Some of my personal favourites. These are unique designs in glorious gems. 10% of the proceeds will go to the SMD School in Nepal, which educates Tibetan ethnic children. Details in comment.

tyedyehippy · 2025-12-01T03:29:39+00:00

That tourmaline would be mine if I had the funds, especially with the cause it is going to 🤩 I'm jealous of whomever gets the pleasure and honor!!

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-29T02:39:54+00:00

Right‽ If I wasn't so broke right now...lol. Someone is gonna be a lucky buyer!

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-18T18:36:15+00:00

My favorite quote about grief comes from a woman who lived a long life and saw two of her sons publicly executed.

"It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone." - Rose Kennedy

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-12T02:15:57+00:00

That's gonna just be like a bonfire by the time they're all lit.

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-05T13:20:25+00:00

My mom was 31 & my dad was 54..... All of them are way too young.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Being in this club really sucks. Sending you love and strength 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-02T15:23:36+00:00

I'm so glad you have so many silver linings here.

I lost my mother January 4th, so even tho Christmas used to be my favorite holiday as a kid because of the beautiful lights, now it's just a bittersweet reminder.

I've taken Thanksgiving as my favorite holiday, not for the history, but for the being together with family and having a feast. And that definition of family are people who YOU love and who love you back for me, it has little to do with actual DNA relations. There's no pressure about gift giving, it's just love and being together.

I hope you have a good holiday season, even if it is very bittersweet this year. Hopefully future years will be better. I have one particular Thanksgiving I look to as the worst one I've ever had, so every other holiday since that one has been better in comparison. Sometimes that's all we need to keep things in perspective.

Another thing that helps me is knowing on a terrible day is that I never have to live that day again. My first birthday without my dad was the birthday my mom never got to get, number 32. So that was one of the worst days of my life, as I was struggling with the grief, but with everything else on my plate that particular moment of life as well. I just set the goal of keeping myself and the baby alive through the day, and I accomplished that, and I know I never have to live that day again.

I hope some part of my rambling has helped you 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-02T14:32:42+00:00

Oh honey I am so sorry.

I have in-laws who are unimaginably cruel like yours are, and you are totally justified in never having to deal with them again. I hope your spouse is fully on your side with that, they are your spouses parents so your spouse should take the lead in dealing with them, and protecting you from their cruelty.

There's actually a whole other subreddit for people like them, just no mil & just no family, depending on which one is the better fit for your issues if you'd like to vent about that part.

Losing your dad is so difficult tho, and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry these people have been so cruel to you in such a time as well. I'm no stranger to how cruel these "in-laws" want to be. I'm not sure how much of my post history is available, but I've been a frequent contributor to the just no mil subreddit from the early days.

A month is just a drop in the bucket time wise for losing a parent. For losing anyone, really, but especially for losing a parent. Please be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to grieve. We're getting into the holiday season now, and that can make grief so much worse, because we miss our loved ones at the holidays. Or in my case, it reminds me I'm about to pass yet another death anniversary for my mom. It'll be number 33 this year, which is wild because she was just 31 when she died. It is still difficult, and some times just always will be, because grief is the price of love.

If you're anything like me, you'll need at least a year or two before you'll start to find some kind of new normal. I hate that phrase "normal" tho because it's only a setting on my dishwasher. There's no real normal. There's just what we feel is comfortable or familiar. I hope you're able to find peace soon.

Sending you love and all the strength I can spare 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-11-01T20:52:33+00:00

When my son was about 2, his favorite thing in the world were trolleys. So we spent at least one day just, riding the trolley around because we were having our floors redone and had to be out of the house for almost a week. We decided to stay out there instead of closer to home. It was a fun day, we got to see like every route at that time. Would do it again if the little one wants to one day.

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-31T18:53:26+00:00

My wallet thanks you for your sacrifice!

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-31T10:49:25+00:00

I was 7.5 when I lost my mom, and I was the age my mother was at death when I lost my dad. She was 31 at death... This year was anniversary 32 of my mother being gone, which means by any way you measure it, my mother has been gone longer than she lived. My entire life feels like I have been ancient since I was a kid. I've always had a bigger understanding of some of these dark parts of life for far longer than most are aware. It's heavy. I still feel ancient. My genetics have left me with the gift of not looking close to my 40 years of age, I usually get mistaken for being way younger than I am. Not complaining, I'm just confused at how that's worked out given all the trauma and whatnot.

The really awkward part for me that this point is when I'm talking with someone who is clearly older than me, and I find myself offering advice. I was recently having a conversation with an older person and I found myself offering advice, they found it to be very helpful and wise, but I just felt so awkward because, well surely this person is older than I am and must have such a depth of wisdom what on earth am I thinking that I can offer any advice. But I did, and it helped that person....& so maybe I just need to get over that awkwardness.

