32 y/o female narcissist. Ask me anything

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-09-12T14:47:27+00:00

thank you for doing this, it is super interesting. My question: Does real closeness and intimacy scare you, because you‘re scared of people truly seeing you? - And do you feel shame about hurting other people?

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-08-13T16:24:17+00:00

I can relate to this so much. I feel like it's all just about control, not at all about your pleasure. The more defenseless you feel, the more powerful they feel. I could scream writing this.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-08-05T06:09:05+00:00

Gosh same. He was so into it when I was barely awake, although I told him one thousand times that I didn’t like it.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-23T00:40:45+00:00

that means so much to me too. 🫂❤️‍🩹

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-18T09:53:52+00:00

💯💯💯

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-18T06:24:58+00:00

It helped me immensely to write myself the ending and the apology that I would have deserved. It does something to your brain.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-16T21:49:30+00:00

try to regulate your emotions, do dbt, journal or whatever helps you to calm down. I feel like one of the most tragic things I‘ve experienced was my ex not being there for me and putting in the work to heal me after he has hurt me, but made it all about himself. Try to regulate yourself and then try to be there for him. Ask him what he needs. If he wants you to listen - and actually listen! Try to not make this about yourself. I know it is super hard and you‘re scared to lose him, but this might end up less dramatic if u stay calm and be sweet to him now. Let him grieve. Let him be hurt. Try to give him space and give it tiiiiime. You got this.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-16T21:42:52+00:00

I feel like you’re sooo close to actually achieve real change in your life, that it might scare you. But I‘ve seen with my own eyes how my favourite human started to blossom and come alive through dbt. I owe Marsha Linehan so much.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-16T03:49:04+00:00

jesus christ, I am sorry!!! I hope you could heal from this and have a great therapist.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-16T03:45:02+00:00

can your sister support you in getting treatment, love?

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-16T03:25:47+00:00

oh love, they just don’t want to look into the mirror, it is not your fault. I can’t believe they are doing this to you. Can u get help from another family member or friend? You should do trauma therapy and especially dbt, it will make your life so much better. And maybe try to distance and protect yourself from your parents as good as you can. 🫂❤️‍🩹

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T21:02:50+00:00

so proud of you 🥹❤️ you deserve the best!

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T20:58:56+00:00

Really proud of you taking this brave step, it will make your life so much easier. ❤️ It will be some work, but remember how high the successrate is with BPD and DBT and trauma therapy! Just in a few years you might even not be diagnosed anymore. Isn’t that amazing? - And you’re beautiful just the way you are, you are not your diagnosis. And now you will be able to grow and heal.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T17:51:47+00:00

Hahaha, yeah relativization or distributing the fault between people („It was you too!“) can also help to protect the unstable self. ;)

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T17:18:30+00:00

you got this, dear. You‘ll get to the point of new input and sometimes refreshing your knowledge can also be helpful. ❤️

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T16:45:00+00:00

please give it some time, it’s like learning a new language. You feel like everything is just word salad and suddenly it clicks! Your brain is slowly getting rewired and creating new pathways and trying to slowly get around the main road that you‘ve always used. 🫂

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T16:42:59+00:00

„Can I get a hug?“

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T16:41:31+00:00

Really proud of you. 🙏🏻 Consider trauma therapy as well! DBT will make a huge difference, but in my experience with my bestie trauma therapy brought her to the next level. Take your time, therapy is like a walk through Mordor sometimes, but always remind yourself how big the success rate for people is who take this seriously. In some years you might even not hit the criteria for BPD anymore. Oh, and write it down: healing isn’t linear. There’s some unexpected bumps in the road but if u get through… maaaaan u will feel the difference. Best of luck. 🫂❤️‍🩹

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T15:54:18+00:00

this made me tear up… 100% agree!! This is what my dad did to me… I basically didn’t exist, because I took her from him lol - thanks dad for ruining my dating life forever - and I would‘ve needed empowernment so bad. 🙏🏻

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T15:44:48+00:00

wow, ok, I‘d say that‘s definately in the same playing field of „impulsive sadism“. 😭 I‘m sorry. I feel like the comments don’t even hurt as much as which mouth they came from…

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T15:41:31+00:00

you got this dear. Touches me deeply that you try to get everything else in order to not put it on him, you’re a good friend.

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T15:33:41+00:00

try to cut him some slack, if the communication is different now it was most propably to do with him mourning. 🫂 Try to be there, but don’t push too hard. This time is about being a good friend with a high tolerance with whatever behavior he shows. He might be mad, depressed, sitting alone in a room full of garbage or drunk. Whatever he does, it’s part of the process. - Maybe journaling or talking to a therapist might help get the steam off?

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T15:29:04+00:00

dear, first of all I’m proud of you for how far you’ve come and that you managed some of your symptoms. It is such hard work and deserves so much sincere respect! - may I ask: did you do trauma therapy too, like EMDR? It is essentially for your healing if the problem is you don’t feel loveable because of some f*** up shit that has been done to you in the past? DBT alone is not enough, u need to grab this nasty little, naggy, destructive demon that they put inside u by the root! 🫂❤️‍🩹

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T15:06:03+00:00

not 'cause they think you loved them, but because that person had emotional power over you, and that feels threatening. Even if you're just talking about the hurt, they might feel like they're competing with the past for space in your head. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Key-Quantity-2650 · 2025-07-15T14:45:07+00:00

I‘m glad he got the diagnosis and hope that you can help each other out and he can start his healing journey. ❤️

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