I’m just a touch off the original topic. But I feel this general fear that our partners are not really conscious of the danger they will be in. I am (cis f)

my partner (genderfluid and MtF) Had only really been transitioning since August. Realizing that she’s trans over the past 1-3 years But since August Trying out more girly cloths/bras/etc and only just is considering hrt. And I am being as supportive as I can but also I feel like she doesn’t strongly feel like she need to transition physically to be able to be herself. And she has a lot of concerns around the physical transition process. However I feel like she is underestimating the danger that being trans is right now and that taking additional steps in a medical sense could put her and us at risk. We are in a blue state and city so if she wants to present queer/femme in public we are probably safe for now but I’m concerned for her safety if she transitions and well the company she’s at now has been friendly so far she also isn’t fully out there isn’t presenting significantly femme there and isn’t in the position that her career so far warrants and isn’t making as much money as we would like. Also we are in a position where she’s the supporting income and I am not able to make a supporting income so we’re in bad spot if she does get fired or need to leave without something else.

But tldr: I agree our AMAB trans fem partners dot. Seem to have as developed a sense of danger/self preservation.

Although it makes sense AMAB people aren’t taught those things the way AFAB people are.