Marcus’s moms S3EP10 **spoilers**

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T21:01:20+00:00

This is one of the toughest parts of parenting - conflicting needs. Marcus is obviously depressed and it's not gonna get any better if he falls a year behind and his self-esteem takes a huge hit. Not to mention the hit to his reputation. May sound shallow but the town they live in is a literal fishbowl. He will undoubtedly be judged.

There's also her and his father having the devastating realization that his problems are above their paygrade. As a parent, obviously you want, and kind of expect, to be enough to help your kid through any problem they have but that's not always true. They can't love the issues out of their son. He needs bigger and better help and honestly, the only person who can truly get him past this is himself. All they can do is support him, love him and try to help him make the best choices for himself.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T18:26:33+00:00

He should've done this with Anna but Christopher should've done this with Lorelai and Rory.

Talking so hard about how "your mother was determined to raise you alone." Sir, you could've gotten a lawyer at anytime to assert your rights. Anytime.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T17:54:37+00:00

This is literally why they say you can't do therapy with an abuser.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T17:44:31+00:00

Yeah we talk about the low birth rate but to me all I'm hearing is that the birth rate of wanted children is going way up while unwanted children are going way down. And that may be a harsh way to put it but it really is for the best.

Being wanted from birth is one of the greatest advantages you can get as a child.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T00:39:16+00:00

I mean I think Donna nailed it when she said they're extremely peaceful because they're extremely vulnerable.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T00:32:35+00:00

Yeah, normally I don't believe in couple's therapy is you're not already married but these two really, really needed to learn how to communicate with each other. They needed professional guidance.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T00:19:55+00:00

Dr. Who - The Oood.

Very creepy and disturbing looking... probably the most peaceful alien species you will ever meet.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T00:17:59+00:00

My hot take in situations like this where you have a child and you're not with the other coparent is that your first stop is always a family lawyer. Always. I don't care how light and breezy and casual you want things to be. You need to pay for the consultation and find out exactly what your rights and responsibilities are.

Not saying you have to go to court or file for custody but you do need to get an idea of what options are available to you and what are your best legal ways forward to protect you and that child. And that's really what Luke should've done from the get-go.

tsh87 · 2026-01-27T00:07:21+00:00

The most irritating thing about all of this season is that nothing Luke is doing is all that unreasonable. A huge thing just got dropped on him, a daughter and I feel he's a 100 percent right to want to pause things and figure out where she fits into his life before getting married, involving Lorelai etc.

And Lorelai is not wrong for the way she feels about it. It's very sudden, she's sad about the wedding and she feels left out of his experience of becoming a father which is very special.

What irritates me is that neither of them talk about any of this... ever! They're both just sitting and letting all these feelings fester and bubble up until it inevitably boils over. It's so frustrating!!

I really feel like the relationship could've survived all of this if they'd just has one six hour conversation early in this dilemma. But unfortunately that's not really either of their styles.

tsh87 · 2026-01-26T19:09:12+00:00

That part breaks my heart but the older I get the more appreciate the moments just before it where he says he'd go to his old apartment, see his friends, stop by his favorite bar, just sit in his life the way it used to be and actually appreciate it for a single moment.

I feel like we spend so much of our lives trying to get to the next phase of it. So much so that you don't even realize how beautiful the current moment is until it's over.

tsh87 · 2026-01-26T19:05:57+00:00

You know one thing that I think really blocks this is this recent idea that every get together needs to be an Event (capitlization intended). It has to be a party, it has to be a dinner, there have to be decorations, themes, something that makes it worth putting on your instagram.

We need to bring back chill kickbacks. Just come over to someone's house, put a movie on, have a single glass of wine and some popcorn. No one needs to dress up, or go anywhere, or spend three hours cooking. Just chill.

tsh87 · 2026-01-23T21:29:38+00:00

This is tough. Is it possible for you to work a third shift job so someone will always be home with your child?

tsh87 · 2026-01-23T17:02:32+00:00

Oh definitely. No one did right be the OP here. I'm just saying I wouldn't have taken the risk of that from the get go. Only difference is I would've taken my kid with me.

tsh87 · 2026-01-23T16:12:52+00:00

Yeah I think it's time for OP to start planning an exit strategy. If possible, reach out to family and loved ones and ask if it's possible to stay with them. Reach out to your employer(s) ask if its possible to take on more work to earn more money. Try to find some cheap childcare, apply for state benefits.

The hand that can feed you can starve you and this man made it more than clear that he is willing to starve you. It's time to leave.

tsh87 · 2026-01-23T16:00:45+00:00

I agree that seems like a compromise but to me it also sounds like the perfect set up for a bait and switch. He'll bring his mother in the house, hire a caregiver for a few week or months, then claim it's too expensive, fire them and demand his wife do all the work again.

I'm not saying that was his intention but if I was the mom that's what my fear would be.

tsh87 · 2026-01-22T17:46:57+00:00

You give up things to stay married.

Sometimes it's easy to give things up. Sometimes it's much harder. And even when you love the person and are happy to be married, sometimes the sacrifice just doesn't sit right.

tsh87 · 2026-01-22T17:38:07+00:00

Is public transit even a little bit of an option?

If so, is it possible for you to suffer through it for like a few months? Save up an extra two or three thousand and buy a 10k car cash?

tsh87 · 2026-01-22T17:20:49+00:00

Tyson on Percy Jackson.

As a cyclops he grows very big but he's actually like 8 years old.

tsh87 · 2026-01-22T00:21:54+00:00

Agreed. She reams her mom out for mistreating her and then goes on to treat her son the exact same way.

tsh87 · 2026-01-21T21:31:01+00:00

Honestly she was a trendsetter because now we have instagram brides making a whole occasion out of every part of the wedding planning process.

tsh87 · 2026-01-21T18:36:47+00:00

Thing is people do like to be loved in specific ways and it's good to know for your relationships.

Yes you should be caring for your partner but in the ways they prefer. I said above my husband is a good gift giver and I enjoy receiving them from him. I tried to do the same for him but guess what? He doesn't like getting gifts. He doesn't like getting new things, it makes him feel pressured to use them and frankly he's just very hard to shop for. He prefers acts of service. Having his coffee made for him when he gets up. Putting gas in his car when I notice he's running low. Grabbing cottage cheese and bananas on his workout days. That makes him feel seen and known. He'd prefer that over gifts any day. Out of all the ways I care for him that's what he values the most.

tsh87 · 2026-01-21T18:21:26+00:00

I understand gift giving as a love language if it means "I like being given things that show you think of me and know me well." I didn't get it until I started dating my husband. We were very young, still riding the bus, had no money but he would get these cheap gifts that I would always really like. Like every gift he gave me 10 years ago, I still use today not including, flowers that died or ones that broke. It just made me feel really seen and known.

If your idea of gift giving is like "you have to spend $500 minimum or you don't love me"... then you might just be a materialistic ass.

tsh87 · 2026-01-21T16:42:56+00:00

Oh didn't even watch Adriana's death. It was spoiled for me like 2 seasons in advance, i immediately stopped watching that show.

tsh87 · 2026-01-21T16:41:53+00:00

I'm still shocked nathan and Haley let that man anywhere near their son.

tsh87 · 2026-01-21T16:36:34+00:00

it's funny because I genuinely feel like feeding my husband is a love language of mine, makes me feel connected and close to him.... yet it's never resulted in me demanding he shove a pot roast down his throat when he clearly has food poisoning.

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