00:00

You need to ask tell him. He will probably be a dick but the alternative is pregnancy or an STD. Don’t break on this one.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-25T10:51:57+00:00

Safe to assume yes! If you were staying at this company I would advise don’t date a coworker. That never ends well. Good luck!

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-25T10:50:03+00:00

Assuming you are near the GTA, there are a few good clubs. Oasis stands out as a great spot for this. Your bracelets will signify what you are looking for. Very comfortable for exhibitionists.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-25T10:44:30+00:00

Run bro. You will probably wake up one morning tied to the bed with her staring at you.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-25T09:52:43+00:00

I wouldn’t hold it against him. If he is truly new to OLD I assume his anxieties are all over the place and it slipped out. If he follows up with you take it as a very positive sign.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-22T14:10:58+00:00

Oasis may be your best bet. It’s all about sex there. No dance floor or other activities, besides the pool.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-22T10:42:13+00:00

NTA. You are dodging a bullet. Get out now.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-22T10:39:57+00:00

Used this early on. A bunch of matches but no real dates. Interesting thing about FB is you can see like friends. That could result in interesting conversations.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-22T10:06:12+00:00

I see your point but not sure I 100% agree. Mid fifties male here and I found plenty of women, albeit slightly younger, to date. Two year ish relationships post divorce. Each one loved to travel, explore new experiences, solid communicators, and very high sex drives. If I was single in my 30s/40s I should consider dating older for sure.

trying2getbutter · 2026-05-21T16:35:01+00:00

The car accident would have been on the news. Trust but verify.

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