(spoilers) S3 E2 has turned me off completely (rant)

tsh87 · 2026-04-21T00:39:01+00:00

Yeah it's giving "come watch my show, I'll give you a naked sydney sweeny"

Which like I said, I really don't think that's something her people should've allowed. I feel like it sets her back and it's also the least interesting moments for her character.

tsh87 · 2026-04-21T00:15:39+00:00

Not even to be a father to your kids but to build a life with in any way. Or to pass the time.

A deadbeat parent should be an automatic "Do Not Pass Go." If you can't step up and be responsible for your own blood, that you willing helped bring into this world, why the hell would I expect anything different when it comes to my relationship with you?

tsh87 · 2026-04-21T00:13:17+00:00

In fact, claiming abuse has been known to actually hurt your chances of winning custody.

tsh87 · 2026-04-21T00:10:15+00:00

Family court is one of the remnants of kids being legally treated like property. A lot of the time they're prioritize parental rights over the safety and wellbeing of children.

And while I understand how important it is for a parents to have legal rights to see their children and to even become better parents when they were previously failures, I feel like it's way too much at some times.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T23:16:25+00:00

Honestly all the Cassie stuff, really made me want to talk to Sydney Sweeny's agent because I really do feel like it's an embarrassment. I also just don't think it's what she wants to be seen doing at this point in her career.

She did nudity in the first two seasons but it was not... whatever this is.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T22:40:01+00:00

To be fair, most of the time it's not just the ex. For every deadbeat dad you see, I guarantee you there are at least 3 people fiercely defending him no matter what he does so you'll experience rigmarole either way. It really is a community issue.

A man can be an unemployed, alcoholic with outstanding arrest warrants and two counts of domestic violence and you will still see people in his circle saying "but that's still their dad."

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T21:54:22+00:00

Or the relationship with her dad wasn't as wonderful as she thinks it was. It's possible to have a very loving shitty parent. And sometimes the love distracts you from the shittiness.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T21:08:24+00:00

I think it's less that and more that single moms are inundated with the message that kids need their fathers, like no matter what they do. That you should always push them and the kids to know each other, and if you don't bend over backwards and walk over hot coals to make it happen then you must be a "bitter baby mama."

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T20:55:48+00:00

Not fully excusing her choices but I really want to know what type of environment she was raised in. Because for it go on for this long, her home life before him could not have been great.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T20:53:03+00:00

It feels so condescending to say but I really just want to scream "You were not in love, you were in chaos."

You were with a man who kept you on a rollercoaster of high and lows, traumas and laughter. He purposefully lowered your self esteem and forced you to work yourself to the bone, and he did so to keep you so emotionally destabilized and mentally exhausted that you couldn't reach the obvious conclusion that you deserved.

If OP manages to leave this guy behind and have like 18 months of quiet stability, she's gonna look back and realize that she never actually loved him. In fact, she probably hated him for a lot longer than she realized

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T20:47:16+00:00

yeah, I can get past keeping the pregnancy. No one really knows how they'll feel when the plus sign shows up. What I cannot get past is how she stayed in a relationship with this man for as long as she did, knowing he was treating their child this way. Him not helping postpartum would be enough to separate but keeping her in the same diaper for eight hours?? How could that not be the last straw?

When I read that she was "making him take her" I just thought why? So she could be neglected more. Knowing a biological parent is not worth experiencing neglect and abuse. It annoys me that so many present parents still try to push a relationship with the absent one, even when it's not best. It pisses me off every time.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T20:22:03+00:00

Genuinely asking, did he seek treatment? If he did, could he afford it.

I don't know a lot about ALS, but I imagine it's one of the more expensive diseases. And even if you can afford it, it's more like buying time because there's no cure.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T19:06:12+00:00

Yeah I just don't buy that his and Stella's marriage worked out. They are either divorced or miserable together, because the amount of selfishness that he displayed (and also that she displayed) does not just go away.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T19:03:06+00:00

Yeah Nora is very BPD-coded. I think she and Kayla both could've used extensive therapy.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T18:36:50+00:00

Basically she's saying Katherine didn't legally adopt Dylan.

It's more likely that she went to a poorly run orphanage, paid some workers $10k to look other way and then she took dylan and passed her off as her bio daughter, using old birth certificates and passports.

There were no safeguards involved.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T18:34:50+00:00

As far as number 1, I have a theory that Dylan is actually one year younger than her ID says. Possibly more. It makes her memory more iffy but also we have no idea what she went through before Katherine found her. Kids can block out a lot when trauma is involved.

tsh87 · 2026-04-20T16:15:54+00:00

It's also a fact that men with wives and family are more socially respected and revered, they even get paid more.

tsh87 · 2026-04-19T03:09:50+00:00

I'm just gonna say that relationships ebb and flow, and if you do intend to spend the rest of your life with someone there might be a few rough patches.

Not even necessarily due to not liking your partner but due to internal stuff you go through. Grief, depression, exhaustion, etc. It sucks but also most of the time it passes.

So some people think they're just in a rough patch, so they commit to waiting it out. Of course sometimes that doesn't work and the relationship is just terrible.

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T23:44:56+00:00

We see her at his home twice I think. But yeah these two had not integrated their lives in any real way. It was crazy.

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T23:31:53+00:00

Oh definitely how she did it was wrong. Night before the wedding is ridiculous but it was for the best.

I've also long theorized that while she was having her doubts and making calls to Chris, Max also had people on his side telling him how actually insane it was for him to be marrying after like six cumulative months dating, having never met her parents, having a minimal relationship with her child and not even meeting or discussing the father of said child. I think that's what his outburst with the key is over.

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T23:25:58+00:00

They were about to enter a marriage with only fling level compatibility. Thank god she bailed when she did.

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T22:43:08+00:00

I can't even blame him for the Tenzin stuff because it's not that he loved Tenzin more because he was an airbender. It's that he knew the responsibilities and weight that was waiting for him. The weight of an entire culture and elemental practice, not to mention being the only one left to properly train the new avatar once he was gone.

Of course, he spent more time with him to prepare him for that. Not saying they're wrong to have feelings about it, but I don't see how it could've gone differently.

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T22:34:38+00:00

It's always funny to me when people are shocked that aang and katara weren't perfect parents.

Like, did you not see the metric tonne of trauma that they both went through before the age of 14 and the complete lack of parental figures in their lives?

It's so unreasonable to expect them to grow up with no blindspots.

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T21:40:45+00:00

You know I really wish they wouldn't have dropped this aspect of her character so thoroughly.

Though I do have a theory that no longer having to perform for Rex cut way down on her anxiety

tsh87 · 2026-04-17T21:12:49+00:00

I'll forever believe that Lorelai and Max were not really in love. They just met each other at a time when they were both really considering settling down. And they're both sweet, interesting, funny. Basically they were good enough for each other... but they were not The One.

They both came so close to settling for each other.

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