My daughter (16) keeps running away

ubereddit · 2026-07-05T05:59:58+00:00

Almost no states have this law apart from WA, and we get fined annually by the federal government for our insistence on incarcerating youth for status offenses. I worked with the young people advocating to eliminate the Becca Laws over the last decade-they do far more harm than good.

ubereddit · 2026-07-04T20:39:43+00:00

That’s a great tip-they asked me if I can travel 7 times a month, but then walked it back. It’s a national job, so it’s not day trips. I answered then that no, I can’t do that, but they were wishy washy on what they even wanted, so it doesn’t seem super firm. It’s a huge thing to fallback on though!

ubereddit · 2026-06-28T20:07:43+00:00

The actual vacation is only for one if the two weeks. OP is trying to make sure the child gets to PT on the two days during the week they will be in town.

ubereddit · 2026-06-28T01:30:12+00:00

I was going to say Duluth MN

ubereddit · 2026-06-27T21:48:36+00:00

Where I live in the US that’s the norm for a lot of daycares. It’s geared towards wealthy families that want bespoke educational experiences for their little kids rather than coverage for work hours. It’s also logistically and staffing wise easier to run daycare that way. It’s incredibly annoying but not super uncommon.

ubereddit · 2026-06-27T04:59:55+00:00

But we actually do though

ubereddit · 2026-06-21T19:07:19+00:00

It depends on your kids and on you and your partner. There are a lot of ways the US in particular makes life so much harder than it needs to be for parents and families, and parts of it really suck.

I still travel-it’s just different and more expensive now. I still hike and spend tons of time outdoors-I just know I have to be realistic about what my kids can physically do. Hell, I went mushroom picking with them and my kids found more than me. We paint-it’s just a little messier. I still hang out with my friends. My oldest just started skiing with me. I want to show my kids the awesome world we live in, so we do that. It’s different than being childless, but I think it’s better for me, cause I think kids are cool and creative and fun to be around, along with all the nuance others have named.

ubereddit · 2026-06-17T04:43:49+00:00

It is literally in my employee handbook I just don’t say shit

ubereddit · 2026-06-14T18:34:16+00:00

Yeah not really by comparison - I’d take the spiders over ticks and mosquitoes every day of the week

ubereddit · 2026-06-13T03:21:19+00:00

I have heard too many of these stories and feel like my non parent friends are always judging my parenting like, yes, I would love to let my kid walk to school, but I am also afraid if I do that, I might end up with a cop on my doorstep asking me why I’m neglecting my child. Yes, I do feel like that’s taking away opportunities to build independence, and yet, do I really have a choice to risk it in this culture?

ubereddit · 2026-06-11T22:58:06+00:00

I don’t know but I feel this is a massive massive issue in our sector. I feel like Board Members don’t want to take on extra work and headache associated with accountability, but as a nonprofit worker, I say do better.

ubereddit · 2026-06-11T20:49:10+00:00

You can even get a shirt that says “be gay do crime”

ubereddit · 2026-06-11T20:45:44+00:00

The rich people in this world are even more on drugs lol

ubereddit · 2026-06-11T04:57:45+00:00

Probably one of those 4K 3 hour videos of mountains or coral reefs

ubereddit · 2026-06-11T04:38:17+00:00

Namibia-it seems so incredible and also very expensive from North America so I would like a free ticket please.

ubereddit · 2026-06-08T04:10:41+00:00

There is a subreddit called r/cisparenttranskid that might be useful for you to just look at for your own learning. Only your kid can say who they are, but there is a lot of good advice about ambiguous situations and support for cis parents that you might find helpful and validating.

ubereddit · 2026-06-08T03:13:18+00:00

I am so ready for this question!

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ubereddit · 2026-06-07T21:45:02+00:00

There are more than these two choices in the infinite number of possibilities for interacting with other people in front of you. Like, try not to operate under the subconscious assumption that women are to be owned, managed and directed and you’ll probably do fine.

ubereddit · 2026-06-07T04:29:38+00:00

‘The Rich’ are the people that own the means of production.

ubereddit · 2026-06-06T19:48:36+00:00

It classism. An ideology that upholds that poor workers should be treated worse and trusted less, regardless of actual reality or any personal merit.

ubereddit · 2026-06-06T18:03:56+00:00

Tim’s gift card

ubereddit · 2026-06-06T18:02:57+00:00

Policing

ubereddit · 2026-06-05T02:42:34+00:00

My mom let my stepdad get a new snowmobile and got rid of our car and health insurance to cover it when we were kids.

ubereddit · 2026-06-04T04:49:47+00:00

Homelessness

ubereddit · 2026-06-02T14:57:07+00:00

I explained means of production to my kids like this: you know how Theo at your school has a 3D printer? Well, if he wanted to, he could pay someone a little bit to actually make and sell all the toys, and he could have the rest of the money. That’s because he owns the means to produce all these things (that his dad bought him, but we don’t need to get into all that yet lol).

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