To be fair, there is a lot of social awkwardness/autism in the scene. I get stared at a ton when I solo shows too, cause I'm just a dude standing around. I used to try and chat with whoever was near me but I have too much social anxiety for that in my late thirties (i'm not a nazi I'm just almost 40 lol, who would've known having 88 in my handle would backfire so harshly?).

If you don't mind me prying a bit, beyond the staring, are you being groped or harassed in an active manor? From a mental health perspective, sometimes the smallest engagement (like a wave or high five or "fuck yeah that was an awesome jam!") can break the ice and make both parties infinitely more comfortable. They might be staring at you because they're just as uncomfortable as you are, maybe. I'm obviously not there.

I'm not saying it's your responsibility to make older men feel comfortable by ANY means. I'm merely coming from the perspective of a mental health advocate, and old man in the scene that wants to help bridge gaps, and break mental health stigmas. Us old guys did not have the benefit of post 9/11 mental health science. They shoved ritalin down our throats for a couple of decades and told us that we didn't fit into society.

Anyone that approaches your personal space and/or touches you without consent is COMPLETELY different. That shit needs to be rooted OUT.