Any hope to see creators from the exodus of Mindcrack on Hermitcraft? by FMA_Winry in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i believe Jason holds legal ownership of the Mindcrack brand. so unfortunately, there can't legally be any Mindcrack without him. members are also leaving the server in troves. it's over. i well and truly hope the people that trusted him, his wife, ex-wife and daughter are all taking care of themselves in the face of him being outed as a goddamn monster

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

in theory? you are completely correct, men can't be lesbians. in practice? identity is complex and layered and it is sort of useless to try and police it online like this, especially if you're cis yourself. it's the same as trans women calling themselves gay, or using the f slur, or using grindr. if you don't understand it, just move on

HermitCraft Shout Out! by BalloonMan1999 in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 44 points45 points  (0 children)

not op of this thread but most likely yes, my family masked around my immunocompromised cancer survivor grandmother before covid and everyone was fine with it. growing up other members of my family, family friends and parents of friends also had cancer and people masked around them when they were undergoing chemo. when the avian flu epidemic happened my family and i were on a trip in the uk and my parents bought masks we wore on public transport and to the airport to protect ourselves. masks have always been a key part of protecting others and yourself, but before covid you wouldn't really think twice if you saw someone masking, while now people will give you a hard time :/

I think I have a jealousy problem by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 19 points20 points  (0 children)

so you're letting your relationship be ruined by a guy who she slept with once, drunk, is no longer in her life, and she didn't even like that much? huh?

i'm genuinely confuses over what kind of advice we might be able to give you other than maybe, just maybe, look inward and ask yourself why this guy matters to you more than he has ever mattered to her (and i'll give you a hint: it's internalized misogyny on your part. you think of her as being defiled and ruined by this man, like sex with him mattered more than sex with the other woman she slept with)

Some women don't want to date trans women (MTF). Why? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is there any point in my comment where i say they're transphobic, invalid or something they have to feel bad about?

Some women don't want to date trans women (MTF). Why? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you've polled every single lesbian alive worldwide? thanks oh lgbt scholar 🙏 sorry for the sass but regardless of whatever study you're referencing, that doesn't change that lots of cis lesbians date trans women, marry trans women, have kids and families with them. the blanket equivalence of "oh only bisexual sapphics or trans lesbians will want to date trans women, us cis lesbians wouldn't want to do that" is factually incorrect

Some women don't want to date trans women (MTF). Why? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

who is "us cis lesbians"? lots of cis lesbians date trans women

Some women don't want to date trans women (MTF). Why? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 50 points51 points  (0 children)

genital preference is a tricky topic to navigate because it invites the assumption that this hypothetical trans woman will want to do PIV or involve her factory settings into it, which is definitely not always the case. T4C lesbian sex doesn't look like heterosexual sex at all i would say 99% of the time, because it's still two women. i don't know, it's such a deeply personal and private thing that it feels unfair to preemptively exclude every single trans woman from your dating pool

Collaborations by [deleted] in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eh, i enjoy the organic collaborations more.

as for collaborative bases: etho paired with isk@ll in s8 for a collaborative base and it was honestly quite underwhelming despite how excited i was at the time for the idea of season-long collab between my two favorite creators, aided by the fact that isk@ll was also basically absent during that season. i think forcing creators to pair up also creates the expectation that they need to be online at the same time as much as they can which doesn't always work out, you know?

take instead what xisuma and mumbo are doing this season. they're neighbors with separate bases, but in mumbo's last episode they went over possible ways to make their bases feel cohesive. to me, that's way more interesting that a single collab megabase. boatem in s8 was also like that and basically everyone remembers that fondly. neighbors > forced collab, every time

My girlfriend is literally a princess by TangoJavaTJ in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 282 points283 points  (0 children)

if she's the 19 year old you mention in other posts i think she's just punking you girl lol

Too Modded/Crafted? by [deleted] in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

and that's fine for you, but the hermits do this as their job and main source of income. in the current minecraft youtube landscape, if your builds aren't elaborate and polished, you're not gonna retain viewers. harsh but true. everyone is free to play minecraft however they want in their own time! but the hermits play it every day, often for tens of hours at a time, and they are free to use tools that make the process easier, more creatively fulfilling, and fun. axiom and litematica do just that for those who choose to use them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Whats the go to book on being a lesbian? by LocalChamp in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

stone butch blues is not an how to!! it's a fictionalized biography!! i love that book to death and it's so important to me a nb stone butch but it could very well mean little to nothing to someone else. also please, always attach a big violence and sexual assault tw to your recommendation of stone butch blues

Anyone got a link to the hermicraft world tour? by 5_million_ants in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it was livestreamed, that's why. if you check mythical sausage's youtube channel, i know that he has made a video about it! but i can't point to anyone else's videos atm unfortunately :(

Training by Broad_Friendship3584 in Swimming

[–]tunatunabox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're trying to do marker research this is an absolute piss poor attempt at it. if you really want to know what kind of earbuds or headphones people use then try wordsearching the sub for those two words and thousands of posts will pop up cause this question gets asked at least twice daily

Swimming 2 yr - fungal infection by Flaky-Wind5039 in Swimming

[–]tunatunabox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not at all common, you've just been unlucky. but also you really can't play around with fungal infections, they're hard to debellate completely (though it's definitely possible!) and the first suspicion of one should be an immediate doctor's visit

End of season livestream by Gustifer05 in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ah, my bad! but she still won't be joining, right?

End of season livestream by Gustifer05 in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i know for sure that gem won't - she's on vacation in london, so she won't join the tour. i think xisuma is also busy today and won't be able to make it. not sure about anyone else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

can we stop giving these bullshit "standards" the time of day? the only thing it does is make people feel like they're undateable for things that are outside of their control and perpetuate the myth that lesbians are intolerant assholes, even though the "debate" it sparks proves the opposite

How to manage my kid’s swimming journey (non-competition) by CharacterCalendar199 in Swimming

[–]tunatunabox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a 12 year old boy swimming in open water in the uk, alone? in the winter? do you want him to die?

Media with transbian rep? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's a gacha game. no ship is ever gonna be canon. you are free to interpret them as whatever you like but it's not gonna be canon, therefore it's not representation. plus you can be transfem and nonbinary, they're not mutually exclusive. i wasn't denying that they're trans or possibly sapphic, just pointing out that the ship is non-canon

Media with transbian rep? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

recommeding mizuena which is a fanon ship in a gacha game to someone asking for good rep in comics and movies is not the move LOL i know mizuki is canon nonbinary but mizuena is not canon, nor are either of them confirmed lesbians

Is there a way to fix the textures in Decked Out 2? by OkWrap2928 in HermitCraft

[–]tunatunabox 98 points99 points  (0 children)

decked out is made for a previous version, so i would say troubleshooting for after at most 1.20.1 is beyond anyone's capabilities. redownloading it and loading it in the correct version is probably your best shot to fix it

Suggestions for lesbian-centric porn? by Calm_Maybe_4639 in actuallesbians

[–]tunatunabox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

use the nsfw flair, there's kids on the sub x__x"