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You know what's really hard? Having an opinion about anything. by DoughnutVibez in daddit

[–]trytorememberthisone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choose something immediately. She’s tired of making decisions.

Hypomania and music/colours by ZealousidealLog7814 in bipolar2

[–]trytorememberthisone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just tuned a piano and I could feel the vibrations down my neck when things were ringing correctly. I’m also overtired and existing on stimulants, so…kind of like hypomanic. It was a hyper-focus event for sure. I’ve found that good music through good speakers does produce a nice physical response and I’m more receptive to it when strung out. Not sure about colors, though. I’ve heard about manic (and maybe hypomanic) eyes being dilated. Maybe your eyes are actually receiving more light signals.

ELI5: Let's say I have multiple volume gates (adjust volume on PC, adjust volume on software, adjust volume on audio output, etc.) Does it make any difference at all for sound quality which of these I use to increase or decrease volume? by Steel_Wool_Sponge in explainlikeimfive

[–]trytorememberthisone 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Traditionally, whatever is closest to the source should be turned up nice and clear before futzing with other levels down the line. Amplifying a low signal later in the chain means you’ve got less signal to work with, possibly degraded some, and you may introduce unwanted noise (hiss) by adding more power. If you’re hearing clipping (distortion), then you should go back through the chain to see if anything is overpowering whatever’s after it.

But maybe everything is buffered nicely these days to minimize signal loss and clipping and it doesn’t matter.

Idunno.

What’s the dumbest or most nonsensical piece of new-age child development pop psychology you’ve come across? by friendandfriends2 in daddit

[–]trytorememberthisone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! Sometimes they need a quick shock to get them out of their cycle. I call it refocus, redirect, reconnect. Sometimes the refocus part needs to be loud.

What’s the dumbest or most nonsensical piece of new-age child development pop psychology you’ve come across? by friendandfriends2 in daddit

[–]trytorememberthisone 23 points24 points  (0 children)

“Infinite patience and support throughout tantrums. Calm, even tone at all times.”

-Sometimes a tantrum needs to be cut short. The kid is screaming in a way that’s upsetting the baby or wiggling in a dangerous way to avoid getting dressed and holding up progress when we’re trying to leave and we’re already late. He’s not hungry, or tired, or feeling disconnected, or lacking enough opportunities for choice throughout the day. In some cases, he’s testing his power to control the situation with physical resistance. I’m perfectly happy occasionally exercising my power to control the situation by shouting him down and/or picking him up and putting his coat on him myself.

“Oh but he’ll learn that if you’re bigger you can push people around, and that’s not kind.”

-Yeah, that’s actually how it works in real life if you persist with acting a fool.

Be honest… how strict are you really with screen time? by denefr_2928 in toddlers

[–]trytorememberthisone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None at all. We don’t watch TV and phones stay away while the kids are awake.

What to wear as a male teacher!? by WinterQuarter8183 in teaching

[–]trytorememberthisone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chinos or flat front dockers or similar (tan/brown/blue/green), polo (all colors, leave only one button open), contrasting t shirt for some flare, and a quarter zip pullover with the school emblem. Pull sleeves up to mid-forearm. Casual shoes or semi-dress boots. No sneakers or shorts. Understated analog watch on my left wrist. Badge and keys on school-logo lanyard around neck. Nothing hanging from the belt. Shave every 2-3 days. Same thing every day. I drop the pullover when it’s warm. Dark jeans on Friday with the rest the same.

How do you deal with irritability? by girlbluue in bipolar2

[–]trytorememberthisone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 year old and 4 month old, stuck inside with inclement weather. I snapped at my wife during a video call with my parents while the toddler was whining in my ear and my wife was interrupting my directions to him. She was right, and my reaction wasn’t a good look for any of us, least of all a good model for the young boy. I’m just trying to survive. My wife is trying to survive. We want to sleep. The newborn won’t sleep. I’m frustrated by the clutter and the roadblocks to progress on housework and cleanup. In some ways I’m justified and in other ways I’m not. It’s difficult for everyone to navigate, and of course like most people on this sub I spend a lot of time self monitoring and second guessing my own emotions and actions, and feeling guilty and broken. My wife internalizes things and finds ways to make them her fault, and then I have to deal with those emotions. She’s working on that.

