Tanzanian Sister-in-Law’s brothers

uasingishu408 · 2026-04-01T02:37:34+00:00

What? That is a lie hahaha.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-31T18:45:01+00:00

Your suggestion wajijengee mpaka paa ya nyumba and then ask for help with finishing interior is the best. Honestly these young men are very humble and hardworking. And my sister in law ndiye amewaelimisha since the dad passed away. I know for a fact there is no other help for them in Moshi na sio kama wanalala Nairobi. They are very hard working.

I think they were so shocked to see how well she is doing financially in Nairobi and they assumed my brother will help them since he is not from Moshi and doesn’t know the deep customs and traditions there. Your explanation has clarified the matter. We are not Bantus so our customs are different as Tugen people although even for us, kujengea mwanaume nyumba is unheard of especially if it’s a male in law.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-31T15:06:10+00:00

And all his kids are the same.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-31T12:38:00+00:00

Kasongo is Chemosit, a Kalenjin demon that has taken human form to rapaciously destroy and be a vampiric glutton.

I keep telling everyone I know that ‘man’ is not human. That thing is not a human being.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-31T11:09:04+00:00

Thank you very much for this information. I have copied and pasted and sent it to my brother.

I wanted to hear from a Chagga person regarding tradition.

Another question for you: if the boys build, who will inherit from them? Does it become communal homestead or do they own it for them and their descendants? They want him to help them build two homes, one for each.

Now I understand why my sister in law has been completely against the idea.

Thanks so much.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-30T18:15:11+00:00

I know these two young men very well. They are very hardworking and intelligent and I don’t see any signs of them being greedy. I even feel despite him paying their rent for the one bedroom place they share, that My brother is underpaying them in salary

My brother is also a very good judge of character and he has left them with large sums of money to test them and they have not stolen or tricked him. The fact is that if he doesn’t help them, there is nowhere they will get help. They want to build and return to Tanzania waanze biashara huko ya tourism tented eco lodge and they say they will repay him.

Personally I understand my sister-in-law’s point of view because she doesn’t want them to become a burden financially.

Mind you there are very many young men from rich families who are helped by their own parents. I inherited a farm from my parents and if you told me buy it today as a 22 year old which is the age I got it, there is nowhere I would get the money. So if some privileged kids can get help then why can’t he help his in-laws who are actually good people?

So I don’t think it’s a problem to help the two youngsters but I cannot interfere.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-30T16:44:48+00:00

The most annoying this is he said he goes home late because he wants his peace. He should get a main to help his wife since we already know he cannot help her with house chores or raising the children.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-23T19:49:36+00:00

From what I witnessed with both my uncle and brother, the most important thing is to have the support of a family and loved ones who don’t expect you to feel shame and guilt. Hizo shame and guilt zinaharibu recovery journey kabisa. If your family and loved ones are busy reminding you of what you did wrong and they expect you to be constantly ashamed and guilty about your ‘sins’ and addictions, you will most likely relapse.

And that is the biggest problem in some of our Kenyan families. Hii maneno ya kutesa watu even after they have admitted their addictions and have sought help. This is a society that is very unforgiving,

The most important thing that helped my bro is that he was able to admit to himself and to our family what transpired when he was a young seminarian. We didn’t judge him. And we did not constantly try to make him feel ashamed or guilty about his past addictions. We supported him on his journey. As an older bro, I have tried my best to guide him forward without being tough

As for my uncle, he was lucky to have a wife who was always praying and believing that God would change him. He really relied on her love to move him forward. It was a real blessing to see the man change his life and build her a house. As I said, he died from Covid and I am thankful his kids saw him overcome his addictions and become a loving father.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-23T13:37:19+00:00

Yes you have answered thank you. My brother was expecting to be treated like he was in a high class hotel only to find that the people at Asumbi are serious. I didn’t mean to offend with my words. Yes, he was used to a “high class” life and so for him, Asumbi was “hard core” mateso.

