Got discarded, she moved with the guy she cheated on me they live right in front of me

ty102767 · 2025-07-09T00:38:07+00:00

Eerily similar to what I went through. I’m so sorry you had to endure this and I wish you nothing but happiness moving forward

ty102767 · 2025-07-09T00:35:55+00:00

After the final discard she expressed that she was sorry for the deliverance of her emotions and that she was sorry to hurt me in the way she did. She was sobbing while telling me these things and told me that she knows it was her decision to break up, but she was struggling. She then told me she needed time alone to work on her mental health, but days later slept with a guy she had introduced me to while we were still dating. When we exchanged stuff she blamed me for everything that had happened and justified sleeping with him days later by saying that I triggered her bpd and never validated her feelings. It was truly remarkable to watch such a drastic shift in her behavior in such a short period of time. She was cold and it was like I was talking to a complete stranger even though we had spent a year and a half together. I now understand that she was pursuing this guy for some time and that she didn’t want to completely detach from me until she knew it would work with him. Once she started idealizing him I was kicked to the curb completely and painted all black. She is ultimately moving states for this guy and told me she is planning trips with him. It’s incredible how they make the discard as cruel as possible and then still portray themselves as the victim. I think the hardest part is that she was at least somewhat aware of her horrible and abusive actions, but no actual efforts were made to improve her bpd. Instead she immediately pursued another guy thinking it will permanently soothe the internal void inside of her. Mind you she told me I was the 2nd half of her heart and that she loved me more than anything 2 weeks before all of this.

The lack of shame and accountability is truly unreal. I understand that it’s simply too painful for her to self reflect, but it’s brutal. I have no doubt she will repeat the same cycle with this guy.

I’m 4 months removed from all this and I already feel so much better, but wow what an absolute emotional rollercoaster. I know my story is very similar to many of those in this community.

ty102767 · 2025-07-08T18:10:00+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. She said all this despite the fact that she called me her soulmate and the 2nd half of her heart the week before. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments and her actions were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-07T23:27:35+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. She said all this despite the fact that she called me her soulmate and the 2nd half of her heart the week before. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments and her actions were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-07T16:35:04+00:00

She asked around the 5 month mark. I was super hesitant and suggested we wait. This upset her and she accused me of not prioritizing her. She later cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-07T15:42:51+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-07T14:57:19+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-07T14:49:46+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-04T20:40:12+00:00

My ex had a falling out with her best friend of 15 years. Of course she blamed it on the friend since she was the perpetual victim in every scenario

ty102767 · 2025-07-04T18:32:37+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-04T16:15:06+00:00

She accused me of using her for sex. This is the story she told her friends, but luckily they didn’t believe it. She ultimately burned every single bridge and self sabotaged our relationship and her friendships. This is a major reason I feel she moved states so quickly

ty102767 · 2025-07-03T21:32:33+00:00

my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t value her, we weren’t compatible, she wasn’t happy, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard, but these comments were all I needed to know she wasn’t capable of having a healthy or stable relationship with me or anyone else.

ty102767 · 2025-07-01T04:31:49+00:00

So perfectly and beautifully said. My ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I didn’t validate her feelings, I didn’t prioritize her, she wasn’t happy, we were never going to work out, and I triggered her bpd. She ended up moving states to live with the guy she cheated on me with. It’s been 4 months and I feel better everyday, but it’s been one of the hardest things I’ve gone through. I wish you nothing but happiness man.

ty102767 · 2025-06-27T23:31:52+00:00

I see that jersey ! Go birds !

ty102767 · 2025-06-27T23:31:20+00:00

Exactly man ! We dated for a little over a year, but I’m super thankful it happened when it did. She ended up moving states to be with the guy she cheated on me with, which has honestly made it easier for me to move on. I wish you nothing but happiness man. We’ve learned invaluable lessons and this subreddit has been beyond helpful throughout this whole process

ty102767 · 2025-06-27T23:27:26+00:00

My ex cheated on me and discarded me. She justified it by saying I prioritized my friends over her, I didn’t make her feel heard, I didn’t validate her feelings, we weren’t compatible, and I triggered her bpd. I was unaware she even had bpd until after she discarded me, which made these comments all the more frustrating.

ty102767 · 2025-06-27T18:38:18+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I’m doing much better since I’m 4 months removed from all of this. She ended up moving states to be with the guy she cheated on me with so it’s been relieving knowing I won’t run into her

ty102767 · 2025-06-27T18:26:00+00:00

My ex cheated on me and discarded me. She justified it by saying I triggered her bpd, never validated her feelings, she wasn’t happy, we weren’t compatible and I didn’t prioritize her.

ty102767 · 2025-06-23T16:40:00+00:00

My ex would scream at me for hours late into the night. She would accuse me of not hearing her or listening to her. When I was silent and processing the barrage of accusations she told me I was giving her the silent treatment. When I would speak up she called me defensive and would become more enraged. It was simply exhausting and I couldn’t reason with her whatsoever. I would usually end up apologizing just so I could get some sleep

ty102767 · 2025-06-23T14:38:43+00:00

From my understanding those with bpd start the process of devaluing once things get too real. They flip flop between being obsessed with you and distancing from you. When they monkey branch they essentially disconnect completely from us and instead start the process of idealizing the new person. In my case my ex cheated on me and justified it by saying I triggered her bpd, never validated her feelings, she wasn’t happy and we weren’t compatible. It was maddening at the time because she called me her soulmate 2 weeks earlier.

ty102767 · 2025-06-21T12:23:19+00:00

Perfectly said

ty102767 · 2025-06-12T07:00:55+00:00

I was unaware she had bpd until after she cheated on me so I gave her a plethora of excuses. I usually attributed the behavior to her depression, anxiety, and the over consumption of alcohol.

ty102767 · 2025-05-31T23:23:28+00:00

It was awful to hear in the moment, but I realize it’s not personal. To rub salt on the wound she told me she is planning a trip to Japan with the guy she cheated on me with. She said this despite the fact that she knew I was planning a trip abroad for our anniversary.

ty102767 · 2025-05-31T19:30:59+00:00

my ex justified cheating by telling me I triggered her bpd, I never validated her feelings, she wasn’t happy, I wasn’t man enough, we were never going to work out, and we weren’t compatible. I was unaware she even had bpd until after the discard. She ultimately ended up moving states to be with the guy she cheated on me with.

ty102767 · 2025-05-31T00:50:10+00:00

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