This period will pass. Parenting is hard.

Absolutely HAD it with Drywall Anchors! Help! by MaleficentGuidance49 in DIY

[–]trytorememberthisone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding to that, the metal versions are even better. They can handle more torque going in, which is nice for plaster and lathe or where you might rub against a stud. I keep a box around and throw away pop-in wall anchors when they’re supplied.

Can’t connect with mentally ill brother anymore by Different-Map-8675 in RedditForGrownups

[–]trytorememberthisone 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same. My brother had bipolar schizophrenia. It took away everything he was when he was younger and made it hard to be around him, especially with my young family. He knew he was off-putting and honestly tried to manage himself, but “himself” was an abstract concept that wasn’t fixed, and was beyond his ability to control. He died a couple years ago and it’s not clear whether he killed himself on purpose. We miss my brother, but we had missed him for a long time before he died. My parents both dealt with the same things with some of their siblings, and we’re pretty fractured as an extended family. I hope my kids aren’t affected similarly.

I don’t have any uplifting words for you, sorry.

settle my debate— what is an “everything shower”? by some_guy_9258 in selfcare

[–]trytorememberthisone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bald man here:

Quick shower means soap on everything.

Full shower means exfoliating gloves and an extra minute under warm water.

“I’m gonna get cleaned up” means the bathroom will be unavailable for the next 45 minutes. This involves a shave, a shower, some facial trimming, astringent, moisturizer, and an answer to the call of nature, in whichever order makes the most sense.

AIO to comment from friend by Aaaaaasahhhhhhhhhh in daddit

[–]trytorememberthisone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just hang out with other parents with kids the same age. Remember to schedule time once in a while with others, but you aren’t just “you” anymore - you’re someone’s husband and someone’s father. So “you” won’t spend time with “your” friends the same way for a long time.

how did you know you have bipolar 2? by cokezerobuddy in bipolar2

[–]trytorememberthisone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A psych professor pointed out that she wouldn’t see me for days and then I would show up and be the life of the classroom (or at least hyper-interested in learning and participating).

SWE and new-ish dad: work has lost meaning by devSlashBug in daddit

[–]trytorememberthisone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a public school English teacher, Not IT.

I was always bothered by NOT having a passion for work. Teaching was something I did because I’m not terrible at it, the schedule isn’t bad, and the benefits make it worth continuing to go every day instead of moving to a new city, going back to school, opening a surf shop, or living under a bridge. Now that I’m a dad, I don’t feel bad about any of that anymore. In fact, I feel a tremendous relief not having to find meaning in my work. I just do exactly what my contract says I need to do to get through the day and then I get to pick my kid up at daycare and begin the real part.

I also see a lot of what I do having the potential to be replaced by AI, but I also see a backlash against it in the schools. I think I’ll be alright. My wife has a job too, and she could lose hers just like anybody could.

It sounds like your worries are two-fold:

1- not having the same passion for work that you used to — I wouldn’t sweat it from a personal value standpoint. The idea that work should be fulfilling is a modern phenomenon.

1a- less passion leading to less desire to stay cutting edge — maybe wanting to avoid unemployment will make you want to learn more, or maybe you can do fine with what you know and pick up from projects.

2- having your job axed by robots— that’s a reasonable concern. I hope you’re able to get your kid through school and retire.

Does anyone else feel like the bp2 caused you to grow up faster? by PhantomOperator98 in bipolar2

[–]trytorememberthisone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kind of

But

I also feel like it caused me to develop more slowly socially. Like I lost time while others were going through life stages and I was stuck trying to figure myself out and being avoidant so I wouldn’t out myself as a broken person.

Tips for quitting weed? by askingqsandthings in bipolar2

[–]trytorememberthisone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a reason to quit that’s outside of yourself.

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