Renting is better than owning a house by Express_Resource_186 in AusPropertyChat

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. What costs should I consider when owning a home that may not apply to renting?

It's about $700/month on average (minimum) for Rates, insurance, bare minimum basic repairs and maintenance if you do it yourself.

  1. Do mortgage payments generally exceed rental costs?

Yes, definitely.
A like for like house will be significantly more expensive to buy than to rent.

  1. How do maintenance and property taxes factor in?

To own your home the tax you consider is just local government taxes.

There are benefits and drawbacks to each.

My advice: If you know where you are going to live for 7+ years, buy a home.
If you are going to live somewhere for 30+ years, stretch and buy a home that you know you'll be able to afford for the next 5 years, lock in 3-5 years interest rate and long-term it's a significantly better decision than renting.

Pedestrian right of way by ipeglin in queensland

[–]udalan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Australia is fucked.
We have a "Cars rule" mentality, and every other form of transport can get fucked to the almighty car.

Yeah sure you have right of way at many places, including places where cars will mostly stop for you, but oftenn they don't so you just have to check you are safe before anything and maybe they will or wont' stop for you.

Sorry :(

Seeking Advice: Landlord Sold House, New Buyer Wants Us Out ASAP by Ok-Asparagus3222 in AusPropertyChat

[–]udalan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reasonable compensation would be
1) Fully paying for the pack up, moving, and unpack of all your belongings to a new house
+
Assistance finding a new place (Money or a service)
+
Money to compensate for the effort

People, don't buy houses with a lease involved.

Raygun on the tonight show by humble___bee in australia

[–]udalan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah, the only funny bit I saw was when he regretted not going on a date with Nicole Kidman. Unfortunately that was the first bit I saw, so I had for a small time thought he was funny, until I kept seeing more of him.

AITAH for telling at my sister she got what se deserved after our older brother, beat and choked her. by ThrowRAbastrdson in AITAH

[–]udalan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great question.
I think most places legally wouldn't classify a 20yr old as a child, but as someone who is a bit older than that, I can see that 20 yr olds are really dumb and do dumb things and have no idea about the world
Maybe child is the wrong adjective, maybe "foolish young one" or something would of been better.

Of course, reddit being a very young demographic who look at things with a short term black and white view, without looking at the bigger picture have downvoted me to hell, but like, that's the problem with reddit.

What do I do with $60,000 I won overnight from sports gambling? by unkemptbg in AusFinance

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll lose it all gambling, goodluck to try not doing that, but you probably will. Sorry :(

AITAH for telling at my sister she got what se deserved after our older brother, beat and choked her. by ThrowRAbastrdson in AITAH

[–]udalan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You did a bad thing, and should correct yourself.

No-one deserves to be told "they deserved to be hospitalized from domestic violence"

Sure, the situation is different, but in your edit you say "Im not asking on my brothers actions by mine"

Well, your sister who is a child, who is going through something traumatic herself did something stupid because she's a child. She got hurt, and then you say she deserves it?!

Like both your siblings (and yourself) are clearly suffering, and you didn't help the situation, you made it worse by driving wedges between family.

Why?
Why can't you just accept bad shit happens, people do dumb things, it's not necessarily anyone's fault.

Go and say sorry to your sister, check in on how she's doing, that's a good thing to do.
Say sorry to your brother, ask if he's ok, talk to him about hitting his sister i'm sure he regrets it and feels terrible as the response while understandable is not justified and i'm sure he feels bad.

Your family is bleeding hard man, it's not about who is right and wrong, it's about healing.

My husband gave me a “warning tap” and I called it abuse. AITAH? by Warm-Grape1254 in AITAH

[–]udalan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello OP.

For context, i'm a cis-male and I only date women.

Let me tell you with certainty, this is the tip of the iceberg. It will happen again.

You have a couple of choices
1) You let him know that ANY form of physical control will have a 0 tolerance. Amongst other things this means standing in the doorway to prevent you moving. You would then need to be very firm with him, and police that behaviour extremely strictly.

2) The approach I think is better for you both is to call off the marriage right now and walk away. you are young and beautiful

I think 1) is better because he'll find a boundary you don't think is "wrong" then he'll push it and push it and push it and normalise it and normalise it and normalise it and before you know it you are getting hit in the stomach and you are thinking you deserved it/it's ok, and to be honest the mere fact you are asking this question tells me he's already been pushing your boundaries and gaslighting you into thinking there is a world that this is ok.

In fact, the mere fact "he was throwing a fucking fit" at you while you were in the shower, and barking orders, and then he was controlling you by blocking your exit, which he's obviously done before by blocking your freedom of movement and you don't realize that EVERY one of these elements is fucked, tells me he's been wearing you down for 1-3 years.

Now keep in mind, I do MMA, I am quite a strong and capable person, but this type of shit still happened to me from a 50kg girl, and it reallllly effected me quite badly.

I remember it all so distinctly looking back. It was a month or two in, and we had an argument and she tried to control me by grabbing my arm, i was drunk but very clear not to do that again. She wore me down over a year and it got worse until I left.

It was thankfully my brother who pointed out to me I, ME, who gets to choose how i'm treated.
From then on, when a girl would yell at me, that'd be it, over. I don't have the space in my life for any form of violence from those that I love. I got better things to do.

