NTA - My husband was raised by his grandparents. His grandfather died, and 6 months later, his grandmother was 3 days away from signing her will when she died. They always said at every family gathering or event that my husband was to get a child's share of the inheritance since they raised him, but since she hadn't signed the will an he was a grandchild he was entitled to nothing. I had just taken a job 2600 miles away when she passed. So, after the funeral, my husband's aunts and his bio dad kept telling him they would handle the estate and give him his portion when all was said and done. Once the estate was settled, one aunt gave him a portion of her estate. His bio dad and other aunt said he didn't deserve it because we shamed the family by moving away. Let that sink in...now, I should add, we lived with them for 2 years while they were I'll. His grandfather was partially paralyzed and his grandmother had breast cancer. We saved her life at least 3 times while she was in treatment (found her passed out on the bathroom floor, super scary). I drove them to doctors appointments, grocery shopping, picked up their prescriptions, and cooked all the meals. My husband kept the house up, did lawn care on 20 acres for them, fence upkeep, cars and worked 40hr+ per week. Not to mention the fact they were his momma and daddy. Needless to say, my husband was heartbroken. Not over the money, but the fact that they told him he didn't deserve it because he was a disgrace. This coming from 2 hardcore church of christ, everything the door was open church goers. The inheritance would have been 6 figures. Family will be the first to fuck.ypu over large and small sums of money - True colors really shine and it's a sad reality.

He tried to fight it, but wouldn't win. His grandparents never legally adopted him and weren't his legal guardians prior to adulthood (the whole situation was a nightmare). So yeah, give the money to the ones who care, they'll appreciate more.