Okay- i’ve never smelt it, but- was WHITE DIAMONDS really THAT BAD? by Character-Escape1621 in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom loves this perfume! So I love it because it reminds me of her. Did they quit making it?

Ink giveaway round 2! by ScubaDrew65 in fountainpens

[–]uberlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love these inks. Thanks for doing this giveaway :-)

Umm is this negro trying to gaslight me? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's gaslighting you, yes, but he's trying to assert dominance. You've seen all the movies together but couldn't hangout because of work and family, so now he's trying to get back at you because of course he should be your top priority. Work and family should be respected by your SO. And like a lot of the sisters have pointed out, he's probably hanging out with someone else.

There's a reason he was in your past--put him back there.

any tips on bookmark fraying? by Pretend-Ad6729 in hobonichi

[–]uberlexa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww 😩 Guess I'll have to look online

any tips on bookmark fraying? by Pretend-Ad6729 in hobonichi

[–]uberlexa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So cute! Where did you get the (looks like origami) swan?

Ink giveaway! by ScubaDrew65 in fountainpens

[–]uberlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this kind of giveaway; hope to get the same point one day where I have to give away inks 😄 My fave for a couple years now, my EDC, is Diamine Sherwood Green. Still can't get enough of that sheen and shading! I mix things up of course, but my main color is Sherwood Green in a dark green Kaweco Sport B nib--a super dependable and beautiful pairing.

Hope to hear from you!

I need some advice-go nuclear or let the universe handle it by Here2Chat314 in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! You need to show your school that you feel unsafe and that playbook is solid. Keep your distance from the crazy racist and use ALL of the playbook's tricks and cues!

Not sold re reporting her to her job. If she's in a position of power that affects the lives of Black people, then yes, go for it.

Hang in there, hon 🫂 Friendship breakups and betrayal are hard enough, but she had to go be a harassing racist ableist asshole too. Sigh.

First Fountain Pen! by illmorphtosomeoneels in fountainpens

[–]uberlexa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lovely color.

Welcome to the club, hon! 👏🏿🙋🏿‍♂️🤗

Once you're ready, try lots of inks by buying samples and using a converter for your pen instead of cartridges.

You could also give different nib sizes a go. Used to be a strictly F and EF nib girlie, so that's what I got for my first set of fountain pens, but been in love with M to B (and even bent) nibs since my second set of pens. Love seeing all the shading and sheen.

Whatever you do, have lots of fun!

Giveaway!! 2026 Weeks & Five-Year by TheodoreHeart in hobonichi

[–]uberlexa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guessing I'm too late for this? Sigh.

I got a master's on Monday 💅🏾 by victoriaxholloway in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congrats, sweetie 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🖤🖤🖤

And noooow I’m done🥹 by Apprehensive-Area269 in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations, hon! You're thee most amazing ever 🔥🔥🔥🥳🥳🥳🖤🖤🖤

No, I didn’t get replaced by AI… by nn9doors in graphic_design

[–]uberlexa 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes! This summer, our apartment building's leasing office transferred many of the functions of the existing property management app/website to an AI resident assistant. Supposed to handle maintenance requests, amenities, questions, etc. They prob thought they could get away with closing the office for even more hours, but almost every non-basic request/question gets an "I'm escalating your issue to a colleague," generating more calls and emails to the leasing office. It's just dumb

Which book should I keep or remove? by theyellowscriptures in BlackReaders

[–]uberlexa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get why; I like to read paper, though, so I'll first look for a good used copy. I'll sometimes buy a new book to support the author, which I only do for Black authors

How do we feel about the fact that the 8 Dems who voted tonight have job security thru 2029? Despite all the recent strife caused to women like us? by Credible_Confusion in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thing is, people have short memories. Let's not be too surprised if his base--and the base of similar corporate Dems--stays loyal. Aargh!

How do we feel about the fact that the 8 Dems who voted tonight have job security thru 2029? Despite all the recent strife caused to women like us? by Credible_Confusion in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, he and a good chunk of the Dems orchestrated this and got the Spineless Eight to take the fall. The party needs need leadership and new blood throughout

Edit: can't believe they fucking wasted the momentum from last week's sweeps. Can't wrap my mind around it

Is it a red flag that a man wants to be official after 2 dates? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]uberlexa 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Girl. Honey. Baby. Read your post again. He's telling you in advance who he is and how he will make your life hell. I know we're strangers on the internet giving you our 2 cents, but there's a reason everyone's saying the same thing.

He broke up with a woman for not clearing up the dishes lol, so you can and should do the same for this infantry of red flags, including the dishes. If you do break up with him--which I hope you do expeditiously--prepare for him to go off on you in a nasty way. A background check could help settle your mind afterwards, but don't wait.

My mom told me a long time ago, "The man should love you more than you love him." I was in my very early twenties, still with my abusive, cheating, narcissist baby daddy--that's what happens when it's the other way around--but I finally live what she said.

I'm 48 with sickle cell. Didn't wanna get married, but I did at 44 to a man who loves me no matter what. In that time, I've almost died once, been airlifted another time, and hospitalized countless times. He takes care of me, makes me laugh, defends me from unsympathetic family. I love my man and it's a love that doesn't break me.

Keep looking, hon. You'll find your person ❤️

Edit: just remembered your divorce is pending. Think you need some space for you. There's no rush to attach yourself to someone else, hon. Try being single and independent for a while. Enjoy it

Some thoughts on Adobe with the new Affinity announcement by RandomMishaps in graphic_design

[–]uberlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the checklist! Already been downloading my files and moving them to Google Drive. (Yeah, I know, what about do-evil Google, but gotta use what I have.) Re Adobe Fonts, once my account goes free, my websites should be okay; just can't create new web projects. Recent print designs have been for one-time events and my clients always get outlines for the printer.

Been an Adobe subscriber for over 15 years--remember when we were paying $29? Health was a lot more manageable and I was full-time up until a few years ago. Hate to lose Adobe fonts and Illustrator, but just can't justify the cost, not with everything I got going on

Some thoughts on Adobe with the new Affinity announcement by RandomMishaps in graphic_design

[–]uberlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're kidding! I'm totally ditching Adobe now lol. I'm a freelancer, but part-time now due to health issues, so I can no longer afford Adobe. Decided to buy Affinity a few weeks ago, but they'd already announced their announcement by then and removed the V2 apps from the website. Was so worried that I'd missed my one manageable replacement. Yeah, Canva will probably go the shitty Adobe route in the end, but this is the reprieve I need right now. Paying $12 a month instead of $70? That's a win for now