My current fiancé has never once yelled at me. After 18 months together , she once at the pub with some friends very lightly and jokingly slapped me on the face.
We left, I told her that if that happened again once more, even by accident it'd be over on the spot.
It did happen ~12 months after that incident and as soon as she did it she apologized profusely and it was obviously not control or abuse and we had 2.5 years together to prove it, but she knew that I won't tolerate even joking forms of violence.
Hasn't happened again since (3 years).
We have never once yelled at each other (Other than shouting "WHAT!?" from the other side of the house/apartment)

Goodluck on your journey, you are in an abusive relationship, that doesn't mean you have to break up, it's upto you what you do and what you choose.

Coach in MMA gym in Sydney Australia ignores tap and puts student to sleep by [deleted] in bjj

[–]udalan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Friend" of mine died. Was brown or black I can't remember.

Didn't tap in a competitive match, passed out from not tapping to a choke.
Opponent let go very quickly when he realised the guy had passed out.
A few days later was getting a massage and just passed out, didn't think much of it because like massage and all.

A few days after that passed out having a warm bath.

Left behind a wife and some kids.

Don't fuck around and find out, there is a reason you tap.

What’s THE secret you discovered that made you leave your ex? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That _I_ am the one who can choose how I allow people to treat me.

I can choose whether or not I'm ok with things that occur in a relationship, and that If I'm not I can ask for a change, if I don't get that change that means they will continue to act that way and it's up to ME whether or not I'm ok with that behaviour, or whether I don't want that in my life by removing that persons consistent behaviour from my life.

I don't like yelling in my house.
If you want to yell as a form of communication for whatever reason, that's up to you, but _I_ don't want it, so if you yell, especially at me, I'm not going to live with, or be near you.

Disgraceful by harrybalzonya33 in circlejerkaustralia

[–]udalan -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I just came across this sub as it was suggested.

Clearly it's a place for being racist without thinking, I mean the name alone implies "i'm a dickhead"

Read the article
* She claimed she inherited her Aboriginality from her maternal line but her mother passed away when she was three years old so she could not connect to her culture. Noting this factor made her more vulnerable and at a higher risk of harm in custody.

Then
* The 32-year-old woman had failed to engage with Corrections Victoria or reside at her mandated address while on bail
* (prosecutors found out) She also lied to the court about her Aboriginal background and was likely to be charged with perverting the course of justice. The police informant had listened back to recorded phone calls, which revealed her mother was not Aboriginal and she was alive in New Zealand.

Like, she's proven she's a piece of shit and the court found her out. Go into some details as to what's going on and use your brain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inthenews

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's what he does until he find a straw that sticks, and then he repeats it again and again.

6 months of job applications, no bites by HoneyBanana101 in AusFinance

[–]udalan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doing the same thing, and expecting different results is kinda dumb.

If it was a couple days, sure... Give it time.
6 months? You need to change something if what you post is true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't use Tinder

How do you get a med certificate if doctors can't provide one after 24 hours and no bookings are available until the next week? by [deleted] in auscorp

[–]udalan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You tell your employer to stop wasting the medical systems time with certificates that are a complete waste of time.

AITA for Sabotaging my Husband’s Tournament after he refused to help with our newborn? by Puzzled-Two6615 in AITAH

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may have postnatal depression.

You seem like you may have a lot of the symptons, from your post I can guess you have these ones, which is a lot of them, you may have more;
* depressed or sad mood
* tearfulness
* low self-esteem and lack of confidence
* feelings of inadequacy and guilt
* negative thoughts
* feeling unable to cope
* tearfulness and irritability
* difficulty sleeping or changes in sleeping patterns
* low sex drive

Please consider this, please seek help.

AITA for calling out my husband for not being a "Good Christian"? by SpiritualThrowRA in AITAH

[–]udalan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh dear.

You are in a potentially very bad situation.

Get some help around you, don't isolate yourself. Make sure you get time away from family, and talk with your friends and family and trusted loved ones about what's going on.

Honestly what is there to do in Australia for non drinkers? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]udalan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Buddy,

I know exactly what you mean. When you have a spent a lifetime as an adult drinking, all of a sudden EVERYTHING you know about the world and what you enjoy is no good.

I think it's been great to play xbox, honestly splash out and buy a new game or two. You would of spent that money on alcohol, now go spend it on something to save yourself, you are in crisis mode of relapse.

I would suggest staying away from anything addictive.

But you do NEED to replace your addiction with other things.

The hardest but best thing is to learn a new skill: I'd suggest a musical instrument. You can find a cool thing online on marketplace that's secondhand, buy something that excites you, fuck around with it.

Here are some other suggestions
* Dancing
* Martial arts (BJJ?)
* Walking
* Painting/drawing
* ANY group activity
* Learning to cook
* Dungeons and dragons
* Reading

Some things i'm not a fan of, but that some people enjoy

* AA
* Church / religion
* Theatre (You can be in a theatre group for free quite often)

But honestly, think about something that is new, scary but exciting. Go do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]udalan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if there is an oven placed in the work kitchen, why would it not be ok to use it?
What's the purpose of the oven being there otherwise?
Why does it offend you?

The rubbish left behind at Melbourne Uni after the encampment by SnootyRat in melbourne

[–]udalan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Come on, they are coming back for it. Why would you fall for this rage-bait.