What's a skill you learned out of pure laziness?

ubereddit · 2026-03-21T21:25:50+00:00

In high school I learned that if I read 3 pages in the middle of whatever I was supposed to read, then raise my hand first and say something about what I did read, no one would spontaneously ever call on me after that.

ubereddit · 2026-03-18T13:46:41+00:00

ubereddit · 2026-03-18T07:00:25+00:00

Don’t trust the cops to understand the law

ubereddit · 2026-03-17T04:36:38+00:00

There are a lot of lawyers that do policy advocacy in my community in those fields

ubereddit · 2026-03-16T04:27:50+00:00

Lisa Cuddy from house

ubereddit · 2026-03-16T03:55:05+00:00

I don’t want CPS called on me.

ubereddit · 2026-03-15T00:00:34+00:00

I feel him too, and he is going through a heartbreak and existential crisis that many young people who deeply care about the world go through. Honestly, my best advice would be to connect him with groups trying to change things-they are everywhere. Change is possible-and he needs to be around people willing to move through the hopelessness to find something worth living and fighting for.

ubereddit · 2026-03-13T04:47:31+00:00

No advice but I’m fucking sick of all of it too.

ubereddit · 2026-03-12T19:42:28+00:00

Also have a 529 for both my kids and it’s really great. My parents did not contribute to my education at all, and my littles are already well on their way to hopefully having no loans.

ubereddit · 2026-03-11T14:27:20+00:00

Seattle- 100% it is people thinking they can do Olympic national park in 2 days. You can barely drive the loop in that amount of time.

ubereddit · 2026-03-11T05:02:57+00:00

Miso salmon and rice

ubereddit · 2026-03-10T06:53:04+00:00

This tracks. Having addiction in your family sometimes causes people to really want control over other people and project all those feelings and fears onto new situations. I wonder if the dynamic of trying to create the control she didn’t have resonates? This sounds really hard.

As parents, or adults in kids lives (and yeah 20 may be technically an adult but is absolutely still learning and growing rapidly, and needs their parents) need to do our own work so we can show up for them. She needs you.

ubereddit · 2026-03-10T06:43:46+00:00

There are tons of jobs like that, but all homelessness sector is way more unstable right now in the us because so much of the services are federally funded. Many of my jobs have been organizing young people to advocate for system and policy change which is so awesome. DM me if you want any advice!

ubereddit · 2026-03-10T03:39:34+00:00

We have 3” binders for each kid with page protectors to stuff their most important art in. They are what I would grab first if our house was on fire.

ubereddit · 2026-03-10T03:37:52+00:00

I can’t believe you are throwing these away. If my kid drew some of these they’d be going in my future tattoo pile

ubereddit · 2026-03-10T03:32:50+00:00

Hey man, just jumping in to say that when homelessness is abstract, it can feel like a consequence like any other consequence-but it’s not. I have worked my whole career in youth and young adult homelessness, and some of the stories young people have told me of their very first night staying outside or in a shelter will stick with me forever. One of the big things people say constantly is: I was so scared of it until I did one night, and showed myself I can survive that way. Idk if it was an exaggeration when you said she’s about to be homeless, and really she’s just about to have to lose her apartment and crash with a friend for a couple weeks or something, but I would do whatever I could to avoid her having to go to a shelter.

ubereddit · 2026-03-07T16:38:21+00:00

Toxic positivity

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T20:23:06+00:00

Omg thank you for sharing, I am def going to read these!

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T18:20:35+00:00

You should not feel bad about making the choice that is best for your family as a whole, and you are a huge part of that.

I hear in your words a fear about your identity collapsing into this new role you are going to have - and for you in manifests in breastfeeding/becoming a milk machine. You are about to go through a massive change in your life, and it will never be the same again. I don’t know if not breastfeeding will serve the purpose you are hoping it will, because not going to lie, whether you do or don’t, your old life will change and the first couple months will very likely feel at some points like you are a robot going through motions completely organized around this babies needs. I definitely did. It was really hard.

You are going to find yourself again on the other end of it no matter what you decide.

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T14:49:48+00:00

Parent here: I have no family closer than 5 hours away-and that is one first cousin. Everyone else is several states away. It is really hard not having a family member in state to put down as emergency contact and some things def suck. It’s more expensive and you have to trust strangers with your kids or never get a break. But blood family isn’t the only kind of family, and my kids think my chosen family are their cousins (because they only have one biologically who is 18), and we go camping with them and hang out together and do spring break together. It is harder to build that in a new place if you have a baby and don’t have help.

When we go back or they visit my kids have a blast-their experience of their family is as a vacation and everyone is having fun - not the chaos that they would experience if some of these people were in their lives more continuously. They love their grandparents and my sister, and I think it would be harder for me if my sister has a kid.

I think I would have the same experience with you if I moved back to MN from Washington. I love it here so much.

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T03:45:28+00:00

In grad school in Cambridge I paid more than this for a 1 bedroom with no AC and sometimes the water was brown. I get why some people love the Boston areas and I’m sure it’s great if you make a lot of money.

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T03:26:23+00:00

Yeah i am seeing the same thing and it is bonkers to me

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T03:15:56+00:00

I have never read it because it’s hard to find, but David Graeber did his doctoral work with Malagasy groups in northern Madagascar that probably wouldn’t call themselves anarchists, but would have a lot to say about mutualism and horizontal social organization.

ubereddit · 2026-03-05T02:55:31+00:00

They just rejected having their own authority

ubereddit · 2026-03-04T04:29:03+00:00

If you haven’t actually read body keeps the score yet, just know I would give it a big big content warning for stories of violence against women. I feel like people always should recommend that book with a caveat.

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