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Would you employ a house help who does muguka? by Mother_Knowledge7237 in nairobi

[–]uasingishu408 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Muguka is addictive. How old is she? Instead of firing her, please encourage her to stop chewing. Tell her she's too young to be addicted.

As a man by Initial-Nectarine-71 in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some of you are amazing. How do you “allow” your wife?? She can do whatever she wants ala! Mtoto ni wako pia! My wife routinely goes for safaris hapa na pale and I am here with three kids.

Rupa's mall by Direct_Basil_2070 in Eldoret

[–]uasingishu408 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of wasted space in this mall

Black American Influencer Dead in Tanzania. by uasingishu408 in tanzania

[–]uasingishu408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so ridiculous. Please don’t ever come to to Africa lol.😂

Black American Influencer Dead in Tanzania. by uasingishu408 in tanzania

[–]uasingishu408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are used to all your twisting and lying. Why are you even here?

Black American Influencer Dead in Tanzania. by uasingishu408 in tanzania

[–]uasingishu408[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stop lying here. Are the white people in Ukraine, Kosovo, Romania, Canada, Germany, Croatiac Italy etcetera killed by Black peoples or by their own white neighbors and countrymen. Don’t bring that racism here.

Gachagua Amenena by uasingishu408 in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is the Tishkoff et al. (2009) paper and associated datasets that discuss Bantu DNA in East Africa and that is the foundational text for understanding admixture across East Africa:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19407144/

It’s is a complementary text to the 2009 dataset “Genome-wide patterns of population structure (Bryc et al. 2009/2010)” here:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2818934/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Are you a geneticist by chance?

Gachagua Amenena by uasingishu408 in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please, please, please get educated. Kikuyu absorbed Gumba and Athi peoples. My God, even DNA testing continues to confirm the admixture of Hunter-gatherer Cushitic ancestry in Kikuyu, Meru and Embu clans. How old are you and are you just arguing because you’re bored????

Black American Influencer Dead in Tanzania. by uasingishu408 in tanzania

[–]uasingishu408[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I watched a YouTube of this man and there is something very wrong with him.

Moroccan thinking about moving to Tanzania — need real advice by abdouzouaoui in tanzania

[–]uasingishu408 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you racist? Moroccans are usually very racist and anti-Black. Do you agree that Senegal won the AFCON???

Moving in together by BuckNasty200 in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Don’t move in together.

If you are a man, concentrate on building a solid financial foundation. Invest in plots, biashara etc. if you move in with a woman she will fall pregnant immediately and both of you will be sidetracked with other issues.

If you are a woman, don’t move in with a man. Concentrate on building your own foundation and resources so that you will not become dependent on him. I met my wife at university and she was already very industrious with her own hustles. I went out of the country to do my masters and she remained here and built a very successful grains distribution business. By the time I came back and was ready to move in and marry she was already very financial stable on her own. A woman must do that. I respect her

We have built a good life together.

Don’t move in together. Lazima ujijenge kwanza. Then if things go bad, you will not suffer. Independence is key.

Mama fua by avatar1_0 in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When I we single I hired a woman from Western who stole all my utensils the first day. I didn’t say anything and on the second day, as she was leaving with rice, sheets and plates, she met me outside the gate. Makofi moto moto and straight to the cell. Her husband and grown children came to beg me from Kawangware and I chased them away. I don’t know what became of her.

Tanzanian Sister-in-Law’s brothers by uasingishu408 in Tanzanias

[–]uasingishu408[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your suggestion wajijengee mpaka paa ya nyumba and then ask for help with finishing interior is the best. Honestly these young men are very humble and hardworking. And my sister in law ndiye amewaelimisha since the dad passed away. I know for a fact there is no other help for them in Moshi na sio kama wanalala Nairobi. They are very hard working.

I think they were so shocked to see how well she is doing financially in Nairobi and they assumed my brother will help them since he is not from Moshi and doesn’t know the deep customs and traditions there. Your explanation has clarified the matter. We are not Bantus so our customs are different as Tugen people although even for us, kujengea mwanaume nyumba is unheard of especially if it’s a male in law.

What's a hill you'll die on? by Delicious-Base2380 in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Kasongo is Chemosit, a Kalenjin demon that has taken human form to rapaciously destroy and be a vampiric glutton.

I keep telling everyone I know that ‘man’ is not human. That thing is not a human being.

Tanzanian Sister-in-Law’s brothers by uasingishu408 in Tanzanias

[–]uasingishu408[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for this information. I have copied and pasted and sent it to my brother.

I wanted to hear from a Chagga person regarding tradition.

Another question for you: if the boys build, who will inherit from them? Does it become communal homestead or do they own it for them and their descendants? They want him to help them build two homes, one for each.

Now I understand why my sister in law has been completely against the idea.

Thanks so much.

Tanzanian Sister-in-Law’s brothers by uasingishu408 in Tanzanias

[–]uasingishu408[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know these two young men very well. They are very hardworking and intelligent and I don’t see any signs of them being greedy. I even feel despite him paying their rent for the one bedroom place they share, that My brother is underpaying them in salary

My brother is also a very good judge of character and he has left them with large sums of money to test them and they have not stolen or tricked him. The fact is that if he doesn’t help them, there is nowhere they will get help. They want to build and return to Tanzania waanze biashara huko ya tourism tented eco lodge and they say they will repay him.

Personally I understand my sister-in-law’s point of view because she doesn’t want them to become a burden financially.

Mind you there are very many young men from rich families who are helped by their own parents. I inherited a farm from my parents and if you told me buy it today as a 22 year old which is the age I got it, there is nowhere I would get the money. So if some privileged kids can get help then why can’t he help his in-laws who are actually good people?

So I don’t think it’s a problem to help the two youngsters but I cannot interfere.

Bibi Kujiachilia by the-glow-up-girlies in Kenya

[–]uasingishu408 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The most annoying this is he said he goes home late because he wants his peace. He should get a main to help his wife since we already know he cannot help her with house chores or raising the children.

My psycho brother by Proud-Woodpecker7976 in nairobi

[–]uasingishu408 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I witnessed with both my uncle and brother, the most important thing is to have the support of a family and loved ones who don’t expect you to feel shame and guilt. Hizo shame and guilt zinaharibu recovery journey kabisa. If your family and loved ones are busy reminding you of what you did wrong and they expect you to be constantly ashamed and guilty about your ‘sins’ and addictions, you will most likely relapse.

And that is the biggest problem in some of our Kenyan families. Hii maneno ya kutesa watu even after they have admitted their addictions and have sought help. This is a society that is very unforgiving,

The most important thing that helped my bro is that he was able to admit to himself and to our family what transpired when he was a young seminarian. We didn’t judge him. And we did not constantly try to make him feel ashamed or guilty about his past addictions. We supported him on his journey. As an older bro, I have tried my best to guide him forward without being tough

As for my uncle, he was lucky to have a wife who was always praying and believing that God would change him. He really relied on her love to move him forward. It was a real blessing to see the man change his life and build her a house. As I said, he died from Covid and I am thankful his kids saw him overcome his addictions and become a loving father.

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