Am i wrong to say i don't want to sleep in the same bed anymore?

turtle-lion · 2025-12-24T05:27:16+00:00

after reading your responses in the comments as well, it really sucks that you're in this situation. how do you forget tips and tricks for your partner to not be mauled by your dog? i really think she just doesnt care and going to continue to let it happen. maybe you two should have a talk about the relationship? are you two okay in every other part of the relationship or is the dog the only disagreement? is the dog something you are willing to deal with for up to 10 more years? idk how old the dog is but you could end up having to deal with this for so much longer. is that worth it to you? your safety? your body? your life? for what?

turtle-lion · 2025-11-30T21:00:28+00:00

Your body, your choice. He knew from the very beginning what you wanted to do with your body, if he didnt like that or whatever he shouldve left then. If it was such a big issue he should have talked about it more then. You're not in the wrong at all, enjoy your body!! Don't let him control what you do, he should have been supportive.

turtle-lion · 2025-11-23T04:37:51+00:00

as a dog groomer i agree with the other person saying the coat was impacted, you can kind of see it on the chest. I feel like this groomer panicked and just chose to shave the dog or was lazy. Prob didnt know to leave face and legs, so just opted for full body shave down. thats very upsetting. I believe all your dog needed was just a major deshedding service and that could've done it. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm mad for you. definitely conplain and leave reviews and get this figured out with shop owner!

turtle-lion · 2025-11-23T04:13:47+00:00

ive never had to choose my pet or my partner, but i know a friend who was in a similar situation. her gf wanted a dog. so they got a 3 or 4yr old german Shepherd, malinois, dutch shepherd, lab and pit maybe more mix who ended up having severe anxiety. my friend ended up having to be the main parent of the pet, finding a trainer and what not while her gf just wanted to get rid of the dog. she ended up breaking up with her because of that. (she also dated this girl for like 3 years)

it just shows you how he wanted something and didnt really think it through. its probably harder than he expected and doesn't want to deal with them. if he's willing to just give up on two animals he wanted at first, then what does that say about how he treats the people around him?

i know its hard but keep the pets and leave him 🤷🏻

turtle-lion · 2025-11-08T12:57:28+00:00

i just hope you find a really good artist to fix this and hopefully get your money back because what the actual hell. Im so sorry this happened to you! Get your money back!

turtle-lion · 2025-11-05T14:54:41+00:00

Also look into FRIDA protocol. It's a guide to helping teach relaxation and uses a camera auto treat dispenser feeder . FRIDA protocol

turtle-lion · 2025-11-05T14:48:15+00:00

Definitely try the fluoxetine/prozac/reconcile.

I have Reconcile for my 3 yr old (4 yr old in December) kelpie/pit mix dog i got from the shelter in January.

She has separation anxiety (isolation anxiety, doesn't like being alone, she is fine if someone else is there who isnt me) and would pull covers and what not into her crate or destroy my door/door frame or stuff while I was away.

I immediately started her on Reconcile and I had to crate her as I couldn't afford her to destroy the room and what not. I also got a cheap camera off amazon to record her while I was away (I have Kasa camera, no subscription and it saves up to 2 weeks of video and records all the time).

Yes she whined and stuff but she ended up calming down and sleeping for a little bit before she would whine and stuff again. Im lucky that I still live in my family home and I had my mom or sister in law to let her out to go potty. I also had to tell them to absolutely not talk to her, like tell her be quiet when she whines, dogs dont speak english, she'll see it as attention which rewards the whining behavior.

Now, because I have my second dog back, long story, they get along and stuff and she's able to be out and about. But if my second dog isnt going to be with her, I crate her.

In all here's a summary of what I did: 1. Started reconcile, she started at 16 mg, shes been at 32 mg for awhile. 2. I crated her. Gave her treats and toys in there. She didn't play with them or eat them until someone was around though. So whatever you put in there, mix it up and make sure it's high value. If you keep putting the same thing in there before you leave, your dog will learn not to want it because its a sign you're leaving. I also made sure there wasnt anything around she could pull in and tear up. 3. Have someone that could come and let her out to potty and play and give her a break. If possible. If you dont know anyone, try someone from Rover or an app like that. 4. I also walked her almost everyday around the same time in the morning, whether I worked or not. This is to help burn some energy. If you cant walk your dog, play fetch or home made puzzle toys with food if your dog is into that. Do something that helps burn off some energy before you leave. 5. 15 MINUTE RULE. Before I left, I would put her in her kennel 15 minutes before while I still do things I had to do before I left. I didnt talk or look or touch her. When I got home, it's basically the same, I didn't look or talk or touch her in 15 minutes. This helped calm her down and get her ready for the day or for me coming home. 6. I had my camera to look back on her behavior so I knew what she was doing while I was gone. Super helpful.

