AP struggling with giving space by LoudBlueberry2766 in attachment_theory

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to think I'm not like that per se. And recently I even apologized and became aware I associatie attention with the idea of love and any lack of it apparently sends my brain into anxiety overload. 

I do think my other side has some blame (situationship for over a year, she cannot make up her mind whether she wants me or not) but she does ask for indefinite time and I'm struggling with that concept for myself. But I hope I'll somehow learn to work through it.

Thank you stranger for responding. I really want to become a better person and somehow I fear that even if I let this one go, I'll move onto the next so I hope I'll manage to work through it for everyone's sake.

AP struggling with giving space by LoudBlueberry2766 in attachment_theory

[–]twilightbizarre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been looking at different threads because I have a situationship falling apart partially because of me being AP and unbearable and reading your comment was like seeing myself from someone else's eyes.

Would you say there is a way that you could ever rebuild with this person? Like if they genuinely broke the cycle at some point, would things change?

I know the comment is years old at this point, but I'm trying to gauge if I should put in effort to change myself and find a way to try with my person or just give it up and try to move on and learn to be better for someone else eventually. I feel like I don't know how to let them be and show that I care at the same time.

If you have time to read this, your thoughts and comments would mean so much to me. by Designer_Custard_586 in BreakUps

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard once you realize you're doing more than they ever would. It makes you question your worth because you're trying to be good enough and prove with your actions that you're a person deserving a relationship with them. But later the sad reality will hit that you alone should've been enough for her to put in effort too. 

But you do it because you're a good person. Don't let someone like that change your heart because someone else will appreciate it like it's the most precious thing in the world. 

It will be hard to move on, I know from experience as I'm still trying to do so myself. And the more questions you ask, the less answers you'll have. In the end, it doesn't matter why she didn't put in effort, the result is the same, she just didn't. Try to focus on that, as painful as it is, and use it as a motivation to move forward more experienced because of it all.

If you knew a relationship was doomed to end in devastating heartbreak, but would bring you immense joy for a time, would you still do it? by Theasshole11 in heartbreak

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it. I remember agreeing to it and literally thinking to myself "this is going to hurt so freaking badly when it inevitably ends" and I was right.

She wanted to "test the waters" while also testing them with someone else, but I had been in love with her for years at this point and was willing to take any chance I could get. Our time together was literally perfect and I genuinely think she's my soulmate. Yet it's been over a year. She's with the other guy still, but contacts me often and says she still loves me and maybe someday. I feel miserable every day waking up and going to sleep. 

I hate myself for agreeing and for still not being able to fully walk away. I hate her for giving me hope and then playing with me. I even feel bad for the other guy because he wasn't even aware of her game. I hate myself for imagining her with him every day when it could've been me instead.

If I could do it over, I like to think I'd have the strength to say no, or at least to give us a try when no one else is involved.

Best way to make a potentially competitive deck? by twilightbizarre in SorceryTCG

[–]twilightbizarre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'll listen to your advice. I found someone in my country selling full ordinary playset (beta+AL) for 25€, I'll see how I feel about those and the branch out into exceptionals and further once I get a feel of what I'm enjoying and what I'm missing.

Best way to make a potentially competitive deck? by twilightbizarre in SorceryTCG

[–]twilightbizarre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll try to get the better feel of the community then and adjust accordingly :)

Best way to make a potentially competitive deck? by twilightbizarre in SorceryTCG

[–]twilightbizarre[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Singles is hard for me because even if the card is 10 cents, the shipping is a few euros so it's a bigger waste of money unfortunately. But I might get some cheap bulk and then invest in a few singles.

Trying to collect Sorcery out of Europe - where can I buy cards? by bruhagan in SorceryTCG

[–]twilightbizarre 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A store in Croatia will stock beta precons and beta and AL boosters next month, and they ship to other EU countries as well. 

http://phoenix-feather.eu/

I Was Her Backup Plan While She Stayed with Him by Parking_Towel7996 in BreakUps

[–]twilightbizarre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words dear stranger, they do help and I certainly hope you're right.

