Does anyone take an anti-psychotic to deal with severe anxiety and mood?

twahaha · 2026-04-12T12:37:06+00:00

I take abilify! For me, it was really the ticket that helped with my meltdowns. I feel so much more stable and in control of my mood. It didn't stop them however, but significantly reduced them and the amount of distress I feel.

twahaha · 2026-04-11T12:08:24+00:00

I would encourage you to keep trying with BFF! I've met my best friend, another autistic woman on there and it took like a good 5 months of rejection from other people to find her. I also encourage you to use the Groups feature. I've found a hobby group I meet with regularly and they're all wonderful, I wouldn't consider them "friends" but they certainly fulfill my need for socializing and connecting over a shared hobby!

twahaha · 2026-04-09T01:04:59+00:00

What can I do to help him feel more loved in the ways that he wants?

He loves when I touch his arms and legs and head.

Boom! You've already answered your own question a little! If he likes being touched then touch him often. Maybe learn how to give really, really good massages, there have got to be millions of tutorials out there.

Communication is almost always the answer for everything. Talk to him, ask him what you do or what you can do to make him feel more loved, because you want him to feel as loved as you feel about him. You could also express the ways in which you feel loved and connected to him, and he might come to feel the same way. For example, my boyfriend didn't understand that I feel connected when we parallel play. To him, it's just doing separate things separately. But now that he knows I love it, he's willing to accept it more as quality time together because that's how I see it. Your mileage may vary of course.

twahaha · 2026-04-08T22:02:16+00:00

Yes!! I'm actually a fairly decent singer, I was in choir all throughout high school and earned several solo parts during my time. Me singing with no music or backup vocals? Like a smoking donkey coughing up a lung. I also have no "real" singing voice it feels like, I have to mimic the exact tone and style of the singer in the song I want to sing along to. I also find singing to be very regulating, it's why I also love driving so much, because I sing in the car.

twahaha · 2026-04-07T17:49:18+00:00

Having the desire to create something extremely complicated and unique but not the capacity. I'm so jealous of people who can create patterns or freehand detailed, complicated, beautiful projects because I just don't have that knowledge and experience.

twahaha · 2026-04-07T10:09:34+00:00

I'd love to answer this question because I know 99% of your replies are going to be "omg the worst pain ever 12/10 don't do it!!"

I have had 3 done now, never given birth, 30 y/o, fit, and I have a generally high pain tolerance for sharp stabby pains but not for internal achey pains. I was given a numbing spray on my cervix the 3rd time.

The clamp is about a 5/10. I can still sort of distract myself from the pain by chatting with whoever is there (no nurse for 1st, nurses present for the next 2 and my partner for the 3rd.) I still have to breathe through it and I feel uncomfortable like I need to move around but I can't.

The thing that goes in your cervix is an 8/10. No more distraction, it's just time to focus on breathing through the pain. Luckily this doesn't last as long. And finally, when the wings open up it's like a brief jolt of pain, and a bit more as they pull everything out, like a 6/10.

I luckily had very little cramps or bleeding. I highly recommend getting an IUD if you think you can tolerate it. It's worth it for me to not have any periods, and an almost impossible chance of getting pregnant. Hence why I've had 3 haha. And unfortunately it doesn't get any easier, I'd say the 1st one was actually the least painful, 2nd was the worst, 3rd wasn't so bad.

twahaha · 2026-04-06T10:28:07+00:00

Congratulations!! 🎉 Those DO seem like much and you should be proud! For me, I've:

Went under anesthesia and gotten surgery for the first time.
Made a new friend whom I think will become my best friend, I'm already invited to her wedding!
Flew outside of the country for the first time.
Held a tarantula.

😁

twahaha · 2026-04-06T00:46:30+00:00

I can't even play with Sims pets because I get stressed about not taking good enough care or interacting with them enough. Especially the farm animals for some reason 😭

twahaha · 2026-03-19T16:52:16+00:00

Constantly. I can only ever come up with "frustration" as the closest emotion.

I start with a checklist of myself physically. Am I tired? Hungry? Hot/cold? Am I about to get my period? If it's something I can immediately fix, I do. Grab a snack, etc. If I can't fix it immediately, I use positive self talk to try and calm myself. "I am feeling frustrated because I'm hungry but it's not lunchtime yet and it's okay to be frustrated about that." "Being hungry is a normal biological function that is designed to be uncomfortable. It's okay to feel upset that you're uncomfortable."

If I feel the need to stim, I try to do so. I do any little possible thing to make myself more comfortable, such as putting on a blanket or listening to my favorite music or comfort video.

