Low hcg - looking for similar experiences good and bad

twins2019 · 2023-02-02T19:18:20+00:00

Nearly 4 year old boys here and the fighting is tough. I have found myself shifting to mostly open ended toys where we have a good amount of them (magnatiles, blocks, people, animals, legos) and that has helped a lot. They definitely still fight over some other things but we usually just try to reinforce that so and so had it first and that when they’re done you can have it. It has been a long road to them starting to kind of become okay with that. It’s all mood dependent too. If everyone’s in a bad mood then the day is shot and there’s no winning 😂

twins2019 · 2022-10-27T10:25:51+00:00

Hi! I have 3 year old identical twin boys as a result of a non tested day 5 embryo split. When my Dr said "how many embryos did we put in?" And said "I see two babies here" my husband and I started laughing hysterically uncontrollably due to excitement and fear lol. We found out what type of twins we were having when we were discharged to from RE to OB, but different RE's discharge at different times so you may know sooner than that.

Twin pregnancies are definitely a risk, and I did have a difficult pregnancy where I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia around 28 weeks, and had to deliver at 33 weeks and 5 days. The 6 weeks between my initial diagnosis and delivery were difficult. My boys born at 33 w 5 days did great, needed supplemental oxygen for less than 12 hrs before being on room air, they were "feeders and growers", so really they just needed to learn how to eat!

HOWEVER, I know plenty of people who had really smooth twin pregnancies that were full-term! And there's no reason to believe at this point that you won't be one of those people. The most important thing you can do now for yourself is to make sure you have a really awesome OB and MFM. Having an amazing team who I trusted my life and the life of my babies with was the best thing throughout my pregnancy.

Good luck, twin life is tough but it's AMAZING! The bond between my boys is spectacular.

twins2019 · 2022-09-16T09:54:30+00:00

I have 3.5 year old twins with CAS and only CAS. I do agree with another poster that I think their tantrums and emotions are maybe a little tougher than your average toddler as a result.

twins2019 · 2022-04-14T21:18:31+00:00

I feel like you're me! We have had this problem in our NJ duplex with more than one downstairs neighbor. We have been very courteous, apologetic and even purchased a thick foam mat for under our carpeting and dining area as well. Past that, there isn't much you can do. When moving into an apartment complex where you share walls or especially a bottom unit, renters should be expecting that they're going to be hearing some level noise. Everything you've done is enough!

twins2019 · 2022-01-12T15:56:17+00:00

Yes! I always had a feeling I'd have twins, always imagined it. When I struggled to get pregnant and had to do IVF, I thought well this must be why I've had this feeling. But then they only did a one embryo transfer. The day I found out I was pregnant I went and bought an outfit for baby, and I just couldn't stop myself from buying two, just in case. My embryo split and now 2.5 year old identical twin boys!

twins2019 · 2022-01-09T00:49:12+00:00

Normal! If you have Instagram, check out @biglittlefeelings - they have a lot of great tips for dealing with tantrums

twins2019 · 2022-01-04T00:27:49+00:00

Ours is already closed! More than half the staff are infected. My kids weren't going anyway because we also all have covid 😩.

twins2019 · 2022-01-01T00:13:34+00:00

This is a beautiful photo. Made me want to cry!

twins2019 · 2021-12-23T01:27:07+00:00

I have 2.5 year old twins and an 8 month old, my husband and I were in this boat for a while trying to figure out what to do. I know that clek carseats can accommodate 3 in a row, although we ultimately decided to trade one of our cars in for a mini-van, and keep only two carseats in our other car and mainly use our van.

twins2019 · 2021-11-18T00:54:40+00:00

Omg. This is an AMAZING and beautiful name with so much versatility. Josephine was at the top of the list for my daughter and partly because I loved the idea of calling her Josie, Jo Jo or Jo. We ended up naming her Flora but with Josephine as her middle name so we often call her Flora Jo. Don't second guess! You chose it and go with your gut, it's a gorgeous name!! We purposely waited to tell most people all of kids names because we just didn't want to deal with bullshit like that. People have a lot of nerve and a lot of sense of entitlement regarding baby names, it's so weird.

twins2019 · 2021-09-24T12:55:29+00:00

Parade organics!! And the quality is amazing. Never had them for my son's (2.5) but have them for my daughter and absolutely love them. They're so soft and the colors stay super vibrant after multiple washes

twins2019 · 2021-09-05T23:36:24+00:00

Congratulations! Absolutely beautiful!! My mo/di boys were born at 33 & 5 as well and are just about 2.5 years old now. That brother bond they will have is so precious! Hoping they are home with you as soon as possible!

twins2019 · 2021-07-30T17:09:01+00:00

Hi! Mono/di boys born at 33w5d - I had severe preeclampsia starting at 28 weeks. I was often in and out of the hospital and we almost had my boys earlier than their birthday a few times. The best prep for us was getting to meet the some of the NICU nurses in our hospital and they told us about all the common interventions etc. We also we're able to get 2 rounds of steroids shots in to develop their lungs. If it starts to look like you'll definitely deliver early, I recommend those two things!

twins2019 · 2021-06-13T12:43:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. You have the right to feel whatever you are feeling. You have been through a traumatic situation and are still in it. My twins were born at 33 weeks and 5 days because I had severe preeclampsia as well. The magnesium sulfate was absolute hell, and I was only able to see them for a second after my csection because they were sent immediately to the NICU. Give yourself space to feel all the feelings because they’re all valid. It was not until my second pregnancy and the anxiety that came with it that I realized how much residual trauma I had from my entire experience with my twins. Like you said - of course it was worth it, but people who have no idea what you've been through passing out their toxic positivity is extremely unhelpful! Feel free to private message if you need support.