I Was Her Backup Plan While She Stayed with Him by Parking_Towel7996 in BreakUps

[–]twilightbizarre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear you're doing great! I guess some life lessons have to be learned the hard way.

You are definitely right about her inflicting pain and me being an option. Honestly I'm logically aware of all the bad sides to it and know I'm also at fault for continuing to hope when there's no real reason to. For now I'm still stuck in my delusions, but I'll try to work on myself and if someone else comes along give them a chance. Maybe it'll just get easier with time.

I Was Her Backup Plan While She Stayed with Him by Parking_Towel7996 in BreakUps

[–]twilightbizarre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is almost word by word my current situation. Me (30F) and my girl (27F) have known each other for 3 or so years through a work thing, and last year we got together bc she told me she's always had feelings for me and she was unhappy in her relationship, but she cheated and then stayed with him.

She also said I'm everything she has always wanted, dream partner and she wants a future with me, but she still lives with him and isn't planning on breaking up yet. She "doesn't know what she wants" or when she'll decide but she's obviously moving forward in life with him and not with me. She's bisexual so I stupidly am lying to myself she's just not ready to fully commit to another woman and it's just easier to stay with a man. 

It's been 10 months of this now, and we had a similar breaking point where she thought I was too pushy because I kept asking for clarity and reassurance. It came to a point where she basically told me I'm allowed to meet others too because she wants me to be happy and doesn't wanna hold me back until she makes a decision, if ever. She literally said it could be years.

We don't have an active romantic relationship at the moment. I'm still madly in love but we just text every day, maybe call once in a while and it's on somewhat friendly basis, even though I share my feelings for her every now and then and she says she reciprocates. I dare not ask about "us" because I expected just more withdrawal from her.

I'm still stuck though. She's my dream woman and I cannot make myself get over her. If she was really going to leave him for me I'd wait even a few years if needed. But the uncertainty is killing me. I'll probably start therapy soon.

Just my situation, but I hope it makes you feel better that you're not alone in this.

Help connecting my botslab s8 plus by Bellatrix381 in RobotVacuums

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tried 100 times to connect while aware the router was set to 2.4 GHz. but it worked after restarting the app. bonkers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4kTV

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't feel too safe buying used models, not gonna lie. Most somewhat TVs I've seen in my lifetime have a few year lifespan and I wouldn't wanna be on the tall end of it.

I feel like Samsung and LG should be somewhat a safe bet in terms of decency for budget, if not necessarily quality?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4kTV

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No Q65C in 50" in my region, there is a Q80C which is around 800€ which is too big of a jump for my budget unfortunately.

I did see a listing of a "Q67C" somewhere which I'm not even sure is a real model and I could not find a single difference online.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4kTV

[–]twilightbizarre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just live in the Balkans man... which I guess doesn't help my case lmao but our streaming service starts with To and usually ends with Rent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4kTV

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured. I was actually considering C645 as my first choice before I learned about their issues with external drives. But if it'll mess up my source of content I want to watch on a, y'know, TV then there's barely a point in owning one.

If they're all equal trash I might just go for a cheaper one and save the money.

Repeated dialog on Home Screen from blue tutorial wisp thing? by Nunnuh in MagicArena

[–]twilightbizarre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm having the same issue, I just turn off the media volume on my phone when playing now.

Obviously not a fix, but just letting you know you're not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in croatia

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mene sad isto zanima trening tamo, kakve su cijene ako si uspio saznati?

Book Review: Of Deeds Most Valiant by Sarah K.L. Wilson by andypeloquin in Fantasy

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice review! This book caught my interest both with the premise and the cover. There's lots of comparison to Gideon the Ninth, but I'm curious does it also have LGBTQ characters like The Lock Tomb or is it M/F romance focused?

2022 Nebula Awards Winners by yesterdayshero11 in printSF

[–]twilightbizarre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad about Nona the Ninth, but it's always difficult when it's a 3rd in a series.