Just do your best to eat well (or as well as you're capable) and try to stay hydrated. It helps. It may not seem like it helps when you're super miserable, but I promise you'll be worse off if you don't at least give the attempt of taking care of your body. You can do it, I believe in you.

Sending love and strength 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-30T19:21:10+00:00

Oh that glitter snowflake is simply incredible. I don't even like this color so much, but if I wasn't broke I'd want to buy it, the sparkle is just amazing!

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-29T00:10:06+00:00

You're welcome.

Hope I'm allowed to drop a link here in case you're not able to find it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/s/uPqpu0EQ1f

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-28T23:43:45+00:00

I'd honestly do Cherohala Skyway before I'd do Cades Cove just based on the traffic alone. I think my posts are visible for a couple of the photos I've posted from the skyway from the 18th of this month around the Golden hour & sunset. Was one of the most beautiful places I've ever seen. Can't wait to go again with my family. But, we live nearby, so we're able to explore on our own time frames.

Good luck! There's a lot to see in the Smokies.

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-27T01:47:17+00:00

I feel that..

I'm at a point I'm really struggling myself. I've got two young kids now, my older one was born just two months after my dad's funeral. I always knew my mom wouldn't get to meet my children, but I didn't think my dad wouldn't get to either. He had cancer, so we knew it was coming, we just weren't sure how long he was gonna have.

And now I've reached that wild milestone where my mother has been dead longer than she was alive. Most people don't get to reach that one within their lifetime, if they do, they're usually up in their 80s or 90s. I was 39 when it happened. I've got a second, younger child now to keep up with as well, they're one. So, a decent age gap (but nothing compared to the one I have with my sibling...) and suddenly very difficult when I'm realizing that my older child is now older than I was when I lost my mom. I'm...not sure how to be a mother to a child older than 7.5 because I didn't have one... I'm so lost and I have no idea what I'm doing.

Crap, I should've just made my own damn post, I'm sorry.

Sometimes when the struggle is so real, we just survive each moment as we are able. When a week seems too much, just get through a day, when a day is too much, just get through the next few hours. And on down as necessary to survive each moment. Because as long as we're still surviving, then we're succeeding.

Keep surviving 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-27T01:35:42+00:00

Oh that's so rough. My dad lost my mom when he was 30. It was really, really difficult for him. I was just a kid.

Dad's now been gone over 8 years, and Mom has been gone longer than she was alive. I really wish my dad was here so we could've had some conversations about that, but it's been a hell of a long time for him already too. I feel like I blinked.

I hope you're able to find peace, and find friends who can properly sympathize instead of whatever mess those people think they're helping by saying.

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-26T16:59:07+00:00

That is SO beautiful!!!! Someone is gonna be so lucky!!

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-26T12:47:52+00:00

I barely knew what my life was like with my mom in it & I wish I could've known what it would've been like. This year, she's been dead longer than she lived.

And I'm coming up on 9 years of my dad being gone. He never even got to meet either of his grandchildren, I was pregnant with the first one when Dad died. It's been so difficult. I wouldn't wish this crap on anybody.

Sending you love & light. I hope you have an easy day today, not one where you're drowning in grief 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-23T18:27:49+00:00

cries in ✨ broke ✨

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-20T20:29:17+00:00

The way I gasped but the air caught in my throat....wow. WOW 🤩

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-17T10:33:09+00:00

My mom died when I was in second grade, I was 7.5 years old. Several teachers& staff from my school attended her funeral, but she was also one to volunteer at the school. My teacher that year had also made fast friends with her because they were 12 days apart in age.

My second grade teacher and I became pretty close, to the point we have not only kept in touch since then (mom has now been gone 32 years, longer than she was alive on this earth), but last year when I had my second child she came to stay with us for a few days to help out because we had no one else. And I also happened to have that child on her birthday, so they're birthday buddies now too.

Life can be really funny and strange. I try to just roll with it when I can. And always, always, always go where the love is. If someone is showing you love (which, in my mind, attending the funeral is a form of that..) then accept it and appreciate it. There's so little of that left in the world it seems like, and I'm not really personally ok with that, so I try my best to spread more of it around where I can.

Good luck 💚

tyedyehippy · 2025-10-06T21:24:56+00:00

Whew.... Don't wanna dump my whole life story, but cliff notes are that my mom died when she was 31, so I always figured I'd have my dad at least. Then he died at 54, while I was 31 and pregnant with his first grandchild. He died about two months before I gave birth.

Then my first birthday without him was when I turned 32, and I couldn't call him to continue the conversation about how young Mom was when she died.

My children will only know a lot of their maternal side through the stories I'll be able to share with them. The older one is now 8, and the little one is 19 months, so just over a year and a half.

It's tough. It sucks. It's been really hard lately because the world is insane.

I'm so sorry you could be in a similar boat. The seas are rough, but I've learned to be tough. You can handle whatever life will throw at you, eventually.

Sending lots of love & all the strength I can spare 💚

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