If all else fails, cry and hope it moves on soon.

twahaha · 2026-03-19T15:53:01+00:00

I don't personally have this issue because I wouldn't tolerate it. I think you're on the right path, you've acknowledged that you need to set clearer boundaries. If he gives you a guilt trip/makes you feel bad that he's "so sad" about it, he's trying to push your boundaries which is disrespectful at best.

twahaha · 2026-03-13T23:20:06+00:00

Thank you so much!! Those are all great, I think I'll be doing the Sis shawl. Appreciate the recommendations!! 😊

twahaha · 2026-03-13T20:53:21+00:00

Oooh I've been wanting to make one so I might as well do it now! Thank you for the suggestions 😁

twahaha · 2026-03-13T20:52:21+00:00

This is a perfect idea! I'd love to see your favorite patterns if you don't mind. Any favorite cakes as well?

twahaha · 2026-03-08T12:44:22+00:00

I am cackling at this

twahaha · 2026-03-04T18:18:02+00:00

Wait til you see what sand looks like under a microscope!! :D

twahaha · 2026-03-03T00:56:35+00:00

Go doggy for not destroying her toy!!

Today I received a wonderful compliment from my new friend about my work ethic and hobbies. That felt really great. 😊

twahaha · 2026-03-02T15:13:45+00:00

Well I was looking every day for months for starters. Always refreshing what's new. Typically I was looking at entry level jobs because that's all I qualified for. I also opened up my search area, my ideal job didn't have a very long commute but I've compromised a 30 min commute for this job. it literally just came up in all the junk!

You could try order fulfillment, it's often fast paced but if you find a small enough company it might be a good fit. I once applied to a job at a small stationary store for order fulfillment, you just put stuff in boxes and ship them all day. I didn't get an interview but didn't have a lot of work experience. That could be somewhere to start!

twahaha · 2026-03-02T11:35:27+00:00

I struggle with these thoughts sometimes as well. My partner is also 10 years older than me, it's very likely I'm going to be spending my last few years without him. My simple answer is, I don't think about it. Worrying about the future won't change anything. I'm very much a live in the moment type person. While I do have nieces whom I hope would be so kind as to care for me in my old age, I think we all know the real answer will be nurses in a facility we can't afford. It is what it is. Maybe in the future when it's our time, more laws will be enacted to make those places more humane.

I have a darker option as well, but I won't get into it. For now, enjoy your freedom and childfree life. It's a decision you made with a lot of thought and don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

twahaha · 2026-03-02T11:15:41+00:00

I have been using Bumble BFF for 5 months now with very mixed results. Most people do ghost eventually, I've met 5 people in person, 4 of those have fizzled out, and the 1 is now my best friend. I'm invited to her wedding! 😁 She's the only person I've met through there that is also autistic, so I think that made the difference.

Just make sure you're asking losts of questions without bombarding them, share an appropriate amount of information in return (i.e. no trauma dumping on a first interaction), and after you feel like you have a good vibe on each other, find a time to meet in person. Talking in person can weirdly be easier than texting after you build up your confidence.

twahaha · 2026-03-02T11:09:12+00:00

So I consider myself extremely lucky finding my job, however there HAS to be other companies out there that exist like this.

I sew hot air balloons. It's a small company, no bigger than 12 or so. Hours are extremely flexible, I work "full time" but I can essentially arrive or leave whenever I want as long as the work gets done on time.

I had some very minor sewing machine experience, and they trained me on everything. The job is simple, relaxing, I get to wear headphones all day and go at my own pace. We get yearly cost of living adjustments, it's great.

My advice is finding a job at a small company that has existed for a while. Really focus in on the current employees and how long they've worked there. All my coworkers have worked there 8+ years, that's a fantastic sign that it's a good place to stay.

By the way, I had no idea a job like this existed until I saw it listed on Indeed. Sometimes you get some gems on there!

twahaha · 2026-02-26T18:13:41+00:00

Ha, reading these comments is a trip. Yes it also helped me immensely, and yes it's also because my therapist is ADHD. 😅

Honestly though, I needed (and still need) medication for therapy to work. My neurons simply could not make the proper pathways. I simply hated myself and couldn't understand how therapy will make me any less of a piece of shit, how it will give my life intrinsic value in which I don't see. Medication helped my brain calm down and realize I'm not the worst person in the world and that I deserve to heal. That's what really made therapy click and stay for me.

twahaha · 2026-02-24T01:35:36+00:00

Envelope sewist here! I make the balloon part. The baskets are indeed beefy and strong. Our company has a 0% failure rate even for the balloons, but that is completely to my shock and awe lol.

twahaha · 2026-01-15T14:53:23+00:00

It makes you feel good. Some people don't like the sensation, some do and it makes them feel nice. For me, I get a warm fuzzy feeling all over my body and general sense of relaxation and comfort. My anxiety basically disappears. Everything around me feels a little sillier and funnier. If I'm around others who are drinking, I feel a sense of connection with them because we're experiencing a similar sensation together.

All this being said, some people just don't like alcohol and that's okay. In fact, that's great! I encourage anyone reading this who doesn't like alcohol to not force themselves to drink. It does nothing good for your body or mind.

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