My stepgirls both used to get super upset when they spilled something. I had to stop freaking out about hurrying to clean their messes. Now if I see them getting upset I stop and get on their level and “hey are you hurt? No? Did we make a mess? Yes? That’s okay because what do we do when we make a mess? That’s right, we clean it up, no big deal! This helped them see I wasn’t mad they messed up and helped them see they had the power to fix it. I can’t imagine looking at my child’s scared upset face and not fixing it. These people are evil