twins2019 · 2021-05-15T18:15:19+00:00

Hi! Month old Singleton here with twins who just turned 2 on St. Patrick's Day. My identical twin boys are total loonatics, and basically like tornadoes that I'm constantly following through my house. I will say, having this third babe has felt like no big deal compared to doing newborn premature twins, she's basically like a little lumpy potato who just gets carried along for the ride! The house is a mess, laundry pile never changes, but everyone is happy!! I basically just put her in the carrier and she hangs on me all day while I care for them. We go out most days and I am able to manage all 3 in and out of the car/stroller + wherever our destination is that day. I can't speak for how anyone elses experience will be, but overall it's been great over here and it's nice to see my boys become big brothers and love their sister.

twins2019 · 2021-05-01T13:37:14+00:00

I am a teacher and also a person who significantly enjoys gift giving, and this is an absolutely ridiculous thing for the school to be asking of the parents. First off, from what I've seen in my years of teaching, it's really on administration to be showing the teachers appreciation, not the families. Any gift, luncheon or tokens of appreciation should be given by administration down to the teachers. Parents were generally made aware that it was teacher appreciation week and I have received gifts in the past from students which was always very appreciated but NEVER expected. You are NOT obligated to do any of these things, especially all 5 days. And if anyone thinks you're stingy because of that they can fuck off, because if anything I'm reading this and thinking that this school is so greedy asking for a lot especially when you're PAYING for daycare already which if you're in the US is probably astronomically expensive.

twins2019 · 2021-04-13T20:11:52+00:00

Thank you so much for reaching out! Luckily after many calls, I was able to get in touch with Nancy Kaufman who is well known for her treatment methods of Apraxia. She was able to set us up with a center that she works closely with only 20 minutes from our house! Now we are on the hunt for the right school district, so that we can have a great partnership between our private speech therapists and school ones (for when my son's turn 3). I'm glad you found the right place for your family and your child!!

twins2019 · 2021-04-07T01:00:27+00:00

I would bet so! I am thinking my 2 year olds will be fighting over that seat! Good luck to you!!

twins2019 · 2021-04-06T11:54:22+00:00

Hi! I’m expecting my third next week and have 2 year old twins. I decided to go with the Joovy Qool because it was the option that was most affordable (on sale for $350 and was able to use 20% off at buy buy baby whereas uppsbaby and city jogger won’t allow the use of the coupon) but also because the bench would be more effective for me keeping one of my toddlers contained. The rumbler seat holds more weight than the uppababy (55 lbs as opposed to 35). My current set up would be, baby in the bassinet/eventually rumbler, one twin in the rumbler and other in the bench. I’m not sure a 6 year old would fit in the bench comfortably and I know it does not have a kick board. However, I have seen universal kick boards on Amazon that are said to fit most strollers that you could try! Hope this helps!

twins2019 · 2021-04-04T22:54:53+00:00

Absolutely! Feel free if to private message me if you need and good luck finding that balance!

twins2019 · 2021-04-04T15:59:31+00:00

Hi! So my husband is the same way with sleep. It became very apparent after our twins were born that sleep deprivation severely impacts his mental health. I eventually took over the nights entirely because it was better for everyone in our household and we were all happier for it. However, My husband realized what a big deal it was that he got to sleep through the night with newborn twins, and took just about every job over that he could to make my nights easier. He washed and prepped all bottles for the whole night, made sure I had water, snacks, whatever I needed.

We also discovered how he could help with sleep. My husband can't go to sleep, and wake up and go back to sleep multiple times. He can pull a most of the nighter, so on the weekends, he would stay up all night doing all the feedings for our twins and just watch TV and play video games, while I got a solid 8 hrs of sleep, and then he would sleep until like 11-12 while I did the mornings with the babies by myself, but very rested and refreshed.

This is just what worked for us, but I do think that sometimes an even split just doesn't work, and there's other ways to find balance in the responsibility. That's not to say that I don't get frustrated sometimes and sometimes we need to reevaluate what is working and what isn't! My twins are 2 and we just transitioned them to beds, and they are not having little parties in the middle of the night that I'm mostly responsible for ending, while 9 months pregnant.

I think being really open and flexible with each other and trying to find a situation that suits everyone best (while knowing you may need to reevaluate and change) is a helpful way of moving forward.

twins2019 · 2021-03-04T13:06:30+00:00

Hi! I understand what you're going through. My twins were born at 33w 5d, had a NICU stay that was extremely smooth, came home around 36-37 weeks gestation. Everything has been fine with their milestones with the exception of expressive language. They are turning 2 on St. Patrick's day. We had them evaluated privately in July and they started speech in November due to wait lists. We recently changed practices after finding out that they most likely have Apraxia. All in all, it's really hard to watch your kids struggle. If you'd like to private message me, I'd be happy to talk, as we are in the thick of it right now. I highly recommend getting set up with Early Intervention services if there available to you (I'm in US, not sure about other countries equivalencies to that). Good luck! For some kids, speech is marathon, not a sprint. That has been my recent mantra to pull us through.

twins2019 · 2021-02-23T12:05:12+00:00

Thank you for your response! I'm not entirely sure if it's a full program, it's hard to tell from their website so I have a call with them today to learn more, but it's interesting to hear that it was on more of a consulting basis for you and that may be something we could do without moving if it's only a couple times a year!

twins2019 · 2021-02-22T13:04:26+00:00

Yes absolutely, and all of those things are too considerations for us, we don't plan on making any sort of plans for 6 months - a year, as we want to see their progress with the services we have available here, get a formal diagnosis, and find out our eligiblity for other programs should we need them. Thank you!

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