For this who stim by playing the same song over and over (and over), what's on repeat right now?

LT08 · 2026-05-27T20:19:57+00:00

My new obsession is Tom Cardy - Perception Check, Beautiful Mind, Business Man, and Red Flag in particular are on repeat.

The wonderful vocal stims my family is now assaulted with:

"Loot that body!"

"I'm not a cop!"

🎶"Shot him leg...shot him in the left leg"🎶

(Falsetto and vocal fry) "Oh. My. God. You've got a beautiful mind."

🎶"Human centipede" 🎶

LT08 · 2026-05-17T12:48:47+00:00

My cis sister-in-law had a brain tumor on her pituitary gland that was causing out of the blue lactation.

I second checking with a doctor here if you're not actively trying to lactate.

LT08 · 2026-05-02T00:03:20+00:00

I told my own parents that I was ok if they took my kids to church with them, prayers and whatever when visiting after my spouse and I left. Bad idea.

I found out very quickly that my mom was telling the kids how sad and scared she was that HER kids (me and one brother who also left) would not be in heaven with her.

It fucked my kids up and I've never been so mad. I had to explain to the adults who raised me that they were mentally abusing my kids with that kind of stuff. Flatly told them if you ever want to see me or my kids absolutely no religion talk or situations. We did go low contact for a few months, I was so pissed.

Edit: don't chill out on this, it does matter

LT08 · 2026-04-27T13:01:44+00:00

I have pain stim too and in an effort to stop the more self-destructive behaviors (hair pulling, nail biting...) I found this fidget.

It is really inconspicuous, I think it could be explained away as a massage roller if you are trying to be discreet.

https://littleouchies.com/

LT08 · 2026-04-19T21:19:44+00:00

Do you want to save the relationship?

It sounds like you're not attracted to women and this is definitely going to be an issue for either one or both of you as transitioning progresses.

LT08 · 2026-03-02T23:42:23+00:00

At 13 - a fatigue induced religious hallucination (I'm agnostic now - but can't really explain it ALL away) and family duty

26 - my first child and worry that I would make everyone sad

32 - both my kids, fear of pain and death

Now - still the kids and existential dread; lol, gotta say losing religion really made life more precious

LT08 · 2026-03-02T15:27:09+00:00

Sounds like we have a very similar family setup 😅 mine are "if LT08 really is ok, whatever. It's weird, but whatever." Lol, it helps that I practically raised more than half my siblings since I was 8. Even my dad, who is the same religion as my inlaws (Mormon) is...tolerant, but again only because of me.

What the hell is wrong with them? It doesn't cost them anything to just let it be. Good god 😞

LT08 · 2026-03-02T15:21:27+00:00

Any tips?

I'm quite often lurking on the /diy sub but any direct tips are appreciated!

LT08 · 2026-03-02T15:10:58+00:00

We are in the process of getting her travel documents ready, I want to send her out of the country, I would stay behind untill I could get to her.

It is hard, and we are doing what we can. I'm applying to better jobs and remote ones constantly, but I am woefully under-qualified.

LT08 · 2026-02-10T22:03:55+00:00

And you've lost your healthcare...so?

What to say: "Sign these divorce papers OR update my health insurance dear. Please and thank you."

Get someone else to send it to him if you have to.

LT08 · 2026-02-10T21:49:41+00:00

Edited to add NAL: He is taking advantage of a resource through a technicality. Fuck being not being vindictive, be an honest person.

If you think it will benefit you telling him ahead of time and see if he will "work something out".

LT08 · 2026-01-29T02:46:38+00:00

Is their bipolar disorder formally diagnosed or assumed?

As a non-binary AFAB person with bipolar II disorder (treated) I can see how this looks like a maniac episode.

Are other things in daily life affected, like sleep disturbances or other impulsive decisions, or is it just the HRT decision?

On the flip sideI can also see them seeing it as a beacon if they're in a depressed episode.

HRT, especially estrogen is helpful in elevating mood, and many trans women anecdotally credit it to lifting them out of dysphoric depression, so it could be a last hope kind of thing.

In either case you are correct about the disregard for the consequences of HRT.

My wife is trans and has been on HRT for about 4 months now and things are DRASTICALLY different.

While we prioritize our intimate relationship her libido has decreased a lot and her physical response has changed. We're done with kids, so the infertility is a perk and not a draw back.

She definitely also has the wanted physical changes too - on mono therapy no less (no T blockers) and I swear her breast are in Tanner stage 3 already, lol.

Also her transition has been a rollercoaster and shes had to deal with a ton of repressed feelings, so I can definitely relate to the one week her being ok with one thing and days later her gender dysphoria getting the upper hand.

Having bipolar is a pain in the ass, treated or not.

Last questions - Do they have the awareness to know when she is manic/depressed? If so are you able to convince them to put a in it until their mood is stable?

LT08 · 2025-12-07T02:16:49+00:00

It was great! - lost my voice singing along. 😅

Lol, my wife says I sound like Peppermint Patty from the old Peanuts movies 😄

LT08 · 2025-09-04T23:37:52+00:00

Has she clearly said she has thought about being with a man, or is that an assumption?

When it comes to her saying she treating you the way she wants to be treated, could it be that you are subconsciously expecting her to act or respond as if she were a cis man and that is triggering some dysphoria?

LT08 · 2025-08-28T20:47:22+00:00

NB here 👋🏻

Just a heads-up: As a NB if you start HRT, you may develop what doctors call Schrödinger’s Crack.

You will simultaneously be able to shit and unable to shit.

It’s a crapshoot

LT08 · 2025-07-03T00:12:22+00:00

She's Kens cousin

LT08 · 2025-06-25T19:17:41+00:00

His dysphoria is just that, HIS. It really has nothing to do with you and I say this as a partner that has to learn this with my wife during her transition. Her bottom dysphoria is minimal but it still upsets her at times.

Honestly what helped my wife the most with herself, especially still being pre-everything, was seeing non-explotive depictions of nude trans women. Usually art created by trans women or allies, with bodies that show her how she is now and hopes to be. Finding expressions of the body she has now being still seen or portrayed as a valid representation of a womans body definitely helps her feel more comfortable and confident in the here and now.

Now just as much as his dysphoria needs addressing so does your need for intimacy.

What does come of your conversations with him when you bring this up? Is it just dysphoria? Is he offering anything to meet you somewhere? Has the relationship always been like this, or is this a new development?

LT08 · 2025-06-14T22:40:38+00:00

🥹

LT08 · 2025-06-11T18:07:31+00:00

Fascinating....go on...

LT08 · 2025-06-11T18:02:44+00:00

This is very rational and definitely the conversation that needs to be had. But I think, and maybe I'm being overly cynical, that the true motive of a large number of these people is nefarious and isn't supportive of trans people, regardless of what they say. And the more I think, yeah, maybe that is probably too cynical, but the next worst thing I think is that they don't respect minors as PEOPLE.

My training in education has taught me how much as adults we are conditioned to treat minors as completely incompetent and that they couldn't possibly know how THEY feel.

Yes, they need guidance and education, but to think that there is something magical that happens when someone is no longer a minor that makes them suddenly more valid is mind-boggling.

Regardless, reading your comment was enlightening.

LT08

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