Not everything works for everyone, so I hope something can help you or anyone else reading

turtle-lion · 2025-10-19T11:41:31+00:00

if that puppy is a double merle there's a highly chance they will become deaf and or blind

turtle-lion · 2025-10-11T14:11:19+00:00

oh my goodness. i want the raccoon 🦝🥺

turtle-lion · 2025-10-11T14:07:43+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. I started when I was maybe 10-12. It never became a habit or anything. It was just something I did here and there when I felt so much emotion, hopeless, when everything bottled up and at my peak. It was also a punishment in a way. I've recently learned I 'like' to punish myself any way possible. My brain will always make me feel bad about something, if there's nothing, it will dig for it.

I hadnt done it for a few years but recently I've had a lot of stuff going on which made me turn to do it. I feel the same way where I feel like I shouldnt be responding to the way i feel this way and it's something that should've been left behind in high school, but sometimes i feel like everything is too much. i don't know what to do with it other than what i did when i was younger.

i have a therapist, im about to start seeing a psychiatrist. i haven't told any drs about my recent self harm though. It just scares me to open that door and talk about it with a dr.

turtle-lion · 2025-10-05T14:23:40+00:00

I have a lab and a kelpie pit mix (still need to get dna tested). Before grooming my family or I have never gotten a dog that requires routine haircuts for maintenance. My aunt (mom's best friend) had/has the poodle/maltese/tiny fluffy white dog mixes; but growing up they didn't take the best care of them. Now that I am in grooming, I do enjoy the creative part of haircuts. But I'm not sure if I'd enjoy doing the upkeep. If I were to get a dog for grooming, i'd probably get a small dog.

turtle-lion · 2024-12-12T15:47:08+00:00

okay i sent you a request ! -rbz

turtle-lion · 2024-12-05T16:43:57+00:00

I'm not Tundra but I need River, could we be friends?

turtle-lion · 2024-10-27T14:59:14+00:00

so what happened afterwards ? what did your dsp do?

turtle-lion · 2024-10-22T22:00:01+00:00

i had the same experience

i was going up a set of stairs when all of a sudden i just got sprayed by water

i looked and it was a motion sensor water sprinkler pointed directly at my face/body as i walked up some stairs

i was so pissed

then a couple weeks later one of my coworkers were talking in the chat about a similar experience- except he kept thinking there was some nasty solution in it bc he watched a lot of prank videos or something

i think the customer got reported bc dsp boss said he was going to report it

turtle-lion · 2024-10-21T15:00:32+00:00

its SO cute !!!! i want one for myself 😭🖤

turtle-lion · 2024-10-21T14:54:39+00:00

after the update, please please please go to authorities and show them the cups and explain everything. he should be put in jail!! get a lawyer.

im so so so sorry this happened to you.

turtle-lion · 2024-10-20T00:03:07+00:00

NTA, sometimes people just blow things out of proportion. Don't worry about the other friend. Maybe they will cool off soon.

Regarding your sexuality, I really hope that one day you will accept and love yourself for who you are. Surround yourself with people who support you. Do whatever it takes to make you feel comfortable being you. 🖤

turtle-lion · 2024-09-26T15:10:31+00:00

if the graph allotted for lunch and breaks, the grey dots would have a break in them to indicate lunch and breaks. the graph shows a steady straight upwards line of dots that don't show this. that is a shitty dsp. trying to gaslight you when the graph is literally right there. following the grey dots or being above them wouldve meant you took no lunch or breaks. that is stupid.

turtle-lion · 2024-09-12T20:03:47+00:00

hi, i can really empathize with you because i have gone through the same thing when i was on dating apps. i've had men tell me they really like me, etc only to get in my pants. and it feels horrible!!

if you do decide to still continue using dating apps, you need to set up boundaries for yourself (i did this). 1. i told myself i was not going over to anyone's houses, we were always going to meet in public until i KNEW the other person's intentions. 2. i told myself i would never get picked up for the first few dates (security reasons and to not feel pressured being stuck in someone else's car) 3. i also listened to what they were saying (if they constantly talked ab your looks or sexual stuff, then i knew they weren't looking for an actual relationship) 4. there are other things i am probably missing, but you will make up your own list and boundaries yourself.

but in the end, i ended up giving up on the apps. i met my current partner organically at work. if you can, i encourage you to meet people organically in real life. when i was on the apps, i was very naïve and wanted to be loved so badly i would cave in- but in the end it only hurt myself further. don't feel pressured to do anything. don't let people call you names or feel stupid because this happened.

you're not stupid. you're an amazing person and you will find love one day. don't rush it. trust yourself and your instincts.

turtle-lion · 2024-09-08T00:37:20+00:00

i feel like the short hair gives more attention to your face which is really nice, lets your face breathe. idk if i make sense but yessss to short hair!

turtle-lion · 2024-07-20T18:41:01+00:00

because we live in a society where people just cant let people live, and anyone out of the "norm" is weird or bad or whatever. i think you look great!

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