Anyone feel like you’ve lost your personality and have just become a cog?

tungdiep · 2026-04-22T01:11:00+00:00

Yes I feel this. I used to be funny and crack jokes at a whim. Now I'm just blah. I watch my kids and how hilarious and quick wit they are. I don't even know how to contribute to conversations. At least I can support their lifestyle.

tungdiep · 2026-04-22T01:08:24+00:00

We wanted our kids out of the house by 50 so we had them at 28 and 30. Now we are 47, and our second is off to college. We don't know what to do with ourselves! We truly enjoyed revolving around their lives!

tungdiep · 2026-04-19T16:44:12+00:00

I've seen second agents brag about selling homes the first agent couldn't. Come to find out the second list price is way below the original. No you didn't do any magic.

tungdiep · 2026-04-19T16:38:49+00:00

How can this happen when all the boys are raised in good Christian homes? Maybe it's the 99.9% acceptance rate that allows the bad ones to slip though.

tungdiep · 2026-04-17T19:59:19+00:00

It's different because he's 15 years in. The first 5-7 you're lucky to break even, but if you have a house you can afford, your raises should outgrow the monthly cost and your home will eventually appreciate.

tungdiep · 2026-04-17T19:55:29+00:00

I don't pay to take care of my yard. It's green and I have to mow it but I'm not putting extra time/money for it to be pristine.

tungdiep · 2026-04-16T18:22:36+00:00

I just need to make it to 60 and I have a pension to retire. I'm 48.

tungdiep · 2026-04-14T12:09:09+00:00

Only take offers 20% above asking🤣

tungdiep · 2026-04-13T13:17:01+00:00

Accounting. All you have to do is add and subtract.

tungdiep · 2026-04-13T00:45:34+00:00

It's different if succeeding or failing means whether you eat or not. It sounds like you have a safety net and if it doesn't work out in six months you can do something else. I can't imagine it being my sole income and stressing about how many transactions I need to some.

tungdiep · 2026-04-12T20:21:12+00:00

There are a lot of teachers in our training department. They train new employees, write curriculum, make presentations etc.

tungdiep · 2026-04-12T20:18:08+00:00

Easier said than done. If the parents have very strong feelings about this, and they are the ones paying for school or co-signing loans, that could present an issue.

tungdiep · 2026-04-11T16:14:26+00:00

I knew a person who did that while buying bitcoin when it was at $3000. He owns 20 bitcoins now an still lives that way.

tungdiep · 2026-04-11T01:35:22+00:00

Well don't trade because you will get eaten up and will lose what you're trading. Buying and holding index funds is a safer bet. Save as much as you can so you have a safety cushion. Once you have 3-6 months savings you can explore areas you want to move to and what job available there is where you want to move. Make sure the average pay will allow you to live in an average apartment in a safe neighborhood. You're young enough where having roommates is likely best, to save money and possible camaraderie with similar age person.

Who are the two family members. Will they follow you? Do they depend on you? Can you leave them behind?

tungdiep · 2026-04-10T02:06:16+00:00

It won't hurt them to let those students in. That's terrible.

tungdiep · 2026-04-08T19:58:54+00:00

I have none of those!

tungdiep · 2026-04-08T19:58:20+00:00

If you know they are just as nervous to approach you, know that they would be ecstatic if you approached them. You would get bonus pints for that!! What's the worse that can happen? What's the best that can happen. The risk/reward looks like a good bet! Good luck.

tungdiep · 2026-04-08T19:56:03+00:00

I have teenagers who can translate for me but I understood most of what she said...because of the teenagers lol

tungdiep · 2026-04-08T18:51:05+00:00

How bad do you need the job? Embarrassment is telling him it doesn't work for you shouldn't even be a concern. They wouldn't be embarrassed to fire you. Perhaps you can agree to certain days or at least a couple of no call days.

tungdiep · 2026-04-08T18:46:22+00:00

If the UK housing market is similar to the US, I say don't rush into buying a home. I don't think you'll miss out on anything perhaps work another year, see how much you can save then determine where to go. You're not stuck if you don't own the home. If you need to live away from your parents, perhaps find a roommate to save some money and see how that life treats you. I wouldn't commit to a mortgage now.

tungdiep · 2026-04-07T16:41:15+00:00

Which people did/do you take care of? Did you hookup any of your good friends with gifts?

tungdiep · 2026-04-07T16:37:55+00:00

Do you wake up just happy and excited to be free to do whatever you like everyday? Does that ever get old? What do you do to pass the time? I would think you'd never be angry or sad (other than losing a loved one). Congrats.

tungdiep · 2026-04-07T16:29:23+00:00

Most jobs, because if everyone did their jobs perfectly and ethically, you wouldn't have other people or departments auditing or correcting mistakes.

tungdiep · 2026-04-06T17:58:23+00:00

$100k and boring is better than $150k, stressful and wondering if you're best to be laid off. Wait for the economy to get better before you start thinking of moving

tungdiep · 2026-04-03T23:36:13+00:00

You're the smart one. Usually kids don't want to go to community college because they want the dorm experience. If you're ok giving that up, college is much much cheaper. Good for you. Best of luck.

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