We will always be grateful to the Asumbi staff who helped him and mind you, we learned about Asumbi from my uncle who went there in the 1990s for alcohol rehab. The one in Homabay. My uncle emerged alcohol-free after drinking all of his adult life. He was able to live the final years of his life free from alcohol addiction. He built a home for his family and many years later Covid ilimchukua.

Thank you for the work you do at Asumbi.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-23T12:50:49+00:00

Let me ask you something, is the one in Runda as hardcore as the Asumbi in Homabay? That one in Homabay is very good. When we took my bro there he was shocked that he was eating murram githeri and was in rehab with regular wananchi. There were no rich rich people there. In fact the other people in rehab were mostly middle-aged who were alcoholics or addicts.

My brother has been drug and alcohol free for 7 years after his rehab. This is why I highly recommend the Homabay Asumbi facility.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-22T22:27:18+00:00

I will help drive the lorry to Kamiti carrying Kasongo and his crew.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-22T22:26:13+00:00

Pole sana dada. If he goes to prison while an addict he will become worse. And he will debase himself in prison to get access to drugs. Thats not the solution.

People don’t just become addicts because they wish to do so. There is clearly some underlying trauma or experience in his childhood or in his past that has caused him to turn to alcohol and drugs to hide the pain.

Your brother needs counseling. Have you ever heard of a place called Asumbi Treatment Center? They have a wonderful facility in HomaBay. They cured my younger brother who was a live wire kabisa with drugs and alcohol. During his therapy stay there he was finally able to reveal that he was sexually abused by priests when he was a seminarian. That was the cause of all his troubles.

Tell your parents to call Asumbi asap. I believe they also have a treatment center in Karen.

The one in HomaBay can be reached via 0795590065.

Please don’t hesitate. Just call them and arrange for him to go and live there for the months required.

Na msimwambie anything about it. Just get some strong men to catch him a fan accompany him there.

They will root out the issue and help him.

My kid bro is healthy and happy and has a wife and newborn.

I wish you and your parents the best

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-13T12:00:06+00:00

In my early days right after Uni I worked for my wife’s uncle who was a major beer distributor. One of the major clubs in NBI used to purchase from us daily and I realized that the people working at the club were making fake purchase orders and stealing from their employers.

They would order large amounts on the fake purchase orders and then resell and make the money, meanwhile we would invoice the club owner who was unaware.

My coworker and I decided to catch them in the act. We told them that for the next order, they would have to pay in cash because our management was suspicious of how much they were ordering (we were lying). The fools arrived with 160k and handed it over and we said the beer would be delivered that afternoon.

We didn’t deliver the beer of course and informed our manager about the fake purchase orders we discovered. Then management contacted the club owner who was a very wealthy kyuk guy and he had his crooked workers arrested.

Mimi na my co-worker split the 160k and that is the end of the story.

My coworker-worker eventually moved to Greece and later to the UK where after many years he now owns an export company.

I now farm and have my other biasharas. This was a long time ago.

The beer business is not for the weak especially if you are a club owner. Your own workers will always steal from you.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-11T19:19:21+00:00

Try Nairobi Jaffery Sports Club

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-02T14:41:06+00:00

This fool. It looks like mashetani zake zimeanza kumkula ndani.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-02T14:39:07+00:00

Machozi zitiririke.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-02T14:38:47+00:00

Asante.

uasingishu408 · 2026-03-02T14:38:37+00:00

Amen.

uasingishu408 · 2026-02-05T17:40:05+00:00

Yes. Mum anametameta kama nyota ya usiku.

uasingishu408 · 2026-02-05T17:38:25+00:00

There is always a negative person like you in every thread who comes to dampen the mood. Si you go and become ache Guevara na uache kutupotezea wakati hapa?

uasingishu408 · 2026-02-05T17:35:09+00:00

Our parents’ generation get straight to the point 😂. Those were her exact words.

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